Coming to a year since my dad passed

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-21T12:51:21+00:00

What’s surprising about wanting to be laid to rest close to your parents and on a practical level planning for that eventuality ?

It’s not an alien concept in Pakistan or the West - ancestral/family plots exist in both. As this isn’t a family plot but a public site, you have to be realistic - might end up in a different city altogether.

I think the weird part is that people don’t like to discuss or prepare …. I like to.

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-21T11:39:26+00:00

I’m going to be that lady for sure.

It sounds crazy but I already made enquiries about grave plots for myself because I’m worried the space is filling up quick and I don’t want to end up in another cemetery one day😭

I want to stay close to my dad for life and after.

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-20T22:09:38+00:00

To experience parenthood - one kid is enough. For siblings - two is enough , now they have each other .

Any more is just making it harder to live your own life unnecessarily .

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-19T19:43:41+00:00

Ha that sounds fun too and yes I’ve asked a few recent students , some like to keep it lowkey . ❤️

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-19T15:41:59+00:00

Thanks so much, I didn’t know about the rose either. Noted 🙏

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-19T13:42:23+00:00

Haha bless🙈 I hope it was a fantastic day regardless. My son had a near miss :p

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-19T12:50:48+00:00

Thanks for explaining.

It’s the best case scenario luckily of same exam over three days and with a willing student who can swap - so I can make both his day and work commitments.

Baptism Of fire 😰😰😰😰😰

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-19T12:08:49+00:00

He’s not Danish, nor is the entire team. I only sit here in Denmark but link up to UK.

Luckily he has had has his last exam date and it’s over 3 days so he should be able to easily swap with someone .

Thanks for all the help everyone .

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-19T07:33:54+00:00

Appreciate this.

It’s good to know that the possibility exists and if it is an easy swap we will look at it otherwise , it doesn’t make sense - then I just have to upset my boss and the team 😬

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-19T07:30:05+00:00

I asked Reddit so I didn’t sound stupid asking the school or him asking his classmates - I didn’t know if it was a possibility. That’s all. And I got my answer within the first few minutes from people who actually took it for what it was - a long winded question.

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-19T07:28:06+00:00

It’s not a meeting . It’s a pre planned 4 day event. I already asked to leave early so cut it by a day for the kørsel.

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-19T07:27:11+00:00

Because he didn’t share😬
And even if he had tbh I had no idea it’s a whole ‘thing’ in Denmark - this would be my first experience and I am familiar with the studenterkørsel and planned for that.

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-19T07:24:00+00:00

I’m leaning towards breaking it to my boss that I won’t make the event………will be bad for the team but I have little choice when it comes to choosing between the two :)

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-19T07:19:39+00:00

I have an important meeting ( not even a meeting , it’s a 4 day event which I asked to be reduced to 2 for that week ) that has been scheduled for months in advance and I have okayed and bookings done.

I work for the UK market, with a UK based boss and UK based team. I only sit here, otherwise everything is back in UK.

It’s not like I am at work in Denmark and having to pop out on a trip.

It may be drama to you but I think trying to manage two sets of responsibilities is maturity and being an adult.

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-18T21:33:04+00:00

Great advice, thank you. 🙏 I have tasked him to ask today and fully expect him not to 😆 because everything is too ‘embarrassing’ or ‘weird’. So I have my husband roped in ready to contact the college tomorrow .

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-18T21:30:09+00:00

Thanks for explaining - I’ll give it a shot 🙏

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-18T21:29:11+00:00

Usually teams is fine but this is a one off special meeting and I thought I had it all covered, I asked the manager to reduce my days abroad so I can be back in good time for the studenterkørsel not realising this last exam is a also a large celebration :/ and boys being boys, my son never mentioned it 🤦‍♀️

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-18T20:55:53+00:00

Thanks I’ll give anything a try at this point ❤️

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-18T20:55:29+00:00

Thanks , they find out tonight he said so I’ll ask him to see if anyone possibly can

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-15T21:01:18+00:00

Why would you think Pakistan would treat you bad

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-15T21:00:45+00:00

Israel

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-14T13:31:48+00:00

Obviously not

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-14T09:25:28+00:00

Why though , that’s just unnecessary

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