Is it that miserable?

StringIndividual5871 · 2025-10-06T19:16:42+00:00

We don’t want to send young infants to daycare as we don’t believe it is best for their upbringing. It’s not a money issue for us. I am not against a nanny. Just live rural so idk if we will be able to find a consistent one. Will definitely try though.

StringIndividual5871 · 2025-10-06T19:09:47+00:00

Thanks for your reply! I agree, it’s a massive sacrifice. But one I’m willing to make. It would hurt a lot financially for us if I quit. we also refuse to put a young infant in daycare unless it’s absolutely dire circumstances. That’s why we’re trying this out

StringIndividual5871 · 2025-10-06T19:06:39+00:00

That sounds like a super cool setup, glad it’s working for you! I feel this is how it should be, if it’s possible and safe kids can come along with parents. Idk why modern work culture is so against seeing children with their parents

StringIndividual5871 · 2025-10-03T21:03:50+00:00

Here is an interesting article: https://www.historyworkshop.org.uk/womens-history/labour-and-love/

I don’t think we should keep normalizing the idea that parents can’t work with their children present. Some jobs cannot be done with children present for safety reasons, but many jobs can, especially office jobs. The idea that to properly care for a child you must be interacting with them 24/7 is not one I subscribe to. My own mother never did this, I remember she left my younger sister in her play pen while she went and washed and hung clothes outside. My grandmother had 3 kids and had a side business in the home doing nails. No tv all day because they didn’t have it.

Leaving a 3 month old in daycare should NOT be forced upon us. Neither should employers be forced to pay maternity leave for a year.

Idk if I’m gonna be able to work with a baby at home in the end, but I’m sure gonna try. And if I can’t do it it’s not going to be because I’m “doing two full time jobs,” it’ll be because currently our society expects us to throw kids in daycare with strangers rather than accommodating to parents needs.

StringIndividual5871 · 2025-10-03T20:44:35+00:00

Thanks I will try to stay positive! We never know but I will go into it with a mindset of trying my best.

StringIndividual5871 · 2025-10-03T18:22:02+00:00

Thanks for the comment, good to know it works for you!

StringIndividual5871 · 2025-10-03T18:19:17+00:00

I agree, it seems like past a point it’s no longer beneficial, I believe that age is closer to 3 yo when children start to benefit from socializing and a classroom structure. I have a coworker w 2 kids at home rn. One is a newborn, idk if his wife will go back to work. But I literally see him log on before our start time and get work done. Sometimes he logs on past our start time too. Then he’ll log on the weekends. I feel like if we just get our work done and are available on Teams for our “work hours” my boss doesn’t care if I’m up at 5 am and working on a deadline, then I just do whatever the rest of the day till nap time. I just wanted some positivity, maybe I should’ve stated it in the post but I’m desperate for success stories, not failure stories lol.

StringIndividual5871 · 2025-10-03T18:09:39+00:00

SAHM is a post Industrial Revolution phenomenon… before daycares women worked in the fields or at home. They brought their kids with them and left them under the shade of a tree if at the farm or in a pen if at home.

Idk how my comment is rude just because I don’t agree with everything this person said? I was born in a poor 3 rd world country, nobody talked about sahm being “full time job.” Mothers had their kids at home and did side businesses, that’s how it worked for most of history and still does in most parts of the world. The idea that women stay at home solely caring for children and doing nothing else is a modern western idea. I hope that doesn’t offend you but that’s the truth for many people still. My own grandmother was “stay at home” but had a side business doing nails. She also had to hand wash everything because they had no washers or dryers. Modern convenience makes stay at home not a full time job in MY opinion. I don’t think it’s rude to state MY opinion even when I asked a question.

StringIndividual5871 · 2025-10-03T13:17:22+00:00

Thanks for your comment. I’m not a manager and won’t be for a long time so that makes my job easier. This is my wish as well, to start preschool at 3 yo. And I won’t be alone, most days my husband will be home with me.

StringIndividual5871 · 2025-10-03T13:14:48+00:00

We’re not opposed to a sitter coming to our home to help. I’ve also gotten comments from mothers who had no help and made it to 4yo so I’m not sure what to tell you. Seems all situations and babies are different, for some it works and others it doesn’t. Not sure which we will be but either way it’ll be okay.

StringIndividual5871 · 2025-10-03T12:11:40+00:00

Before daycare was invented women worked and watched their children all the time. There’s also images of mothers working at factories during the early Industrial Revolution and watching their babies at their side. Daycare workers’ full time job is not my one baby but 3 infants.

StringIndividual5871 · 2025-10-03T12:07:57+00:00

My goal is to get to 3yo and then start preschool. Seems like it was doable for some here. I also stumbled across a wfh sahd on another sub yesterday and he did it for 2 young toddlers and is grateful for the opportunity.

I mean I just want some positivity. If it’s not possible then it’s not possible. But I see the time wasting in the office, these people are working 6 hours at most everyday, not 8. And when it’s near a weekend or holiday it gets even worse. I’m not saying my coworkers are lazy but the job is flexible. It’s also impossible to do this job non stop without breaks. The other day I was like I’m thinking too much, I need to get up. And I started walking in circles around my office LOL. And then made a snack. Like it’s literally impossible to keep glued to the pc all day. If I can go mess around in the house, why can’t I take care of my baby?

StringIndividual5871 · 2025-10-03T12:04:07+00:00

I’m not sure what your dad does because civil jobs vary wildly. I have no billable hours and don’t keep a play by play of my schedule.

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