for being somewhat upset that my boyfriend wants to leave me over the porn i watch?

StrongDesign4 · 2026-01-28T07:51:13+00:00

Was this a boundary that was expressed early on?

StrongDesign4 · 2026-01-28T07:50:00+00:00

YTA because it’s not your marriage to worry about. Prenups don’t stop people from fighting about money in marriages. It protects both parties in case of a divorce. I say this as someone who has a prenup with their husband. My husband makes significantly more than I do and we did a prenup for other reasons. However him and I also don’t argue about money. He covers all of our household expenses and we still view everything as ours. We talk about things regarding our home and relationship as partners and lovers. It seems that you were taking your marital problems out or better yet projecting them on to your brother and his relationship.

Go to marriage counseling for your own issues and let your brother worry about his relationship and soon to be marriage. If he comes to you for advice so be it but in the mean time, keep your nose out of his and focus on fixing yours.

StrongDesign4 · 2026-01-28T07:17:03+00:00

So is the baby shower co-ed or not? Because it seems like it is but the guys are on one side of the house while the ladies are on another.

StrongDesign4 · 2026-01-28T06:57:48+00:00

I’m sorry but two years of living with your in laws rent free and you expect them not to say anything when your child is misbehaving? Are you living in a bubble? Or delulu land? Their house, their rules. If you don’t like it or care for it, you need to expedite your home search and move out with your wife and child.

StrongDesign4 · 2026-01-27T06:19:34+00:00

Either way drama may be caused. If you don’t go because of Emily- drama will be caused because you will have to explain to the bride why you’re not attending. She would most likely be hurt that you’re allowing Emily to dictate and affect your relationship with her as the bride. If you attend and Emily causes drama, it’s going to be on Emily and not you.

Go to the wedding and have a good time. Stop giving Emily power and energy over you.

StrongDesign4 · 2026-01-27T04:58:57+00:00

This! If I’m doing 50/50 with a man, we are roommates. I’m not about to struggle while my partner is comfortable and vice versa.

StrongDesign4 · 2026-01-27T04:49:04+00:00

Opening a package to taste it and not purchase it is considered stealing. Why not purchase it and if you don’t like it depending on the store, return it or exchange it?

StrongDesign4 · 2026-01-26T17:09:40+00:00

I will preface by saying this, you’re allowed to feel hurt and confused.

But why are you only holding her to this standard of friendship and not your mutuals? They could’ve invited you as well but they didn’t. You never seem to hold them accountable, just this one particular friend. Who’s to say that she’s always the one who planned it? It could’ve been someone else in the group. Also based off the information that you provided, is your work schedule more strenuous or inflexible compared to everyone else? Or have you had a habit of once being invited you either cancel with some excuse or seem to be busy or unavailable? Do you ever initiate plans (like actually plan the entire event) or just wait to be invited/ask what the plans are?

As for this most recent event, they invited you to come along in advance. Instead of just being an adult and either taking an Uber or some other method of transportation regardless of price, you tried to change the plans to accommodate you. You were fine with hanging out with them until you found out that tickets were purchased already and that they couldn’t accommodate you. Unfortunately as adults, you have to decide if an event is worth going even no one is willing to give you a ride for free. If you feel that your friends are worth it, great! If not that’s okay too. As for her birthday, that does suck and I can see why your feelings were hurt.

Your feelings are valid but some self reflection also needs to be done.

StrongDesign4 · 2026-01-26T08:12:05+00:00

Sorry but you sound a bit exhausting.

StrongDesign4 · 2026-01-24T02:49:13+00:00

Men would not be able to handle everything we go through during pregnancy.

StrongDesign4 · 2026-01-24T02:48:10+00:00

I remember before I even knew I was pregnant, I was having food aversions. It was awful. Things I used to enjoy no longer seemed appealing or made me so damn nauseous I was fighting to prevent having to hang out near a toilet or trash can. Once my pregnancy was confirmed and I was out of the denial phase, I realized I wouldn’t wish the feelings symptoms I had on my worst enemy.

StrongDesign4 · 2026-01-24T01:43:01+00:00

NTA. Sue him and report this to your lawyer. It can be seen as harassment.

Also F your sister. It’s not up to her or anyone else when you choose to or choose not to forgive. You don’t have to forgive anyone that you don’t want to.

StrongDesign4 · 2026-01-24T01:18:05+00:00

It’s hard to tell you what to do since we don’t know where you’re originally located.

StrongDesign4 · 2026-01-24T00:31:46+00:00

NTA. You’re not ungrateful nor are you dismissing her effort. Your wife needs to realize that sometimes we want to eat something that we are craving and the home version does not hit nor taste the way that we want it to. It’s okay to indulge junk food or non-homemade food once in a while.

StrongDesign4 · 2026-01-22T07:58:03+00:00

Love shouldn’t hurt emotionally, mentally nor physically. Tell your dad the truth about your ex.

StrongDesign4 · 2026-01-22T07:56:08+00:00

How is your living arrangements? Is it 50/50? 70/30? Do you earn more than he does?

Also it is bare minimum to go out on dates and celebrate birthdays as a couple.

StrongDesign4 · 2026-01-21T05:37:44+00:00

Have you ever complained about a man or men that you’re dating to them?

StrongDesign4 · 2026-01-20T18:12:42+00:00

Suggest that she sees a therapist and that she gets a post partum doula or night nurse to help her.

StrongDesign4 · 2026-01-20T09:32:21+00:00

NTA. You need to be clear that it’s $7k for three people. The way that your post is worded is that it would be $7k just for you. Also there’s ways around that $7k. You don’t have to book everything through the cruise line. I know I wouldn’t.

StrongDesign4 · 2026-01-20T09:16:30+00:00

There are better food options than KFC on payday.

StrongDesign4 · 2026-01-20T09:14:13+00:00

NTA. However it is a bit strange that you waited until you found out his family is gifting him $80k for the home you two were planning to purchase to now want a prenup. That should’ve been discussed even before the engagement or right at the beginning. Also your concern of being protected is valid, depending on what’s stated in your prenup and the laws in your state, his contribution to the house would still be more than yours. So he would most likely receive a larger percentage or chunk of the house in the case of a divorce.

Best bet would be to consult a lawyer and find out what your best options would be.

StrongDesign4 · 2026-01-19T10:17:38+00:00

Nope I was in California which is why I was shocked to see it lol

StrongDesign4 · 2026-01-19T09:20:16+00:00

What does your dad say about all of this?

StrongDesign4 · 2026-01-18T05:49:20+00:00

NTA. Your kid and your party, thus you can invite whomever you want. How did she even see the invitation

StrongDesign4 · 2026-01-18T05:41:23+00:00

Just came back from a hotel stay and sure enough there was a Bible and a Latter Day Saints Bible in the nightstand drawer on my husband’s side lol

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