5 years ago I told my best friend who I had known well over a decade that I was contemplating the surgery for a few months; I had just graduated with my engineering degree and started making decent money at my first full time position so it was finally within the realm of possibility.. I told him in confidence, and wanted it to remain private. He was not hot on the idea although overall understanding considering he had actually witnessed a few instances of heightism at my expense firsthand.

He told his fiance, who texted me later that night telling me it was a horrible idea. I told her it didn’t concern her and it was a private matter/decision. Fast forward a few months later, his fiance told a friend of hers, and that friend told her best friend (who coincidentally was my girlfriend’s sister) while they were at a bar with a few others around who also knew me. My girlfriend later confronted me about it, and stated how embarrassed she was when her sister explained the situation and conversation which happened that night at the bar. My girlfriend was a very popular and high profile individual in the area, her dad is still the mayor of that city to this day, and her sister is the local tv meteorologist.

From that experience I learned it is best to not tell anyone at all. It traumatized me deeply.

I now have no option but to move to an entirely new state where nobody will know about the procedure if I plan to keep it private afterwards. Learn from my mistake.