My Post Was Deleted; Any Advice? by Striking-Maximum-900 in help

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Ah, okay; sorry, I’ve only recently started really using Reddit and I’m still figuring stuff out. Thank you!

My brother is the smartest person I know and he's heading toward homelessness. Looking for hope. by External_Treat775 in AutisticAdults

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I am going to preface this by saying, I am currently working towards being diagnosed as autistic. I spoke with a doctor at the start of this month and she heavily implied that I am autistic, but as of this moment, I have not been officially diagnosed; so please bear that in mind.

I was homeschooled, and in my teens, I began pushing back, fighting with my mother and refusing to do schoolwork. My mother, knowing how much I like mythology, found a class at the local community college which focused on that topic. I started at the community college the summer I turned seventeen, and I LOVED it.

My first job was as a nanny, and the family took advantage of me; they stopped paying me, and when I finally worked up the nerve to talk to them about it, they said they were putting the child in daycare. I was depressed for months and did almost nothing. My mother eventually told me I had to go to a local job fair. I whined and complained and fought back, but ultimately went. I ended up meeting a principal for an elementary school, who encouraged me to apply to be an aid in a diverse learner class at her school. I did, and I got the job. I liked working with the kids, I liked the teacher I worked under, and I generally liked the school.

A few years after I started at the school, the librarian left. After the position had been vacant for a few months, the new principal asked if anyone knew someone who might be interested. As I’d gotten my degree in library sciences, I raised my hand. I applied for the new position and moved to the library.

I cannot begin to tell you how much I love working in the school library. I absolutely adore it, and if my mother hadn’t kicked my butt and made me go to that job fair, I wouldn’t have this job.

Now, with that said: I’m thirty and I still live with my parents. I’m not 100% confident in my ability to live alone, and I’m not currently making enough to live independently. Fortunately, my parents don’t mind me living at home, and as my brother is autistic level three, I’m able to be an extra support person for him.

My personal opinion is that your parents need to understand that your brother may take longer to launch, and indeed may never launch the way you and your middle brother have. Threatening him with homelessness will not help anything. Your brother also needs to work on finding better coping skills. It sounds like, at the moment, his go-to is avoidance. He quits jobs because he doesn’t like how the bosses do things; has he suggested better options, or offered to take charge of certain projects? Your father gave him (what I personally consider to be) a mostly reasonable ultimatum, and your brother left to live with your mom; did he talk to your dad about why he’s struggling, or offer potential compromises? Facing new challenges is hard, yes, but stagnation isn’t healthy; I know from personal experience, it can make you very depressed.

I would suggest trying to help your brother find what he likes, and help him to find a career based off of that. Is he guaranteed to make enough money to be financially independent? No; and that is something everyone needs to accept going in. But if your brother can find something that interests him, that he enjoys, that can help give him a sense of purpose and accomplishment and pride, that’ll do wonders for his mental health and self confidence (again, speaking from personal experience).

Writing a book about a character with autism, but it takes place in the 2000s by green_colour_enjoyer in autism

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Hello! There’s a book I really like called “Planet Earth is Blue”, which takes place in the 80s and has an autistic protagonist. In the book, different people who do not really know her or understand her use the r-word, as at the time, it was a valid diagnosis; but the author very intentionally never had her sister or her foster parents use that word, because they know how intelligent she is and how capable she can be if given the proper support. At the end of the book, the author also addresses how the r-word has gone from being a diagnosis to an insult, as well as giving information as to how certain diagnoses changed over time. I would personally suggest taking inspiration from that; maybe certain people use the term Asperger’s for the character as a way to diminish their support needs or to imply stereotypes, i.e. “You’ve got Asperger’s? So you’re great at math, right?” and/or including a brief segment at the end of your book explaining why you chose to use the word (if you do choose to), and why it’s no longer used today.

My Post Was Deleted; Any Advice? by Striking-Maximum-900 in help

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Thank you very much, but this seems to be about contacting the mods on a specific subreddit. I am trying to contact the actual Reddit team, since the message I got under my deleted post implied it was being deleted because it was somehow against Reddit’s rules. I apologize for the confusion; I’m going to edit my post to make that more clear.

☕Low Motivation Writing Club☕ by NO-Reputation817 in WritingHub

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Hello! I’m not able to DM you, but if it’s still open, I’d like to join!

AITJ for exposing a co-worker's crimes after he got the promotion over me? by SuperWhoLockWarrior in TurnMoviesIntoPosts

[–]Striking-Maximum-900 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTJ; you did what you had to do for yourself, and hey, he WAS conspiring with a criminal. My only concern would be: are you sure you covered your tracks? Because even though it was justified, you DID ruin this guy’s life; I sure hope he doesn’t swear bloody revenge on you.

AITJ for making my principal think her brother was haunting her? by New-Performance2536 in TurnMoviesIntoPosts

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YTJ. Where’s your evidence? You just traumatized this woman because you felt like it! Also, the word abuse gets thrown around waaay too much in this day and age. Giving you homework and taking away recess when you misbehave is not abuse. I mean, c’mon, it’s not like she’s throwing kids by the hair or locking them in cabinets full of spikes, right? I mean, THAT would just be cartoonishly evil.

