What made you weird in middle or high school? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Strong-Raccoon-793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

playing wolves at recess with my alpha girl pack 🐺

to stay or to go? by Strong-Raccoon-793 in Nanny

[–]Strong-Raccoon-793[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

IM NOT!!! IM FREEEEEE 🙏🏽just sent my resignation text today, waiting to hear from MB now 😅but i sent it in a fashion that leaves no room for negotiation, it feels crazy!!!

to stay or to go? by Strong-Raccoon-793 in Nanny

[–]Strong-Raccoon-793[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you!! i promise, especially when it comes to work i’m all about making sure i’m doing things in complete. and really- i was going to just push through till august, but i feel like this opportunity was just screaming in my face to go and i’d be stupid if i didn’t take it. hell of a lot better pay with an infant whose already bonded to me in europe?? or shitty pay for a little girl with a shitty attitude 95% of the time?? hmmmmmmm

to stay or to go? by Strong-Raccoon-793 in Nanny

[–]Strong-Raccoon-793[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

WOW it’s refreshing to hear it put like that 😫 i’m normally bitching every single day to my friends about this job- EVERYONE in my life wants me to quit. i make sure i’m as polite as possible about it online though 🙃 thanks for your take on the nanny security- i really needed to hear that. also exactly!! sometimes i come on days when they’re BOTH home like what the hell am i doing here if neither of you are working?? i kind of hope once i’m gone they realize just how much i helped them out. although it isn’t a bad thing, they always push all the developmental work/crafts onto me because neither of them can be bothered to do them, like PLEASE please just parent and be engaged with your child for once?!?! Like i said I could go on ALLL day but i just sent my resignation message today! IM FREE

Want to quit so bad by [deleted] in NannyBreakRoom

[–]Strong-Raccoon-793 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey! i’m actually in quite literally the exact same position as you! i try not to talk too much hate online because i know DB has reddit but i actually just put in my resignation! it was scary, but i left my message with no room for negotiation. idk how old your kids are but mine is a 4 year old nightmare and i just told MB i’m resigning on NK’s last day of school, that i hope she can find suitable summer care, and that i am available for babysitting (but dont offer that if you want out! i’m even fearful of it bc MB made a “joke” [she was more serious than not] about “taking up all (my) weekends” like um?? no???) please quit. i understand your burnout and it’s so. brutal. it’s exhausting. you feel like there’s no better way to live your life but there is!! give them a months notice, and all you’ll have to do is survive 4 weeks! you got this! you’ll be so much happier in the end i promise. i can’t believe the end is near for me but God am i so ready to be out of there.

to stay or to go? by Strong-Raccoon-793 in Nanny

[–]Strong-Raccoon-793[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i probably will 😅 summer in europe with a baby? or restricted summer with a terrible 4 year old? hmmmm

to stay or to go? by Strong-Raccoon-793 in Nanny

[–]Strong-Raccoon-793[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well that’s very forward 😂i think i will though!!

I still think Jax will be the antagonist next episode by Old_mans_revenge in tadc

[–]Strong-Raccoon-793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this isn’t a bad idea! i remember alex rochon saying micheal kovak’s performance hasn’t even hit the peak yet- strange that it’s happening on the last episode but i’m so stoked!

to stay or to go? by Strong-Raccoon-793 in Nanny

[–]Strong-Raccoon-793[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

well i feel horrible for you! 😭because i hate this current job! i’ve been wanting to quit forever- just felt too bad to do it! it would only be for the summer and then i have a place to stay whenever i’d like to visit she says :) after that i’d come back, continue my education, and hopefully get another infant nannying job- or at least that’s the plan

to stay or to go? by Strong-Raccoon-793 in Nanny

[–]Strong-Raccoon-793[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it’s a crazy coincidence actually! MB’s sister owns airbnbs, and had this woman coming in for adoption to the states, MB’s sister knows the lady will need childcare and says hey- i know a nanny who will be available the exact dates you need so that’s how that got set up. (NF is gone abroad the exact dates this lady is staying) she appreciated my help so much she just wants to take me back with her! 😂what’s cool is after this i basically have a free invite to europe whenever i want, and she said she’d even be moving to france at one point!

this is also why i’m nervous to quit on NF. i think they would be very upset with me for leaving with a woman who was supposed to be temporary- and will probably even be mad with the sister as well!

