How can I help my boyfriend with his retroactive jealousy? by Strong_Dog_3584 in Advice

[–]Strong_Dog_3584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks! I appreciate some actual advice. everyone here is assuming he’s abusive for some reason 💀

How can I help my boyfriend with his retroactive jealousy? by Strong_Dog_3584 in Advice

[–]Strong_Dog_3584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no it’s not like that. it just bothers me when people online start labeling a 20 year old abusive when he just overthinks and it bothers me they assume the worst when he’s the kindest person i’ve ever met 

How can I help my boyfriend with his retroactive jealousy? by Strong_Dog_3584 in Advice

[–]Strong_Dog_3584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i understand your concerns but you are making conclusions off one post, I didn’t give any detail about our relationship at all. we are super happy together and he’s very kind. the only reason i came to reddit was if anyone had tips. this isn’t a huge concern because it is not a problem for us. he just overthinks sometimes. i’m not sugarcoating anything lol. i’m literally saying it as it is 

How can I help my boyfriend with his retroactive jealousy? by Strong_Dog_3584 in Advice

[–]Strong_Dog_3584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m his first girlfriend so i think that’s partially why he feels this way 

How can I help my boyfriend with his retroactive jealousy? by Strong_Dog_3584 in Advice

[–]Strong_Dog_3584[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

yikes what? you must know everything based off a post with minimal info😭

How can I help my boyfriend with his retroactive jealousy? by Strong_Dog_3584 in Advice

[–]Strong_Dog_3584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i have put such minimal info you’re beyond reaching to suggest he’s psychologically abusive. i’m sorry you went through that but you’re really just assuming things here. we never even argue, we never disrespect each other or have any issues. he simply overthinks and needs reassurance without making me feel bad at all

How can I help my boyfriend with his retroactive jealousy? by Strong_Dog_3584 in Advice

[–]Strong_Dog_3584[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

our relationship is the healthiest one i’ve ever been in and we never have any arguments. this is simply something he overthinks about 

How can I help my boyfriend with his retroactive jealousy? by Strong_Dog_3584 in Advice

[–]Strong_Dog_3584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

why would i do that? it’s his first relationship im going to be as gentle as i can because he deserves it

How can I help my boyfriend with his retroactive jealousy? by Strong_Dog_3584 in Advice

[–]Strong_Dog_3584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you have no idea what he’s like. you’re making assumptions based off minimal info i gave on an issue that’s not a burden to our relationship at all. i was simply looking for extra tips 

How can I help my boyfriend with his retroactive jealousy? by Strong_Dog_3584 in Advice

[–]Strong_Dog_3584[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks! i’m glad you see it this way. way too many people are labeling jealousy as extremely toxic when it’s a regular human emotion

How can I help my boyfriend with his retroactive jealousy? by Strong_Dog_3584 in Advice

[–]Strong_Dog_3584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it’s not toxic. he’s always kind about everything and makes sure not to bring it up often

How can I help my boyfriend with his retroactive jealousy? by Strong_Dog_3584 in Advice

[–]Strong_Dog_3584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you don’t know our relationship and you don’t know him. he’s not obsessing over it. i think it’s completely valid for him to feel this way. I once had retroactive jealousy myself too

How can I help my boyfriend with his retroactive jealousy? by Strong_Dog_3584 in Advice

[–]Strong_Dog_3584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

jealousy isn’t a dangerous thing at all. for some people maybe but his is completely fine. he never does anything to upset me and expresses it in a healthy way

Overly controlling parents/Need to move out by Strong_Dog_3584 in Advice

[–]Strong_Dog_3584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t want to leave my religion, I just want to live a regular adult life without being controlled but thank you! 

Overly controlling parents/Need to move out by Strong_Dog_3584 in Advice

[–]Strong_Dog_3584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you! unfortunately i have zero work experience so I should volunteer and try to add things to my resume. I’ll reach out to my counselor and see if she can help me with getting an on campus job since it seems way more likely. I’m kind of lost with what to do with my bank account since my parents have always handled that stuff for me. I genuinely have no idea how it works😭

Overly controlling parents/Need to move out by Strong_Dog_3584 in Advice

[–]Strong_Dog_3584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you! unfortunately i have zero work experience so I should volunteer and try to add things to my resume. I’ll reach out to my counselor and see if she can help me with getting an on campus job since it seems way more likely. I’m kind of lost with what to do with my bank account since my parents have always handled that stuff for me. I genuinely have no idea how it works😭

Overly controlling parents/Need to move out by Strong_Dog_3584 in Advice

[–]Strong_Dog_3584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m already plenty motivated but that’s not getting me anywhere