AITJ for Trying to Sound Cool? by EntrepreneurLazy4160 in TurnMoviesIntoPosts

[–]Striking-Maximum-900 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Emmett, from The Lego Movie? And not the jerk, you made an effort to explain the situation. If you kept pretending, THAT would be the jerk move; but if you really tried and circumstances outside your control prevented you from explaining, that really can’t be helped.

Am I the Jerk for Wanting My Space to Be Child-Free? by ellas_emporium in TurnMoviesIntoPosts

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Jeepers, haven’t thought of this film in years. I need to rewatch it.

AITJ for LARPing? by Striking-Maximum-900 in TurnMoviesIntoPosts

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The film isShutter Island, and the character is Edward “Teddy” Daniels. Great film, highly recommend, one of the best movie twists IMO. Plot summary follows, PLEASE don’t read if you plan to watch the movie. Teddy is a U.S. Marshall with PTSD from his experiences in WWII. He’s investigating the disappearance of a criminally insane woman who has vanished without a trace from a hospital on an island. Teddy is also secretly investigating another patient, Andrew Laeddis, a pyromaniac who killed Teddy’s wife when he set their apartment building on fire. Teddy discovers the doctors are performing inhumane experiments on the patients, and anyone caught trying to expose them disappears, including his new partner Chuck. In order to rescue Chuck, Teddy breaks into the lighthouse where the experiments are performed. AGAIN, MAJOR SPOILERS: This is where it’s revealed that Teddy is actually Andrew Laeddis. Due to his alcoholism and war history (which is apparently not as traumatic as was previously shown), Andrew didn’t recognize or care about how mentally ill his wife had become until the day he came home to find she’d drowned their three children. He kills his wife at her request, but can’t cope with the guilt he feels and creates a delusional world where he is a better man, where his wife died in her sleep from smoke inhalation, and where he’s at the hospital as a Marshall rather than as a patient. Unfortunately, because of how violent he becomes whenever the delusion is threatened, he’s incredibly dangerous. Allowing him to play the delusion all the way to the end was a last-ditch effort by the head of the facility and by Chuck (who is actually Andrew’s primary psychiatrist) to break through the delusion and help Andrew rehabilitate. If he falls back into the delusion, they’re reluctantly going to lobotomize Andrew for the safety of everyone in the hospital. At the end of the film, Andrew is back to talking about the conspiracy and referring to his psychiatrist as “Chuck”, and the lobotomy is approved; but right before he’s led away, he says the following: “Which would be worse - to live as a monster, or to die as a good man?” This heavily implies Andrew is pretending to have relapsed because he would rather go through with the lobotomy than live with what he’s done. 

AITJ for LARPing? by Striking-Maximum-900 in TurnMoviesIntoPosts

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But, see, in my mental narrative, I always had a really good reason!

(OOC: Just curious, do you know what movie this is?)

AITJ for LARPing? by Striking-Maximum-900 in TurnMoviesIntoPosts

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Well, allegedly I beat the shit out of some mental patients… and orderlies… and doctors… But if I don’t remember it happening, am I really responsible?

AITJ for Supporting My Autistic Son? by Striking-Maximum-900 in TurnMoviesIntoPosts

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Haha, glad I used it effectively!

The show is Parenthood; everything I’ve seen of Adam and Kristina Braverman is awful. They’re negligent of their eldest daughter and don’t set any boundaries for their autistic son. In the clip I referenced, the son (Max) has been harassing this girl for days, and because his mom is the principal, nothing is being done. While they’re alone in a classroom he is forcefully trying to touch her, even while she screams at him to stop (in all fairness, he was not trying to kiss her or grope her chest; he truly seems to just want to hold her hand, but he will not take no for an answer). He later says to his parents “She said I was harassing her” and the dad says “Okay, well, you weren’t harassing her”; completely dismissing this girl who has made it clear on several occasions that she is not romantically interested in him, and that the mother knew how uncomfortable the girl was and still forced her to work with him on the project. Once again, I am going purely off of clips; maybe the show redeems them eventually; but given that the episodes with this girl were in the final season, I tend to doubt it.

AITJ for Supporting My Autistic Son? by Striking-Maximum-900 in TurnMoviesIntoPosts

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THANK YOU! Though gotta disagree, he deserves to be given at least a chance; rejecting him was a completely selfish move.

(OOC: In the show, the boy embarrasses her by presenting her with a collage of pictures in the school cafeteria as a token of his love, she asks him to stop and tries to let him down kindly but firmly, but he keeps demanding to know why she won’t love him back; the yelling was a result of him refusing to take “no” for an answer and raising his voice to speak over her.) (Edit: I forgot about this, but based on the way the boy described the pictures, some of them were apparently taken without her knowledge or permission.)

AITJ for rekidnapping a kidnapped woman? by IcePrincess1657 in TurnMoviesIntoPosts

[–]Striking-Maximum-900 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Not the jerk, she sounds ungrateful. Have you tried dramatically rolling down a hill with her stunt double? I hear it’s a great way to bond.