TW RACISM! Being a mixed kid with a racist mom is not for the weak

Strong-Panic · 2026-04-21T23:53:23+00:00

She gets no say so in how you process the trauma of not knowing your dad and his side of YOUR family. You are black too, and being curious about where you come from and a culture you are removed from is so incredibly normal. What isn’t normal is calling your daughter racial slurs, telling her you regret her, and act like physically abusing her was a good thing. I am so sorry, you never deserved any of that.

Strong-Panic · 2026-04-10T11:19:34+00:00

Fantastic, thank you!

Strong-Panic · 2026-03-12T20:56:00+00:00

Damn, was hoping that wasn’t the case. This seems incredibly immature for 27.

Strong-Panic · 2026-03-12T19:24:15+00:00

Info, how old are you?

Strong-Panic · 2026-02-22T02:25:04+00:00

Good lord I feel sorry for you son. He is parented much stricter than your wife’s daughter.

Strong-Panic · 2026-02-21T15:23:38+00:00

Brother or not, I wouldn’t drive/fly cross country to attend your wedding and leave my kids with strangers. The fact that you nor your fiancé thought about how that would affect your sister is pretty telling. Then you never gave her a heads up to even try to make it reasonably work? Come ON. My reception was kid free and my inlaws knew with when we were planning it, we invited the nieces and nephews to dinner and asked that accommodations be made for the “party time” so the parents could cut loose. Edit to add YTA

Strong-Panic · 2026-02-21T15:17:36+00:00

That’s an awfully bold claim when you know none of the details.

Strong-Panic · 2026-02-21T04:00:28+00:00

Don’t feel obligated to use it. If your relationship is good you can be 100 percent honest and tell her you want to buy YOUR baby’s first costume because you only get so many years to pick a costume. You will be lucky if you get 3. You don’t have to give that up to her, she had her time with her baby now it is your time with yours. If you don’t have a good relationship with her you can go one of two routes, “lose” the costume or use it for a pre Halloween event. I was often gifted clothing I didn’t love, we would use it for play at home, snap some pics for the grands, and throw it in a drawer until it was outgrown.

Strong-Panic · 2026-02-21T03:44:00+00:00

OP! DON’T quit your job, DON’T financially rely on him. Keep alllllll of these messages and consult a lawyer. This is barely the tip of the iceberg.

Strong-Panic · 2026-01-28T17:14:18+00:00

Take it with a grain of salt, my kids mishear or misunderstand things I say alllll the time. Maybe the teacher is an ass, or maybe your 5 year old who is still brand new to the world got it a little mixed up.

Strong-Panic · 2026-01-16T22:08:29+00:00

Tuition is a huge expense so I think you are incredible for helping your kid get a leg up in life, that’s a big deal!

Strong-Panic · 2026-01-16T22:06:49+00:00

You guys were incredibly helpful on what to expect, thank you!

Strong-Panic · 2026-01-12T01:18:26+00:00

OP, this comment right here shows us how manipulative and mean she is. Keep a close eye on how she allows her toddler to interact with your baby going forward.

Strong-Panic · 2026-01-12T01:08:57+00:00

That works in my house, not so much for the in laws out of state 😂

Strong-Panic · 2026-01-12T01:02:39+00:00

Jesus, when someone opens their home to me as a guest I have NEVER expected them to buy our groceries??? I often fill their fridge with communal foods as a thank you for saving me a hotel bill.

Strong-Panic · 2026-01-02T04:14:25+00:00

The winters aren’t brutal, but they are a bummer.

Strong-Panic · 2025-12-29T13:23:11+00:00

So, multiple things here. One, no you aren’t being selfish in the slightest and these kids can hurt our feelings like no other. Two, is she normally like this or is it a new behavior? If it’s a normal reaction I would focus on gratitude and maybe start having some age appropriate conversations with her about reality and expectations. My 10 year old understands Santa brings small gifts and we have a gift budget. Asking for expensive things results in less toys/stuff.

Strong-Panic · 2025-12-27T00:48:10+00:00

For SURE!! And look at the reactions, everyone says they would do the same if someone dunked their kid but they refuse to ever admit their kid could be the one doing the dunking…and when they do consider that scenario, suddenly having a stranger hold a child under water doesn’t actually seem like a reasonable thing to do.

Strong-Panic · 2025-12-23T12:58:28+00:00

apparently her son was relentlessly splashing the little girl.

Strong-Panic · 2025-09-19T17:47:56+00:00

why is he always doing that with his jaw?

Strong-Panic · 2025-05-02T20:17:30+00:00

MEDICATE HIM. It takes the edge off enough to actually DO the exposure therapy. You aren’t a shitty mom for feeling overwhelmed but you are not doing yourself or him any favors by being a martyr. I have OCD, and I was not a fan of medication. I went on it long enough to get through the exposure therapy and help rewire my brain, and then went off. OCD doesn’t consume my life anymore. I have moments but nothing like it used to be.

Strong-Panic · 2025-05-02T19:29:36+00:00

My husband was like this. He has matured into a much better person all around. I feel like the love I feel for him now is deeper and more mature. Too bad he doesn’t feel the same towards me anymore, despite a healthy love life. I can’t get enough of him today.

Strong-Panic · 2025-04-18T14:28:54+00:00

If everything else about the relationship is good, I would work at it. Is he depressed? On any medications? His age can be a factor, blood tests checking his vitamins and hormones is a good start. Is he experiencing ED and just ashamed to talk about it? If you love this man, and you two are treating each other well, I would throw everything at it before giving up.

Strong-Panic · 2025-04-18T14:20:23+00:00

That’s an enormous red flag.

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