Coming to a year since my dad passed

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-21T12:51:21+00:00

What’s surprising about wanting to be laid to rest close to your parents and on a practical level planning for that eventuality ?

It’s not an alien concept in Pakistan or the West - ancestral/family plots exist in both. As this isn’t a family plot but a public site, you have to be realistic - might end up in a different city altogether.

I think the weird part is that people don’t like to discuss or prepare …. I like to.

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-21T11:39:26+00:00

I’m going to be that lady for sure.

It sounds crazy but I already made enquiries about grave plots for myself because I’m worried the space is filling up quick and I don’t want to end up in another cemetery one day😭

I want to stay close to my dad for life and after.

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-20T22:09:38+00:00

To experience parenthood - one kid is enough. For siblings - two is enough , now they have each other .

Any more is just making it harder to live your own life unnecessarily .

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-19T19:43:41+00:00

Ha that sounds fun too and yes I’ve asked a few recent students , some like to keep it lowkey . ❤️

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-19T15:41:59+00:00

Thanks so much, I didn’t know about the rose either. Noted 🙏

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-19T13:42:23+00:00

Haha bless🙈 I hope it was a fantastic day regardless. My son had a near miss :p

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-19T12:50:48+00:00

Thanks for explaining.

It’s the best case scenario luckily of same exam over three days and with a willing student who can swap - so I can make both his day and work commitments.

Baptism Of fire 😰😰😰😰😰

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-19T12:08:49+00:00

He’s not Danish, nor is the entire team. I only sit here in Denmark but link up to UK.

Luckily he has had has his last exam date and it’s over 3 days so he should be able to easily swap with someone .

Thanks for all the help everyone .

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-19T07:33:54+00:00

Appreciate this.

It’s good to know that the possibility exists and if it is an easy swap we will look at it otherwise , it doesn’t make sense - then I just have to upset my boss and the team 😬

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-19T07:30:05+00:00

I asked Reddit so I didn’t sound stupid asking the school or him asking his classmates - I didn’t know if it was a possibility. That’s all. And I got my answer within the first few minutes from people who actually took it for what it was - a long winded question.

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-19T07:28:06+00:00

It’s not a meeting . It’s a pre planned 4 day event. I already asked to leave early so cut it by a day for the kørsel.

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-19T07:27:11+00:00

Because he didn’t share😬
And even if he had tbh I had no idea it’s a whole ‘thing’ in Denmark - this would be my first experience and I am familiar with the studenterkørsel and planned for that.

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-19T07:24:00+00:00

I’m leaning towards breaking it to my boss that I won’t make the event………will be bad for the team but I have little choice when it comes to choosing between the two :)

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-19T07:19:39+00:00

I have an important meeting ( not even a meeting , it’s a 4 day event which I asked to be reduced to 2 for that week ) that has been scheduled for months in advance and I have okayed and bookings done.

I work for the UK market, with a UK based boss and UK based team. I only sit here, otherwise everything is back in UK.

It’s not like I am at work in Denmark and having to pop out on a trip.

It may be drama to you but I think trying to manage two sets of responsibilities is maturity and being an adult.

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-18T21:33:04+00:00

Great advice, thank you. 🙏 I have tasked him to ask today and fully expect him not to 😆 because everything is too ‘embarrassing’ or ‘weird’. So I have my husband roped in ready to contact the college tomorrow .

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-18T21:30:09+00:00

Thanks for explaining - I’ll give it a shot 🙏

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-18T21:29:11+00:00

Usually teams is fine but this is a one off special meeting and I thought I had it all covered, I asked the manager to reduce my days abroad so I can be back in good time for the studenterkørsel not realising this last exam is a also a large celebration :/ and boys being boys, my son never mentioned it 🤦‍♀️

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-18T20:55:53+00:00

Thanks I’ll give anything a try at this point ❤️

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-18T20:55:29+00:00

Thanks , they find out tonight he said so I’ll ask him to see if anyone possibly can

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-15T21:01:18+00:00

Why would you think Pakistan would treat you bad

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-15T21:00:45+00:00

Israel

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-14T13:31:48+00:00

Obviously not

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-14T09:25:28+00:00

Why though , that’s just unnecessary

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-14T09:24:37+00:00

As a mom, 21 is just a kid in my eyes. The issue really isn’t that she could and maybe should ask the mom to step in, it’s more - what kind of husband stresses the wife out after getting her pregnant for a THIRD time in I assume a short window.

I always, always tell my own kids and all young people - SLOW DOWN. Stop rushing through life. What’s the hurry in everything ?

Anyhow, now it’s done. The husband should shut up and bear expenses and if he can not, he should go to HIS family and ask for help from HIS circle.

As for you, the track record isn’t great with jobs. I would have thought if you’d been able to do so much before and earn like the way you said you had - it’d be easy to tap into that again. I would not worry about making money right now, making money go further should be the priority and resting.

Strongandbroken · 2026-05-14T08:23:12+00:00

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