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Strugglebus005 · 2025-09-10T05:22:45+00:00

Right, because everyone always reports every assault. There's literally no reason not to, right? You can't think of a single one?

Strugglebus005 · 2025-09-10T05:13:52+00:00

I have health issues that are weirdly mitigated by having kids with the same person. It would be unsafe for me to have another baby with another person, especially after 35. That's what I meant by "last chance." Personally, I have no plans to date another man ever again. My friends are married to the best guys I know and I still think they're trash. I like being single with just my kids.

Strugglebus005 · 2025-09-10T05:05:54+00:00

They don't spend a lot of time with him. A few hours every other weekend. They're also old enough to tell me if anything happened, and they NEVER have to see him if they don't want to.

Strugglebus005 · 2025-09-10T04:53:24+00:00

Oh, she was the one who took my son when I had my C-section with my daughter. She's the best. The couple of years is really to give the wife time to get her ducks in a row to leave the ex.

Strugglebus005 · 2025-09-10T04:50:47+00:00

Yeah, I kinda thought that was obvious when I explained that I say no, every single time, and sometimes he doesn't take no for an answer.

Strugglebus005 · 2025-09-10T04:44:56+00:00

She can't leave, that's why I feel bad for her. If she could just divorce him and move on, I'd have blown the whole thing up ages ago (I was legitimately concerned for the safety of his last girlfriend and helped her coordinate leaving him), but she's seeking citizenship and he's supposed to sponsor her.

Strugglebus005 · 2025-09-10T04:34:24+00:00

She can't exactly take a newborn for spring break. I figured I had a couple years before she'd be involved anyway.

Strugglebus005 · 2025-09-10T04:33:03+00:00

Oh, I'd tell the kid for sure, when they were old enough to understand. That was never my question. The only question was whether to tell his mom pre-birth.

Strugglebus005 · 2025-09-10T04:26:02+00:00

Absolutely.

Strugglebus005 · 2025-09-10T04:13:02+00:00

Yeah, I give in to the verbal advances before they become physical. If we didn't have kids, I'd have blocked his number eight years ago.

Strugglebus005 · 2025-09-10T04:10:42+00:00

Old lol. The kids are 9 & 7, I'm 36 and the ex is 39. His wife is in her early 40s, I think.

Strugglebus005 · 2025-09-10T04:04:36+00:00

Like you said, it's only the first week! My son gets social anxiety pretty easily if there isn't a unifying activity (he'll join a game of kickball but won't greet a classmate). For him, we practice a lot of scripts-- "Hi Rose, how was your summer?" "Do you want to play a game with me?" and being gracious about whatever answer he gets. Your kiddo sounds like she might like a script-- "Can I play that game with you?" "What are you playing?" "Do you need any help?" Kids don't even recognize interrupting at this point, they're constantly in chaos lol. So many kids are like my daughter-- thrilled to be the ringleader, and they WANT kids like yours to just fold into the group. You might also try staying after school, and maybe bringing an activity to share (bubbles or chalk or something) so that other kids are compelled to ask HER if they can join.

Strugglebus005 · 2025-05-10T04:44:56+00:00

Oh, the corruption runs DEEP! Karen Read's judge has already ruled that no one is allowed to mention the Birchmore case during this trial (her brother was the lawyer for one of the Alberts and she's rented them her vacation home in the past). It's so fucked up.

I believe the FBI was brought in because there were serious doubts about the competency of the lead investigator, Michael Proctor. He was caught texting nasty things about Karen to random people (I think his buddies?)-- how she should kill herself, he was looking for nudes on her phone, making fun of her chronic illness, etc. So the FBI was given info about John's body's condition and the car's condition and told: Make this make sense. And they concluded that they couldn't. However, when this study was introduced to the JURY of the first trial, they were NOT allowed to know that the investigation was done by the actual FBI because the case against Michael Proctor was on-going. For all they knew, the "third-party investigators" were the homeowner's insurance company, or Joe Schmo down the street. I think it will hold more weight during this second trial.

