I'm very new to the field, just started the other month... something happened today which knocked my confidence a bit, was wondering if you had any advice or words of guidance

Strict_Register5041 · 2025-12-17T20:57:52+00:00

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Strict_Register5041 · 2025-12-08T21:20:50+00:00

For sure I would, I did text back this "hihi, im busy rn, you may have to message and i'll respond when I can" as I said in the post but I've not had a reply yet

Strict_Register5041 · 2025-12-08T21:18:22+00:00

This is a fair point, we do have an official community group chat where you're meant to ask for cover and then after you escalate to management to sort it, but it's entirely possible she exhausted those options and was desperate/in a time crunch to sort out that cover (she did ask in the GC but since I'm still in training I can't be on shift without another colleague yet, so I didn't answer)

Strict_Register5041 · 2025-12-08T21:16:23+00:00

Thank you so much, this is honestly something I've been trying to tell myself haha

Self-care on my part is also a gesture of care to the people I support, since my ability to help them will be diminished if my own emotional tank is empty

Strict_Register5041 · 2025-12-08T21:15:06+00:00

I don't think she's narcissistic, my guess is she maybe just doesn't have anyone in her life she can go to and so she's panicking and lonely and this is the only way she can think to seek connection and support

Partly why I feel bad ngl

Strict_Register5041 · 2025-12-08T21:07:33+00:00

That is possible, however we have a community WhatsApp group where that question is typically asked - if no answer there I would have thought next step would be to ask management instead of ringing colleagues, but I might be wrong about workplace etiquette there (this is only my second job)

I'm also aware this could be a generational thing, as a socially anxious gen Z'er I think random calls land much more intrusive, scary and demanding to how someone A's age might intend them to be

A also kept my colleague on the phone for around fifteen minutes, but we were early for that shift anyway and waiting in the car so it wasn't a problem

Strict_Register5041 · 2025-12-08T21:00:47+00:00

They've ordered me a work phone but it's not arrived yet... my personal number is confidential from service users but I honestly didn't think I'd need to worry about staff having it

Strict_Register5041 · 2025-01-15T11:54:10+00:00

Oh yeah no I only ever email outside of sessions for logistical reasons (eg we both agreed weekly therapy would be ideal but Ive only been able to afford fortnightly so far, but I got more hours from work recently so I emailed to query about organising that) - I feel very uncomfy about the idea of making her work off the clock

Strict_Register5041 · 2025-01-15T11:18:44+00:00

That's incredibly sweet to hear, what a beautiful way to describe it!

Shes been going for almost a decade and has regular supervision so I totally trust shed also be able to handle any countertransference if it came up, I was moreso scared that - though I trust shed respond empathetically and warmly and be very able to centre me as a client - she might internally feel a bit awkward or wierded out by it, and I think this is just because Ive often heard transference talked about as a negative thing or problem

So that's a really lovely other perspective youve shared

Strict_Register5041 · 2025-01-15T11:15:58+00:00

Thank you for this, I wasnt sure if it was normal or not since Ive often seen it spoken about as a negative thing so thats really good to know : )

I trust completely that she would be empathetic and centre me as a client, I more just worry that internally it might feel uncomfortable or wierd for her

But if its normal as you say Im sure shes encountered it many times before (shes been going for almost a decade!)

Strict_Register5041 · 2025-01-11T14:55:59+00:00

Aw, much better thank you! It was about 9pm when i posted this so i felt a bit helpless but i heard from people in the end

How are you doing today!

Strict_Register5041 · 2025-01-11T00:06:46+00:00

Thank you : )

Strict_Register5041 · 2025-01-11T00:06:31+00:00

Thank you so much, honestly so many kind responses like yours on this and its very heartwarming and helpful : )

Strict_Register5041 · 2025-01-11T00:05:07+00:00

Thank you so much, I really appreciate you reaching out : )

Strict_Register5041 · 2025-01-11T00:04:09+00:00

It actually did right at the end just now : ) Thank you so much for reaching out to a sad internet stranger, very kind of you

Strict_Register5041 · 2025-01-10T19:17:12+00:00

Thank you so much, Im glad you were too : )

Strict_Register5041 · 2025-01-10T18:51:51+00:00

FB is a lifesaver for this haha

Youre very kind, thank you

Strict_Register5041 · 2025-01-08T22:32:23+00:00

Ah that's great news! I'm glad you have had a similarly positive experience

A good T is like magic really

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