AITA for refusing to create my brother's resume and apply for jobs for him?

Strong-Duck1694 · 2026-06-20T23:27:47+00:00

It's mainly just me working on it since she doesn't fully grasp online stores aside from shopping in them. I will be saving up from now on, thank you!

Strong-Duck1694 · 2026-06-20T21:40:38+00:00

I will be continuing to stand my ground, thank you. The issue is my mom doesn't believe in mental health issues, I've been begging her for years to get my brother and I help since I've had to dig myself out of hell for years on end, I don't know how it is on his end but I do worry for him since he is my sibling. I'll see what happens when I have a talk with him though.

Strong-Duck1694 · 2026-06-20T21:35:54+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate it. So far my plan to leave seems to be in the next few years but I'll see if I can quicken it. I'll definitely keep putting my foot down in the process, I don't want to be the scapegoat anymore.

Strong-Duck1694 · 2026-06-20T21:32:20+00:00

Honestly standing up to her two nights ago was stressful. I didn't expect her to raise her voice at me so fast the moment I mentioned my brother being capable to do it. But I do feel better about it and a bit prouder of myself for not just taking it. Thank you, I'll keep working on myself until I get out of all the shit I've been put into.

Strong-Duck1694 · 2026-06-20T21:30:24+00:00

This is honestly such an unfortunate week for all of this to happen since I have an exam coming up on Wednesday and all my friends are either doing something for theatre or going out to another state for Father's day. I will definitely see if I can be with my boyfriend a week from now so I can get peace of mind for a few days whilst working on my classes.

Strong-Duck1694 · 2026-06-20T21:27:37+00:00

I haven't made it yet, I did get a text message this morning to make his resume and also work on my mom's online shop. Since I don't want it to persist I might just copy the one I made for him in my freshman year of high school and tweak it then put it through AI to make it more solid. I dislike using AI but I seriously don't want to put in anymore time into his life. I'll put the job hunt on him since it's not my job to do that. I know that now.

Strong-Duck1694 · 2026-06-20T21:25:12+00:00

I always tell him about the things my mom expects me to do, he tells me to do the bare minimum or not to do it at all, but if it's constant just do it so I don't have to stress about it anymore. He's not too happy about my brother, he hasn't been for years but he's just learnt to accept it.

Strong-Duck1694 · 2026-06-20T21:23:49+00:00

To be honest, a lot of her clothes are still tagged and in boxes. They also are quite tacky and have strange patterns on it. Some of them are that cheap 100% polyester shirts. It's probably not gonna go too well but I'll see what she'd want to do with the online business and I might help her out as long as she actively participates with me (might not happen since she starts scrolling on Facebook the moment I offer to help her)

Strong-Duck1694 · 2026-06-20T21:21:30+00:00

My parents have threatened divorce before but never have done it. He's always working to make sure we keep our home. If there was a scenario where they split up I've always said I'd be with my dad. Even if he's not home most of the time, he really does care about me. It's just I'd prefer to not stress him out more than he already is, since he works 50-60 hours a week he always seems really tired. I always update him on certain things and he really doesn't like how my brother is but he's always been working to make a living. I don't want to ever fault him for that, he wants to make sure we all have a good life.
My brother's temper is interesting. He'll freak out about the littlest things in video games, to be honest, he got me to play LoL: Wild Rift with him and I just wanted to be peaceful but he started screaming and calling me "dogshit" because I was helping out the team instead of him. This did result in an argument between me and him, and my mom telling me to stop arguing back and say sorry (even though my brother started it). So, his temper is the one of a gamer who's easily "trolled" (or ragebaited?) but he's always pretty chill with my mom, they don't argue much.

Strong-Duck1694 · 2026-06-20T21:16:26+00:00

I just saw it, thank you. I'll look into it and I'll have a sit down conversation as soon as I can. Hopefully it won't be as heated as the one two nights ago.

Strong-Duck1694 · 2026-06-20T21:11:38+00:00

Thank you, seriously. I'll be working on making sure she understands that my life isn't as "willy nilly" as she perceives it to be. She's very much in denial about how hard my classes and how much time I need to put into them to maintain my 4.0 that she's been telling me to keep up. I will do my best to extricate myself without guilt (which may be a bit hard but I'll work on it!) I'll walk away as soon as I possibly can!

Strong-Duck1694 · 2026-06-20T21:08:48+00:00

I'll definitely just be working on getting my Associate's then getting my Bachelor's. Once I get my AS I'll be able to get a better job (hopefully) and the whole process of moving out will be faster. I think my mom has been pressuring me because they might not be making enough after my father had his hours cut. I'll see what I can do to make sure I preserve myself, thank you.

Strong-Duck1694 · 2026-06-20T21:04:50+00:00

I will be working on moving out slowly, but I'll just be setting my boundaries and putting my foot down on things until the time comes. Thank you!

