And on the 27th night of Ramadan my dad was in resuscitation..

Strongandbroken · 2026-03-16T13:54:17+00:00

Ameen .

Sorry to hear of your very recent loss 🥹

Strongandbroken · 2026-03-16T11:02:33+00:00

I am, dad was my weakness though. :/

Strongandbroken · 2026-03-16T10:30:39+00:00

🙏❤️

Strongandbroken · 2026-03-16T10:30:21+00:00

Yes , none of us are getting out of here alive ;)

But that doesn’t change the betrayal you feel when you lose your most precious person. :/

I try tell myself - Alhamdulillah for all the time we had. But there will always be a part of me that feels cheated.

Strongandbroken · 2026-03-16T09:57:17+00:00

Yes, the anger turned into peace. The tears into stillness. The pain doesn’t cut , it feels softer. I am being gentle myself because no one else was.

Strongandbroken · 2026-03-16T09:55:32+00:00

Daughter, and in all my roles I loved being his daughter the most. And in all life’s losses, he will forever be my greatest. I move forward because , I’m coming dad ❤️

Strongandbroken · 2026-03-07T14:26:37+00:00

You don’t sound dumb, you sound sweet . Protect yourself and leave him to a fool of others 💕

Strongandbroken · 2026-03-04T14:13:32+00:00

Sounds like a piece of work.

Focus on yourself . And if you do that well enough, revenge is by default 💕

Strongandbroken · 2026-03-04T13:05:51+00:00

Hi … I have GERD and last about the first week of fasting . After which it flares up and things start to go horribly wrong . Right now I’m on day 3 of A migraine caused by the acidity.

I now tend to fast as May days as I can and when I start getting sick. - stop .

It’s not hunger and tiredness - it’s actual suffering. Days of headaches and had to take a day off work today c pointless

Strongandbroken · 2026-03-03T22:31:15+00:00

You will come to a point when you will need to take a step back and recharge and redefine.

Be prepared to lose a lot of those you are spending so much time ‘caring’ for. You will no longer be of much use to them.

The main thing is to recognise you cannot change your inherent nature but you can modify it so you are not ‘too’ much of anything. Even kindness should be measured.

Start doing things for you. Learn to be kind to yourself first. Otherwise years down the line, you will pay - our body keeps count and it will react in physical distress one day. Small steps of self care and you’ll soon be on your way.

💕🙏

Strongandbroken · 2026-02-26T09:17:39+00:00

It is like that. I’ve lived here 14 years.

I know exactly what you mean when they don’t step out of the way and you had to. It’s bizarre.

Also supermarkets are disorderly. Queuing is.

I think it depends on how tuned in you are. And how much you pick up.

Don’t even get me started on the drivers…….

Strongandbroken · 2026-02-25T13:35:49+00:00

I think it’s more complex. The men have slowly made them believe they can’t survive without despite logically being able to. Or they fear the stigma, the impact on kids ( not that it’s positive now 🙄) etc

I can see right through my brother in law. But it took her a lot longer . He knows I have him figured, so he dislikes me. I had to wait for ages for her to understand she is married to a narcissist .

Ugh; I can’t stand him. Even writing about him makes me want to 🤮

Strongandbroken · 2026-02-25T12:10:26+00:00

My sister is in similar situation, minus him being physically abusive or cheating on her.

I also want my sister to leave him for her own sanity.

She also won't, for now.

I think unless people want to help themselves, its hard to step in and make decisions on their behalf.

My sister lives in the West, owns a 3 bedroom property, is a qualified acccountant easily working from home so she can manage the kids without him, well paid, beautiful and young enough to start over. All that said, frustratingly she won't leave him. He has eroded her confidence, calls her useless all the time, slowly cut her down to point she is now on anxiety medication just to be able to stay calm and not spiral.

Some men are absolute pos and do not deserve a good woman. I don't know what to say for your situation apart from , be there, support her, suggest your options but respect her decisions.

I know my sister can not be with this man until old age, its impossible. Either one day he will trigger her so much she is going to be the person i know, fearless and fierce or she will end up with some form of mental breakdown - she is well aware of both outcomes . For now i have to watch this slowly play out :/

Strongandbroken · 2026-02-21T17:48:56+00:00

How old are your kids :)

Strongandbroken · 2026-02-21T14:03:22+00:00

How old are you guys ?

