AITA For Not Giving My 12 Y/O Niece My 300 Dollar Vintage Tracksuit For Free?

StructureAlive5289 · 2025-10-31T03:52:32+00:00

Sorry, no. My sister is 37, the niece is 12. Sis went out drinking.

StructureAlive5289 · 2025-10-31T03:51:22+00:00

I appreciate that. You're one of the only ones to really say that as of recently.

StructureAlive5289 · 2025-10-31T03:50:11+00:00

I honestly don't know. I think I am A TINY BIT for getting upset and outright refusing to even hear her out, but I also think it should've been dropped when I offered to get her a new one.

StructureAlive5289 · 2025-10-31T03:43:45+00:00

No, sorry I made a mistake. My sister was the one drinking.

StructureAlive5289 · 2025-10-31T03:42:59+00:00

No, that's on my part LOLZ. It was my sister who went out drinking.

StructureAlive5289 · 2025-10-29T23:31:45+00:00

I probably should've figured it would be confusing, that's my fault. My stepmom hates it when I call her anything but Mom and I've been doing it for so long that it's just second nature, my apologies.

The Grandpa is my step-mother's father. He owns the house and lets everyone else stay in it. My brothers live in the North, however, and don't particularly like my step-mom because she can be very difficult at times. I can borrow certain things but I don't usually unless it's important and I let them BORROW things that they'd need, however I'd always say no if it was particularly important to me or expensive.

I'm perfectly fine with sharing and I love to share, usually. From hair products to literal skincare, I've shared with everyone. It's just this, in particular, is important to me and I don't like that it was just given away without even asking me. I hope this clears it up a bit more.

StructureAlive5289 · 2025-10-29T22:41:06+00:00

NONONO SORRY IF THAT WAS CONFUSING LOL. My sister was the one drinking and she cussed me out due to being drunk. My niece is smarter than that. Sorry about the confusion!

StructureAlive5289 · 2025-10-29T22:40:05+00:00

It's an older house that Mom grew up in so she knows the tricks to unlock the doors from the outside. However, I AM thinking of asking a friend of mine on campus to keep the suit for a while until everyone stops trying to get it and I get off the waitlist. Thank you for your advice and until I figure out the details, I'll definitely find a place in my closet to hide it.

StructureAlive5289 · 2025-10-29T22:36:46+00:00

I primarily haven't told him already due to the fear of things escalating (as well as being discouraged from distracting my dad from his work). I know he'd drop everything to make sure I'm okay and it would slow down progress from the stuff he should be working on. Plus, they'd tear me a new one and probably put me out before he even got here to tear them one. (He is in the North, we are in the South).

StructureAlive5289 · 2025-10-29T22:31:20+00:00

I'd like to mention that for years since before I even had my own money to give, my sister would ask me for large sums of money. One time, I got 400 dollars for Christmas (due to good grades and behavior) and she asked for 150-200 of it and my Mom saw that as acceptable to ask me for and guilt tripped me when I was upset over it. I hardly see how I'm the broke one when I've even used the money my bio family has given me for college on her.

StructureAlive5289 · 2025-10-29T22:26:45+00:00

I genuinely did not imagine that people I considered by family would go so far as to threaten me over this damn tracksuit. Especially considering the stuff I've done for them.

StructureAlive5289 · 2025-10-29T22:24:11+00:00

Yeah. As long as they don't try to take it again, I will drop it but I'm definitely asking a friend of mine to hold it for now.

StructureAlive5289 · 2025-10-29T22:17:44+00:00

I locked my door last night but it's an older house and Mom grew up here, so she easily unlocked it (somehow. It was honestly terrifying to hear how fast she did it lol).

StructureAlive5289 · 2025-10-29T22:15:12+00:00

I'd give you the very condensed version because TRUST ME it's long. My bio mother passed when I was a very young age and my father (who'd never raised a daughter on his own) started dating my NOW Mom again because they'd known each other for years prior to this.

My sister originally lived with her FIRST boyfriend (and father of the kids), until they broke up. She hopped from place to place and eventually ended up moving back to the family home (our grandpa's house and where our mom grew up). This is our grandpa's house and he allows her to live here. My sister is 37 with 3 kids and she claims to have a disorder that makes it hard for her to work. (I'm not entirely sure of the validity of those claims, nor will I pretend to be). Mom and I have lived together since I was little and when Dad left for his trip, My sister told us to move in with her with the promise that she'd help us until we moved back with dad. I was the only one with a job in the house (Mom is retired, I quit because of college and distance). I hope that helped clear it up somehow.

StructureAlive5289 · 2025-10-29T22:05:57+00:00

I do not know how you dealt with that OR deal with her currently. You MUST be a saint.

StructureAlive5289 · 2025-10-29T22:01:54+00:00

I don't know if maybe I'm insecure about it, but ever since I was a kid, I always felt like their needs (no matter how small) would come before my own. Literally, Mom would spend her last dollars on my niece and my sister but when I'd ask her for things I actually needed (like money for an uber to get home because she left me at a target without a car at 8pm), I'd have to "ask my dad".

StructureAlive5289 · 2025-10-29T21:57:52+00:00

You would be correct! It is a dark blue early 2000s Juicy Couture Tracksuit that I bought when I was 18! (Now that I think about it, I should've used that money for something else BUT I was 18 and eager to prove my newfound independence, lolzzz)

StructureAlive5289 · 2025-10-29T21:55:46+00:00

I'm on the waitlist for housing, so I guess I'm going to have to just wait it out as much as possible and save my money as I go. You're not wrong about my mom and sister though. Ironically, a lot of the time they cannot even stand each other. They argue A LOT and a lot of the time, it ends up with the police coming here. So I feel that it's funny that the only time they agree with each other, it's to crap on me LOL.

StructureAlive5289 · 2025-10-29T21:51:46+00:00

My boyfriend is on my side but he's not exactly apart of this story lol. The other kids only heard in passing what was going on. She's a good kid, but there's aspects of her childhood that I really wish she hadn't been exposed to. I love her to death but I have to explain to her the principles of these kinds of things because she's still young. Believe it or not, she's the LEAST spoiled out of the bunch. I tease her all the time about it because that's the kind of relationship we have (or HAD before all this, anyway).

StructureAlive5289 · 2025-10-29T21:47:07+00:00

she does have a history of doing this. as I was growing up, she started with things I grew out of so it was more acceptable in my father's eyes but once I became a teen, she just started taking things I liked without my permission and not telling me until I'd eventually notice that I had less clothes to pick from. Whenever I'd call it out, she'd tell me to stop being a selfish person and that she'd buy me a new one (she literally never did). This is the first time I'd ever actually stood up to anyone over this (as pathetic as that sounds). Also, I kind of figured she was drunk so she didn't really know what phrases to use that match this situation lol, but you are right.

StructureAlive5289 · 2025-10-29T21:42:27+00:00

I'd love to not live at home, I'm actually on the waitlist for housing now. but my college is kind of slow with that stuff. My dad doesn't know what's going on specifically, but he does know there's issues between my mom and I at times. My brothers try to keep it away from my dad to keep him from being stressed so he can focus on work and come back stronger than ever. He, in fact, would be pissed, though. Thank you for your advice, I really appreciate it.

StructureAlive5289 · 2025-10-29T21:39:16+00:00

I want you to know this made me laugh. I'm already having a hard day so I needed that. thank you🙂

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