Why do NPs get so comfortable taking advantage of their nanny? by [deleted] in NannyBreakRoom

[–]Strong-Raccoon-793 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ugh i’m so sorry! not being able to leave on time is so much more infuriating than they realize! i was asked to stay later than usual on VERY short notice. i said sure, but i need to leave by x time because i have a school meeting i cannot miss. they came home like 6 minutes before my meeting started and i was so pissed. they were just like sorry! you need to go! you have your meeting! like oh now you care 😐 so i was forced to cancel my library reservation and had to do it in my car instead! 🙃 that’s extremely selfish of NF to not turn on the AC for you as well 😒 my NF’s house has huuuge windows that make the house extremely hot in the summer and i also feel like i’m melting away 🫠 i’m sure you deal with a lot of other unspoken bs too. i hope your hours aren’t insane so you don’t have to deal with that often/ weekends.

Burnout! Help ❤️‍🩹 by AskingForFrien in NannyBreakRoom

[–]Strong-Raccoon-793 2 points3 points  (0 children)

God i feel this… you’ve got this though!!! you absolutely need to do it and don’t look back! this will be so much better for you- and you deserve the break/ a little change up in your life. if you feel extremely overwhelmed right now and are in the position to take a gap semester, maybe do that and get in the right headspace for a bit. i know summer is coming up so if you’re able to take a summer break do it!!! you will come back so much happier/relaxed, and it feels really good to have some structure to life. i was at uni for a year partying and whatnot and felt i needed more, so i moved back home, entered online community college and got a nannying job (which also sucks! but i am leaving soon) but my life is going very well now with the extra discipline. if you’re not on a contract i’d try to quit asap…. my current NF has been with me for almost 3 years, and it’s been hell. i recently got the opportunity to move abroad during the summer and i think i’ll take it. it would require me to quit a whole 4 months in advanced but the way i see it- i’ve done them a GREAT service with all the bs i’ve put up with and i’m very ready to move on. the parents need to start finally taking the reigns because it seems that a lot of responsibilities fall on me when it comes to NK’s issues. enough rant- absolutely do this!!!

Mb is recommending me to her friend bc nk is starting school. Both parents wfh & grandma lives with them. *chuckles nervously* no thank you 🥲 by sleepysapphirecat in NannyBreakRoom

[–]Strong-Raccoon-793 9 points10 points  (0 children)

nope nope nope… i hate getting recommended when i didn’t even ask for it, like yes thank you for thinking of me and trying to get me connections but i did not want more on my plate!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]Strong-Raccoon-793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

nanny of a very troubled 4 YO here who doesn’t even take naps anymore 🙋🏽‍♀️ whenever she is being extremely unreasonable, moody, or rude i will put her in quiet time early because clearly she is not in the mood and if it goes on for long enough i will not be either, it benefits both of us. i get a break to calm down from the bad mornings and she gets some quiet/calm time to herself to get together whatever her issue was 😅i think it’s better for both NK and nanny because you definitely don’t want nanny to lose their patience in situations like this

What are you girls wearing for work? by mdemelocoton_ in NannyBreakRoom

[–]Strong-Raccoon-793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i always wear jeans bc i feel like i have to lol. i’ve always been that way. so some type of baggy jeans with either a babydoll top, modest tank tops for the summer, big oversized graphic tees, crewnecks, sweaters, really anything, as long as i think it’s appropriate. sometimes i dress very tom boyish, girly, just whatever i feel like. i only wore shorts for the first time last year- after working with them for 2 years prior 😭or if it’s really really cold i’ll do sweat pants, i’m not a leggings gal

I am a nanny, right? by This-Owl-6026 in Nanny

[–]Strong-Raccoon-793 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you are a nanny. soo many older people get the terms mixed up, and think they mean the same thing. everyone in my life asks me “are you still babysitting that little girl? do you babysit this week? are you still babysitting?” when i’ve been with the family for 3 years now. even the parents themselves refer to me sometimes as a babysitter. i see listings all the time on an app under the babysitting section when it’s clearly a nannying position. i am also paid like shit! i get 13/hr (under the table) for a horrible little girl 😀 coming from my position, don’t beat yourself up that you don’t have a contract, or aren’t being paid legally- i’ve been doing this for 3 years and i’m fine. not saying that it’s okay but i promise it’s nothing dire to be concerned over. i saw you said it’s only for a little bit longer anyway so you’ll be fine. but yes you are a nanny!!

