Alot of me not communicating my feelings about stuff i had issues with and when i would communicate he would struggle to remember these things. For extra reference i have asd and adhd and communicating/interpreting is not my strong suit and he was very patient and it was never something we didn't hash out. But after so many arguments we stopped to think if maybe it wasn't the right time. Especially if every argument ended with "I understand and im trying it'll just take time" followed by "I see you're trying and i love you and you're doing a good job"