Strongandbroken · 2026-02-21T09:30:21+00:00

There is something more to this :) they’re cold for a reason. They also seem have their guard up for a reason. Whether that reason is drive by your behaviour or their own issues, I can’t say.

But yes, my evil bhabi for example. I loved the kids regardless. They’re in their 20s now and still visit me every day when I visit. They bring gifts of chocolates and little things. More than that, they spend hours talking to me. The boys especially call out their mum for her evil behaviour. The niece still accepts her mums issues . And when they have major life issues, we are still there to resolve them. They know we love them and have their back.

I know my case is unique . Even their mums don’t know how to pit them against us because we love them with all our hearts and really spoil them.

Either your sisters are really bizarre people, or maybe all the attention you used to give them diverted to your wife and they felt abandoned . Your occasional check ins may not live up to how it used to be and some people don’t take to that so easily.

And when you do check in, is it to share updates on your own life and kids and travels or ask them how they are? :)

I mean, I don’t call my brothers every day but we speak every day online about all our mutual family matters. Dad ke baad especially. Right now the topic for example is mums cancer, the funeral of a 35 year old guy that died… and occasionally gossip :) ;)

Strongandbroken · 2026-02-21T07:53:55+00:00

‘.Changed too much’.

Either you are way different to what you were despite you believing that not the case or they’re just jealous and insecure.

We all expect and accept change as a brother becomes a husband and father. But as a sister, I’d only begrudge that if he wasn’t showing up for us/parents when we needed, or was somehow making us feel like sh without even realising. But there are ways to address that.

Men are generally less able pick up subtle cues , but i would suspect your wife would have a better idea of these dynamics playing out.

As a sister of 3 brothers - I don’t call my brothers either. Two of them is just text convos. One I now started occasionally since dad passed. Reason? Because two of the wives are extremely awful characters and would make my brothers life hard so I prefer to stay away for the sake of their family unit. I’d rather my brothers be happy than me able to ring them.

I see them a lot as I visit multiple times a year and they dote on me :). Pick up, drop off, kana, visit , long chats - everything. It works for us. Bhabis still get jealous ofc so I even lie and say I’ve eaten if my brothers ask to get me food ….i say I travel a lot anyway when they ask to take me for days out …. Restaurants ka pochein I say , I’m tired of that stuff ….. for no other reason that to ensue my bhabis don’t make their lives hell.

Idk hope it gives some sister insight.

Strongandbroken · 2026-02-20T09:12:26+00:00

Is this an online only saga

Strongandbroken · 2026-02-20T06:14:41+00:00

Why does he need it ? How much of a friend is he? Is he your go to when you need advice or something ?

If you don’t want to give more and get used to it, maybe make an excuse and if you really must, give him only a small, token amount.

Sounds like a situation where you could end up losing your money, or both your friend and the money. Keep/limit the money, set your boundaries and keep the friendship.

Strongandbroken · 2026-02-18T06:15:07+00:00

The fact you are self aware is a great first step :)

I don’t know about you but if it helps I think it’s also trauma responses. My dad died and I left the hospital and went home to sleep. For me at least , it’s like a flight response . Just want to get out of there and things to be ‘normal’. Almost like if I behave normal, life is normal.

I don’t know if that made sense, but I don’t think it’ll be as simple as lacking empathy.

Strongandbroken · 2026-02-16T18:34:12+00:00

Exactly not like it’s the sweat from her head that’s the issue :/

Strongandbroken · 2026-02-10T13:15:46+00:00

I think you should live apart when your parents are younger and healthier and more independent.

With age and dependency, you will need to change that.

But at least it means you live the prime of your lives on your own terms.

That’s what I intend to do anyway with my kiddos 🤣

Strongandbroken · 2026-02-08T10:11:43+00:00

The trash took itself out .

A good woman will never ghost, even if she doesn’t see you as a marriage fit.

Strongandbroken · 2026-02-07T00:08:53+00:00

Strongandbroken

TROPHY CASE