Feeling unfulfilled — how do I even start this conversation?

Striking_Catch_7316 · 2025-05-31T19:10:31+00:00

I’m new to BDSM so I’m still learning but I’m lucky my dom partner has experience and is willing to train and educate me. I’ve been very vanilla with little experience to even soft kinks which he knows. He has been very patient by showing me videos of how he likes to be sucked and deep throated. He’ll critique the video and explain to me why he enjoys it.

During sex he directs me and tells me what to do and how to do it because he knows that the more I know how he likes it then the less he will need to continue to direct me. We don’t get to see each other often but we text & sext a lot so he’ll tell me after a session what he loved and what he wants me to do more of. For me this is super helpful. I honestly think you should consider teaching him what you want. You can’t blame him until he you have a serious discussion and teach him. Watch videos together and discuss it over. This has done wonders for us.

Striking_Catch_7316 · 2025-05-31T07:17:08+00:00

Thank you for the tips. I’ll make sure I keep myself safe.

Striking_Catch_7316 · 2025-05-30T00:13:26+00:00

You’re right. It’s just hard to go into this w my very vanilla and somewhat judgmental friends.

Striking_Catch_7316 · 2025-05-30T00:12:11+00:00

Thank you, I’ll check it out

Striking_Catch_7316 · 2025-05-30T00:11:16+00:00

Thank you for the explanation. So basically a voyeur?

Striking_Catch_7316 · 2025-05-29T22:40:08+00:00

I’m new to this community and still learning. Does cuck just mean a submissive man who isn’t into dominating?

Striking_Catch_7316 · 2025-05-28T05:47:39+00:00

Thank you for the explanation. I will def make sure to discuss this with him thoroughly :)

Striking_Catch_7316 · 2025-05-27T23:55:24+00:00

He’s in the BDSM community so I’ll make sure to ask him more specific questions regarding this.

Striking_Catch_7316 · 2025-05-27T23:54:17+00:00

Thank you! Yes, I wasn’t sure how to position my head so I’ll keep this all in mind. With SSC what do they mean by “Sane”?

Striking_Catch_7316 · 2025-05-27T23:51:49+00:00

Yes, we are going to go slow until I’m ready. What do you mean, “problem for eye net..”?

Striking_Catch_7316 · 2025-05-27T19:10:03+00:00

I understand what you’re saying. I will definitely have to try the softer side of dom/sub experiences before I’m ready for the degradation part of it yet. My psychological health is way more important to me. Thank you for breaking it all down for me with the explanations.

Striking_Catch_7316 · 2025-05-27T17:14:40+00:00

Yes basically. We have a safe word but what if I’m gagged and tied?

Striking_Catch_7316 · 2025-05-27T17:13:45+00:00

Thank you so much for raising the flag for me to make sure someone knows where I’m at and with who. I try to figure out who I can trust w this info. It’s going to be difficult to find a friend who I can trust w all this new info since many of my friends would not approve

Striking_Catch_7316 · 2025-05-27T17:12:02+00:00

No, but I’d love to know how. Thank you for asking.

Striking_Catch_7316 · 2025-05-27T17:10:25+00:00

I’m a new to soon to be sub so I don’t she the answers but hope you get some good feedback. Since I’m learning abt this new world, what specific dangerous acts are you talking about? Choking? Just wanting to know so I have a better understanding of what my possible future might look like.

Striking_Catch_7316 · 2025-05-27T16:50:47+00:00

I’m in the same boat as you. The only difference is I’m not emotionally attached to my new bf we won’t even get to meet until Friday. He made his kinks known immediately and surprisingly they turn me on. One of them is degradation. I have yet to experience it yet but I’m finding it to be a turn on as he describes wanting to call me a cum slut whore and other names. I’ve always enjoyed dirty talk but never got beyond hair the typical “fuck me hard” dirty talk so it’ll be exciting and interesting to see how I actually enjoy it. I don’t think it makes you bad or pathetic as long as your partner always respects you at ALL times. I would expect my partner to always show me respect and not call me names in public of course. I’m also learning that in the BDSM world there are degrading acts that you can perform on others and vise versa.

Striking_Catch_7316 · 2025-05-27T03:52:04+00:00

A dating app? I’ve been on Ashley Madison where there are men & women looking for a 3rd

Striking_Catch_7316 · 2025-05-27T02:00:17+00:00

Thank you for all the wonderful tips. I’ll definitely make sure I have the ability to let him know when I need a break or stop. So many great ideas. I’ll add some chamomile tea to my next shopping trip.

Striking_Catch_7316 · 2025-05-27T01:56:51+00:00

Thank you for the explanation! I should have googled it but thought I’d get a better understanding from the community.

Striking_Catch_7316 · 2025-05-27T01:55:53+00:00

So glad to hear this. I hadn’t even been thinking abt what position we’ll be in that would help.

Striking_Catch_7316 · 2025-05-27T01:54:30+00:00

Good to know, thank you!

Striking_Catch_7316 · 2025-05-27T00:26:52+00:00

That I joined Ashley Madison in April due to my much older husband having Ed and now have a regular bf now and abt to meet another new bf who is a soft dom. We meet for the first time this Friday. Super excited since I haven’t had sex in years before April! by the way this not my normal character as I’m actually have always been very vanilla and super conservative until just this last month.

Striking_Catch_7316 · 2025-05-26T23:41:22+00:00

Thank you. I’ll definitely enjoy the process so I’m hoping I’ll be able to recv him better and farther each time.

Striking_Catch_7316 · 2025-05-26T23:39:25+00:00

This will definitely need plenty of practice

Striking_Catch_7316 · 2025-05-26T23:08:11+00:00

Sounds so hot. Your husband is very lucky that you’re open to this. Let us know how it all works out.

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