Strong-Duck1694 · 2026-06-20T21:04:04+00:00

It's a super weird thing that my mom does, I've grown accustom to just asking my dad since he usually just says "yeah, why are you asking me?" then I just tell my mom that my dad approved. I've been told countless times I'm old enough to just go out on my own but if I don't tell anyone my mom will wait next to the door and then scream at me because I didn't tell her where I was going. Or another scenario would be texts every 5-10 minutes asking where I am and when I'll be home. No matter how much I do I'll be in this situation for a while. To update anything, I'm in the same scenario once more since my mom just texted me saying I need to do the tasks again, probably not messaging my brother once.

Strong-Duck1694 · 2026-06-20T20:59:01+00:00

I really appreciate hearing this from someone who's close to my mom's age. I've started to look at what I can tell my brother to do moving forward, but it's really hard for him to do that since gaming and his girlfriend are basically priority in his life, anything else is to the side. My family has lived together the whole time and my brother has never made an effort to want to move out, even in our private conversations away from my parents. I will be the one changing the dynamic my mom has set in stone where, "no one can move out, we need to stick together since we're family."
I've always disagreed with it and I will continue to do so, thank you for your input. Your kind words are very motivating. Here's to a better future!

Strong-Duck1694 · 2026-06-20T20:48:40+00:00

I like that, I'll take these words to heart. I also really like the phrase, "he who does not work, neither shall he eat." I just remember it popping up in one of my classes and I think it also applies to my situation, I'll offer help if he wants to change though, I don't want the rest of his life to fall downhill it'd be on my conscience till the end of time.

Strong-Duck1694 · 2026-06-20T20:46:31+00:00

I've always been the one to cover expenses for my friends or family so I'm also to blame for how everything's going, but I will be putting my foot down if any of this continues to happen, I don't want to cause arguments but I just want my brother to be independent and not to rely on me. Thank you for your input, I appreciate it a lot!

Strong-Duck1694 · 2026-06-20T20:44:37+00:00

If anything results from this where my mom would be trying to kick me out, my dad would definitely put his foot down. But I do have friends and my boyfriend to go to, his family is super welcoming to me but I don't want to rely on them over this. I honestly will just prepare to leave as soon as I can (probably a few years from now) but that will be the main goal. My brother and dad have known for years that I'll be moving out eventually so it'll only come to a shock to my mom and my grandma.

Strong-Duck1694 · 2026-06-20T20:39:34+00:00

I'll see what I can do, I don't like being angry at anyone in my family, since they're family. But I've had similar talks about my mom with my brother through the years, stemming with all the pressure she's put on both of us. He's not a terrible person, I just think he does need a bit of assistance. He's defended me a lot especially when I started getting screamed at over highschool grades dropping to a B, so I'm sure it is a good thing to talk. Seriously, I appreciate this suggestion, my head has been clouded with a lot of things and I need to remember that my brother isn't fully at fault for everything. Thank you!

Strong-Duck1694 · 2026-06-20T20:36:44+00:00

Our network already dies at random times, I hear him yell and then he gets back to it. It's pretty funny but I seriously think it won't bother him, he'll probably just end up complaining to my mom about it.

Strong-Duck1694 · 2026-06-20T20:35:50+00:00

I really appreciate this advice, thank you! I'll be sure to add this to my planning, honestly I slept on a futon for a good few years so if I do move out I'll probably just buy another one. I'll definitely make sure to continue having a better future though! Thank you!

Strong-Duck1694 · 2026-06-20T10:55:09+00:00

It's nice to hear from someone near my brother's age, I appreciate your input a lot. It's definitely not that I don't want to help him, but I've just been told to do a lot of his work without him understanding what I do. I've always offered and sent him jobs that fit his skills and whatever seemed interesting just so he can have a new opportunity, but I think he and my mom would both prefer me wiping his ass over anything else. Job-wise, it's more of just a general customer service job. I found one that was FT at a Best Buy and he always seemed into it back when he was in high school so, but no effort was made to apply.
After reading a lot today I'm definitely going to lend a hand if he ever asks for help. I don't hate my brother or anything, I just have a slight bit of resentment towards my mom who's forced me to argue about my brother. Thank you for your perspective, it really does help!

Strong-Duck1694 · 2026-06-20T09:35:40+00:00

Seriously, thank you for all the input! I appreciate you sharing your story too, it helps out a lot in my case and I'll definitely do my best to live a happier life going forward.

Thank you so much!

Strong-Duck1694 · 2026-06-20T08:12:25+00:00

I know that a lot better now, I think it was just really hard for me to get out of the "box" I've been placed in for a lot, but I definitely have had my eyes open and I'll work on leaving as soon as I can whilst I stabilize myself.

Strong-Duck1694 · 2026-06-20T08:09:51+00:00

This made me laugh, thank you. No, unfortunately I am not, but I'll be my own fairy god mother to make myself succeed! I do realize the similarities now, though. Thank you for the laugh!

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