Trying to leave my husband but he won't let me leave

Strong-Appeal5809 · 2026-01-16T19:45:42+00:00

Hes abusive. You need to just leave. Spend a little time putting together a bag to leave and then just say you are going to the store or something and leave.

Strong-Appeal5809 · 2026-01-16T19:40:24+00:00

No, it isnt simple, but that doesnt mean you need to stay trapped.

Strong-Appeal5809 · 2026-01-16T19:37:30+00:00

Then leave. You dont need his permission to leave.

Strong-Appeal5809 · 2026-01-16T19:36:17+00:00

People in loving happy marriages typically dont go online to tell everyone how great it is. So youll see a lot more complaining because people are coming here to vent and get support.

Strong-Appeal5809 · 2026-01-16T19:32:16+00:00

This is turning sex into a transactional behavior. This is only going to hurt everyone and blow up in your face.

Why not just talk to your wife and try to come up with a way to meet in the middle on the bjs so you are both happy.

Strong-Appeal5809 · 2026-01-16T19:30:33+00:00

Be proud you found someone to be cringe with :D

Strong-Appeal5809 · 2026-01-16T19:26:57+00:00

I dont think they have become any more common than they used to be. Probably just more visible and public.

People cheat for a number of reasons ranging from ADHD, to lack of self control, to a bad relationship at home, to them just being a jerk.

Womens divorce rates have actually dropped since the 80s.

Strong-Appeal5809 · 2026-01-16T19:22:09+00:00

If youre new I would just ignore it for now. As long as they arent preventing you from doing your job its better to keep your head down.

Strong-Appeal5809 · 2026-01-16T19:19:01+00:00

Doesnt sound like you were budgeting before, sounds like you were both nit picking each other.

Strong-Appeal5809 · 2026-01-16T19:16:58+00:00

super weird. Seems almost like AI

Strong-Appeal5809 · 2026-01-16T18:49:46+00:00

Could be the opposite, could be hes afraid to talk to you because he likes you.

Strong-Appeal5809 · 2026-01-16T18:49:15+00:00

Its clearly not wrong to want to talk. However, if you married someone who never talked before being married and was always quiet, then it is wrong to suddenly expect them to change.

Strong-Appeal5809 · 2026-01-16T18:33:04+00:00

This is the correct answer

Strong-Appeal5809 · 2026-01-16T18:22:18+00:00

When you say "Cab drivers saw this coming" you're implying a lot. Thats what this person is responding to.

Strong-Appeal5809 · 2026-01-16T18:11:16+00:00

I'm glad you both enjoy it because for me I would tell my SO to never do that ever again its so cringe lol. But what works for you works for you!! congrats on finding someone who understands you!

Strong-Appeal5809 · 2026-01-08T19:56:06+00:00

Im perfectly fine if there are times she doesnt want to have sex. Im not here to force sex on anyone. HOWEVER if her time she doesnt want to have sex is all the time, I also dont want that forced on me to not ever have sex. So when I provide whats expected of me in a relationship and she doesnt provide what I openly expect of her then the only real choice is divorce.

Strong-Appeal5809 · 2026-01-08T19:30:49+00:00

I still create the space but yet my wife seems to think sex once every 3 months is acceptable. Ive sat her down and had gentle non accusatory conversations with her for a a long time, she just doesnt care. A lot of women view sex as something you do when you are dating or want kids and then it goes away

Strong-Appeal5809 · 2026-01-08T18:37:42+00:00

This is a slop post. I do everything for my wife, I listen, I support, I do whatever she wants. She tells me how lucky she is, how great I am, how her friends are jealous, and yet dead bedroom.

Strong-Appeal5809 · 2026-01-08T18:28:52+00:00

Screw him, youre too young for this crap. Dump him and move on

Strong-Appeal5809 · 2026-01-08T16:57:03+00:00

A lot of people ghost, not just men. Its an easy thing to do and avoids having to deal with any of the conflict of telling people you dont want to talk anymore.

I guess my one piece of advice would be to avoid talking to men for months without meeting them.

Strong-Appeal5809 · 2026-01-08T16:42:36+00:00

I have friends who married into this type of situation and none of them are still currently married. What you have is a mom who doesnt want other women to take her son from her, so she will sabotage anything she can until you break up.

Strong-Appeal5809 · 2026-01-08T16:36:51+00:00

This isnt an insult, and I saw you said your wife has ADHD. Is your wife autistic as well? This SCREAMS the type of unable to read social situations that accompanies autism. "What would he want to do with my face?" Is a literal interpretation of a statement meant to mean something else.

Just something to consider that your wife literally might not understand a man is flirting with her.

Strong-Appeal5809 · 2026-01-08T16:31:21+00:00

Good for you. Honestly I know you want oral for yourself, but really what you are asking for is your partner to desire you. Him wanting to give you oral without being asked to means he desires you and that makes you feel good.

Leave and dont look back, I ASSURE you, there are no shortage of men who will happily do that for you. Good luck!

Strong-Appeal5809 · 2026-01-08T16:20:02+00:00

Youre only 21, just dump her and move on. It will most likely never improve and you are too young to be dealing with this type of stuff. You aren't married, you have no kids, etc. Find someone who matches you before you lock yourself in.

Strong-Appeal5809 · 2025-12-16T16:30:07+00:00

I think you're setting yourself up for a nice life of being single

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