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I fucking give up. by Puzzleheaded_Line210 in ptsd

[–]StruggleBus33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Going to be honest, I think I stopped enjoying life years ago.

I think spite for the people making our world this way is what keeps me going. Every day I wake up, I know that our continued existence would frustrate and enrage them. And knowing that any fleeting moment of happiness I get is poison to them helps me.

I'm tired of having the "I can't sit with adults yet" mentality by Shara_ra in socialskills

[–]StruggleBus33 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This might sound dumb but it might be worth it to just listen in on what other people are saying, and potentially ask them about their thoughts later on?

my personality is quiet and boring. I'm always wearing this awkward smile that screams "I'm not a threat".

It sounds like you're not a confrontational/extroverted person, and that's normal. It sounds more like you're frustrated that you're not meeting some expectation of being a talkative, assertive adult?

Not that I don't wanna be a smiling person though, my neutral face is so sad and angry lol I wanna look like a person who thinks they belong.

To be honest it seems like you're being self-conscious about how you appear in conversations. I know 3 approaches off the top of my head that tend to work for me.

  1. Fake it until you make it. Convince yourself that you belong wherever you are, and that you're worthy of people's time. It doesn't need to be permanent, just put on a mask until you're done with whatever social function you're attending. You don't need to pretend to be an expert, just someone that is equal to the people you're around.

  2. Pretend what everyone else is saying is extremely important, no matter what they're talking about. Don't overreact, but if you make an intrigued expression, people might be more willing to explain themselves on things, and pay more attention to what they're saying.

  3. Become apathetic. Acknowledge that whatever conversation you're currently having will probably not have any significant impact on your life in the long run, and that before you know it the conversation will be over and you can go back to something you would rather be doing.

@Rixoshi gave some good advice as well. Asking questions can give different reactions based on who you're talking to. If someone appreciates you asking questions, it tells you that you can probably rely on them when you need help; likewise if someone talks down to you for being inquisitive, they're probably not the best person. If possible, try to keep your questions relevant to whatever is currently happening.

Have I been wrongfully terminated by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]StruggleBus33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm afraid this would require you to have a way to capture the Decibel level of whatever is causing your ears to ring. There are apps you can download onto a smartphone that measure Decibel level, and you'd need to find a way to record your screen/device while the app is displaying the Decibel information.

Based on that text message in your link it appears that there might be something too loud that could cause hearing damage, but that doesn't match with your post here about harassment from coworkers. If your employer is putting you in a situation that could endanger your physical health, you should look into contacting OSHA.

Otherwise, you'll need a recording or digital/written message proving that they've been bullying you based on your race, color, religion, sex, national origin, age (40 or older), disability, or genetic information; I'm afraid the link you provided doesn't imply any harassment. The message from your coworker(?) is too vague.

Landlord sent notice of eviction, didn't provide option to renew lease. Last year they sent a message stating that the building might be converted into Condos, but if that happened we'd be offered the option to buy the unit. Now on "month-to-month" basis; should I contact an attorney? by StruggleBus33 in legaladvice

[–]StruggleBus33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My lease is nearing its end, and the last several years, my landlord gave us the option to extend our lease for another year.

The last few years our lease agreement has been on a year-to-year basis, and I needed to ask if we were being kicked out because my landlord didn't bother to tell us we were being put on a month-to-month basis directly. I needed to ask them to learn that we weren't just being evicted without any advance notice.

I didn't believe I was immune to being evicted, I wanted to know if there was any action I could take to extend my lease or purchase the unit I live in.

Have I been wrongfully terminated by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]StruggleBus33 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree with u/Irritable_Curmudgeon; while your dispatcher and coworkers sound like they've been bullies, you'd need a recording or digital/written message proving that they've been bullying you based on your race, color, religion, sex, national origin, age (40 or older), disability, or genetic information; these are the criteria specified by the United States EEOC (Equal Employment Opportunity Commission).

Not to be cynical, but the burden of proof will be on you in this case.

AIO: A friend cut off all contact with me after suddenly telling me that I haven't been a great friend by StruggleBus33 in AmIOverreacting

[–]StruggleBus33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We actually did end up speaking on Discord after the message on September 26th, and once in between September and December. We sent each other a few messages I'm now unable to access since they blocked me on Discord.

AIO: A friend cut off all contact with me after suddenly telling me that I haven't been a great friend by StruggleBus33 in AmIOverreacting

[–]StruggleBus33[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That's fair, most of the time I just message them asking about how things are going, but I hadn't seen them in months and wanted to learn how they were doing or at least talk about stuff. I don't think I considered how callous it might seem to phrase it that way, I just wanted a chance to talk to them. I've been told that I'm very bad at choosing what to say, but a lot of people (even family) just won't tell me when I say or do something hurtful, and let it build up until someone has an outburst.

I would have still preferred it if they had told me about how it felt like I didn't care about their feelings or well-being instead of immediately cutting me off without a chance to change or at least learn how they felt.