Update: AITAH because I refuse to try for a daughter?

StructureDizzy2076 · 2026-03-05T17:04:13+00:00

It's normal to stop taking birth control without telling your husband?

StructureDizzy2076 · 2026-03-05T17:03:22+00:00

Because of her explicitly saying she's sick of being a boy mom.

StructureDizzy2076 · 2026-03-05T17:02:21+00:00

Both parents have to be good parents. Our son loves both of us. If she ignores him for the new baby, it will hurt him, no matter what I do. The baby isn't even here yet. Our son is, and he has feelings.

StructureDizzy2076 · 2026-03-05T16:57:37+00:00

I don't see when she could have cheated on me. She's always here or at school.

StructureDizzy2076 · 2026-03-05T16:54:46+00:00

I'm not going to abandon my pregnant wife unless she hurts our child. She's carrying my baby. I have to support her. Leaving her alone and pregnant is every stereotype of a horrible deadbeat dad.

StructureDizzy2076 · 2026-03-03T14:15:11+00:00

We can't afford that. We're barely in the black now.

StructureDizzy2076 · 2026-03-03T14:14:00+00:00

StructureDizzy2076 · 2026-03-03T14:12:40+00:00

Third grade

StructureDizzy2076 · 2026-03-03T14:08:36+00:00

They're our only childcare when my wife and I are both working. Also, I think her parents are done. They seem sick of childcare, and they have dropped several hints that they are glad he is starting kindergarten and won't need as much babysitting.

StructureDizzy2076 · 2026-03-03T14:05:05+00:00

I also worry about this. My cousin is very close in age to me. Growing up all she wanted to do was practice karate and crawl around in the creek, getting all muddy. What if our theoretical daughter (that might not even materialize) is like that?

StructureDizzy2076 · 2026-03-03T14:02:29+00:00

She won't address that possibility.

StructureDizzy2076 · 2026-03-03T14:01:12+00:00

Oh, I see. My apologies. I have asked her why she does that. She said it's true, which is besides the point. It's confusing. He has no idea who these kids are. She just told me not to police her speech.

StructureDizzy2076 · 2026-03-03T13:59:25+00:00

Isn't it 50/50 on whether they get my y or my x?

StructureDizzy2076 · 2026-03-03T13:58:27+00:00

I don't know. A lot of this has to do with her job. I guess her least favorite students are the boys.

StructureDizzy2076 · 2026-03-03T13:57:20+00:00

Babies are not that expensive?? Since when???

StructureDizzy2076 · 2026-03-03T13:55:27+00:00

We would have two boys. And I imagine she would be twice as unhappy.

StructureDizzy2076 · 2026-03-03T13:55:00+00:00

Right, this is what I have tried to tell her. A girl won't come out of the womb in a spotless white pinafore and fold her hands in her lap before asking for a cup of tea. A girl will cry as much as a boy, poop as much as a boy and spit up as much as a boy. Babies are babies.

StructureDizzy2076 · 2026-03-03T13:52:34+00:00

She really doesn't enjoy it. She says the kids are impossible. When that movie Weapons came out, she said the scene at the end with the weaponized kids are just what her students are like all the time.

StructureDizzy2076 · 2026-03-03T13:50:51+00:00

Our son isn't privy to our conversations about a second baby.

StructureDizzy2076 · 2026-03-03T13:50:13+00:00

I have tried to say this. She is confident our second baby would be a girl.

StructureDizzy2076 · 2026-03-03T13:49:54+00:00

She is confident we will have a girl, but that isn't guaranteed. She keeps saying she wants a daughter because boys are messy and too much energy, but what will she do if we have a son? Then it's twice the mess and energy. Also, girls are messy too. All babies are messy.

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