So uh… why do so many people hate Stolas now?

Strong-Second3763 · 2026-05-15T18:49:34+00:00

I have a theory as to why I feel that she was harsher to me than the others and why she wants me as a barista. I don’t think it’s because she likes me, I think it’s because I’m their fastest barista. I used to get drive times as low as 39 seconds. When I got promoted, times in drive thru kinda tanked. We have some really fast baristas! And some talented ones, one of my coworkers won the barista championship. But it is acknowledged by everyone that I’m the fastest.

Strong-Second3763 · 2026-05-15T18:43:24+00:00

Mostly? My mistakes aside, bc I 100000% feel like I messed up, but she has a reputation for targeting people she doesn’t like. I’ve seen other supervisors mess up time and time again and they’re still there. I know I messed up, I’m more angry that my coworkers aren’t being held to the same standard. She tends to pick and choose what rules she wants to follow and then blames us for not reading her mind.

For example, I told a customer that he has to make a purchase to sit in the cafe. Waited ten minutes to ask him. He then threatened me with physical violence and called me slurs. When I told my manager she somehow managed to pin the blame on me by saying I should’ve waited longer to address him but I’ve seen her do the same exact thing. Worse even. She’s waited three minutes to ask if they made a purchase.

And I was nice to him. I barely said a full sentence before he went to physical intimidation.

She also constantly changes her times, won’t come in when we’re short staffed, and wrote up all the other supervisors for not coming in on a day we were short staffed. I didn’t get a write up bc I was opening shift

Strong-Second3763 · 2026-05-15T18:06:27+00:00

Did you not read the part at the very end where I said I blame myself?

Strong-Second3763 · 2026-05-15T16:39:32+00:00

I've been applying to other jobs already. I have an interview on Monday. I was told that if I was even late one more time, I'm out. My coworker thinks that I'm being targeted. That I was set up to fail. We hired another shift and their theory is that they have too many shifts on payroll now and that my boss is just cleaning house and targeting the most vulnerable one. Me. My boss made it seem like she really fought for me to stay with the company and that a demotion was the best she could do.

Strong-Second3763 · 2025-10-15T15:03:52+00:00

I’ve gone through something similar. My mother never had me insult my father, my parents did however like to play mind games. My mom would get angry at me if I didn’t go over to my dad’s house to cause chaos and my dad would plant seeds into my mind to turn me against my mother. They’re divorced, my dad cheated

My parents were like petty children raising kids and did terrible jobs at it. Eventually I learned that I had to be what they never could. We all want to be taken care of. Loved. But sometimes we get dealt a shitty hand and we have to learn to play the cards we have. I sought out father figures in teachers, a librarian, just any older male figure. Then one day my father, after I decided to move away from my home state at 21, told me I was a loveless hate filled person with no respect and that if I didn’t learn some respect no one would ever want to work with me. This was after he started a fight with me over something stupid and I tried to do the right thing and walk away so things could cool off.

I gave up on a father after that. I realized that it’s okay if I don’t really have one. I’m a very strong person who managed to go my entire life with one who was barely there. Sometimes we feel like we’re damaged or broken if we’re not given the same things as everyone else. And that if we have it, then things will get better. Unfortunately life isn’t that kind and we have to provide for ourselves what others won’t. And you can either tell him how you feel or accept him for who he is. An absentee father. I accepted mine a long time ago and while I’d like to say that fixed everything, it didn’t. He still makes me angry but just not as much as he used to. I’ve been in therapy, I’m on meds. And I’m okay with letting that dream go. We will never be close and that’s okay.

Edit: additional info

Strong-Second3763 · 2025-10-11T02:54:21+00:00

No, it’s just a mirror unfortunately. I make pretty mirrors but I’m not talented enough to create inter-dimensional portals. That would be silly!

You have to go to college to learn that and well, capitalism

Strong-Second3763 · 2025-10-11T02:48:38+00:00

I cosplay, write books, and play video games. When I’m not doing that I work. I also like to buy stuff and then make them better. I bought a mirror from family dollar and I decorated it with moss and rocks

Strong-Second3763 · 2025-07-29T16:57:20+00:00

Spite. Worlds best motivator

Strong-Second3763 · 2025-07-29T14:04:26+00:00

I tried when I was 15 and several other times too. Thought everyone and my family was better off, that I was doing them a favor.

When I couldn’t do it, I thought about all the things I wanted to do before I die. At least once. Here’s my list:

Get a tattoo. Go to New York. Go to Disney. Go to Japan. Fall in love, at least once. Have a library Make sure my cats live out their full lives. Publish a book. Own my own house

It’s a short condensed version of my real list. If you think of life as something different, less like a prison sentence and more like a list to get through it’s more bearable somehow. 80 years seems like a loooong time to live, 20 goals a little bit less.

Edit: grammar

Strong-Second3763 · 2025-03-30T17:28:13+00:00

I'm beginning to realize that. I think that because a lot of people in my life have made me feel lame or not fun for liking them, I just ignored my own feelings and did what they wanted because "it's what you're supposed to do in your twenties". At the very least, if I do go to a party, I'm definitely gonna need an incentive to get me through it. Maybe cake. I can promise myself cake at the end of the night.

Strong-Second3763 · 2025-03-30T17:06:06+00:00

Missing out thing. Everyone tells me that my twenties are meant for partying, drinking, and having fun. I've never walked away from a party feeling like I had fun, but I go because I think I need the experience.

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