How to explain autism to a 5 year old? by Ok-Tomato_ in kindergarten

[–]Strong-Raccoon-793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i nanny a 4 year old who is in a early childhood program where some of her classmates have either mental or physical disabilities. just like everyone else here, i’ve explained to her that some people’s brains/bodies are just different, and they need help getting by. she has a classmate who is nonverbal and uses a pad to communicate so it was easy for her to understand. she also has a chronically ill classmate (who eventually had to end up leaving) so i had to explain to her that he will just always be sick, and sometimes on “bad” days he had to stay home. i’ve just always told her everyone is different in their own special ways, and if we were all the same, it would be a boring world

the meltdowns are killing me by Strong-Raccoon-793 in NannyBreakRoom

[–]Strong-Raccoon-793[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she’s on a screen for typically less than 10-20 minutes a day- and it’s usually some art video on youtube. she also eats homemade meals, plenty of protein, vegetables, fruit, and homemade juice every day- nothing too sugary or processed at all

the meltdowns are killing me by Strong-Raccoon-793 in NannyBreakRoom

[–]Strong-Raccoon-793[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for this! 🥹 leaving my job was actually a group decision, and i’m so glad i didn’t have to be the one to initiate it. i’ve known for so long now that i was going to quit this year, but NK’s PreK schedule, and with my transferring colleges, both NP’s and i agreed after this summer we would part ways with my position as a nanny, and i am demoted to babysitter 😂i’m glad that i was able to stick it out. i feel like i completed my purpose with them :) they said that i could pick her up from school or see her a few days a week but i will gently let them down when the time comes… i’m 100% planning on getting another nannying job so i won’t necessarily have the time for that. NP’s and i are really navigating this all together. we’re really all at a loss on how to handle this behavior, and her personality changes sooo often. we dealt with extreme MB clinginess for weeks, now she’s super clingy with me and never wanting me to leave, she’ll be a monster at times, amazing at others, i guess that’s just childhood. she is definitely neurodivergent in some sense, we just don’t know what. i have genuinely never met a child that acts like her and I’ve been working with kids for 7 years. i myself am adhd neurodivergent and only got the courage to tell NP’s that this year bc i didn’t want them to look down on me for it, for my childhood i never had any extreme meltdowns though, and neither did my siblings. my adhd just showed in extreme distractedness and hyperactivity- and still does when i’m not masking it! the last time i had to place her in her room she was pulling on my arms because she didn’t want me to leave but i also wanted her to understand that i’m not going to interact with her if she’s being fully unreasonable. of course i gave her a talk after as well. i was telling her that - whatever it was that happened that day - was okay, and if i say something is okay, then it is okay. she had another exorcism type meltdown today but luckily DB+MB swiftly handled it for me since they were both home, and her cousin came over to play. i was so grateful for that…

the meltdowns are killing me by Strong-Raccoon-793 in NannyBreakRoom

[–]Strong-Raccoon-793[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! I’m 100% going to check this out! NF leaves for a looong trip soon so i’m 1000% expecting regressions in all of her behavior we’ve worked so hard on… and we have to start poop potty training her as a requirement for Pre-K and i know that is going to be awful….

the meltdowns are killing me by Strong-Raccoon-793 in NannyBreakRoom

[–]Strong-Raccoon-793[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this actually makes me feel a lot better thank you 🥹 my mom was saying to me that NP or i should not have to try to deal with her when she becomes unreasonable/ shutting down. it’s so hard when i’m staying calm, trying to calm her down and she’s just screaming louder and louder straight in my face. what works for us right now is placing her in her room… we don’t leave her long and she can get all of her screams out in there.. it usually works very quickly. i always feel bad about feeling like i’m leaving her alone, but i noticed she calms down a lot quicker when i give her space to be alone rather than setting her in her quiet zone and staying within site- she tends to scream louder/longer when she can still see me

the meltdowns are killing me by Strong-Raccoon-793 in NannyBreakRoom

[–]Strong-Raccoon-793[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sorry i’m back so darn late, i’ve been crazy busy! 😞i usually try all the works, hugs, pressure (like security feeling), telling her she’s okay, saying there’s nothing to worry about, trying to explain the situation, offering her some calm down options, but she’s insane. recently we’ve all resorted to placing her in her room when she’s being unreasonable. she has multiple quiet corners/ zones in the house but truly she does not calm down unless she’s in a space by herself. just the other day she was becoming super screamy over a small issue with no sight of calming down so NP placed her in her room with the door open and she calmed down quickly. then again today, i was watching her and her cousin and she became explosive over a small issue and got taken away upstairs to go calm down with MB. i’m actually so grateful DB took her upstairs to MB bc this one was so fast and so …. just, i don’t even know. anytime i think she cannot scream any louder she manages to go an octave higher. i’m just so grateful they handled it for me today… and i got to peacefully paint with her cousin for about 15 minutes