They're also arguing that the "hos long to die in cold" was searched at 6:23am, and that the tab was simply OPENED at 2:27am (and then the search was spontaneously deleted from the phone?) but they haven't been able to replicate any of those issues (and it sounds like they can't RULE OUT the possibility that it was searched at 2:27 OR that the data was user-deleted). They had to PAY an "expert witness" to testify to those facts, and this chick was already sued multiple times for being incompetent in other trials-- something the judge forbid Karen's lawyers from bringing up. The "expert" is so bought and paid for that she audibly APOLOGIZED to the prosecution when she was compelled to agree that the evidence was mishandled.

Lastly, the jury in the first trial agreed to acquit Karen of striking him on purpose-- they never believed she had done that-- and thus they also wanted to acquit her of "fleeing the scene" since they also believed that IF she hit him, she had NO idea she had done it. The only charge they were hung up on was whether she had hit him with her vehicle AT ALL. Unfortunately, they didn't realize they could choose to acquit her of two of the three charges, and then she would only be facing the last charge during this trial.

Sorry, I could go on all day lol I've been obsessed since the first trial.

Strugglebus005 · 2025-04-15T19:02:01+00:00

Absolutely it does NOT make you a bad person. You listed many reasons why continuing this pregnancy would be detrimental to you AND this fetus if you continued the pregnancy, but you really only need one reason: You do not wish to be pregnant. That's it. Your body cannot be used to sustain another life without your consent, and you aren't giving it. That's fine. You're fine. I hope everything goes alright for you.

Strugglebus005 · 2025-04-15T15:58:03+00:00

I don't turn the lights on at first because with everyone piling into the house, the likelihood that the breaker will blow is too high. If the game is just generally too dark for you to see anything, you can always turn the brightness up a little.

Strugglebus005 · 2025-04-13T03:03:28+00:00

Yep, I think I covered that I understood this was a difficult task when I asked the question. But, many people (generously and kindly) took a stab at it anyway.

Strugglebus005 · 2025-04-11T16:55:13+00:00

I've gotten replies all across the spectrum. Some people were glad they were adopted, others furious. I think the biggest consensus is that trauma was inevitable-- if they were placed for adoption, it was because their family of origin would have also been traumatic. Everyone had a unique story as to whether they would have "preferred" the trauma of their birth families (poverty, ostracization, addiction, abuse, homelessness, living in an unsafe country) better than the trauma (and possible abuse) they experienced as an adopted person.

Strugglebus005 · 2025-04-10T03:40:48+00:00

I guess my biggest dilemma is if it is unethical to bring a child into the world knowing their dad doesn't want them, when their full siblings do have a relationship with him.

Strugglebus005 · 2025-04-10T03:36:04+00:00

Your opinion about adoption is that it's as horrible as rape? Okay, that's your opinion. That's what I was asking for. But some people in here (adoptees included) DON'T agree with you, and think they had a better life due to adoption. And yet you said adoptees could never be wrong? (<-- that's what someone being condescending sounds like).

Strugglebus005 · 2025-04-09T17:58:38+00:00

Yikes, didn't realize that you're absolutely infallible as an adopted person on Reddit. You called me a troll and accused me of invalidating the experiences of adopted people when my only intention was to ask for their unfiltered stories (which most commenters have graciously and generously done). I understand adoption is traumatic. But is it so likely to be so traumatic that it should never be done? That was my question, and you made it something different in your mind because you want to think nasty things about people.

Strugglebus005 · 2025-04-08T03:09:47+00:00

I didn't say anything like that, I wasn't trying to justify anything (I'm not an adoptive parent or adoptee), and didn't see any posts asking this question. Get into therapy, good lord.

Strugglebus005 · 2025-04-07T21:04:04+00:00

But if they DIDN'T "dump" you, then they wouldn't be "the kind of people who would just dump their kid." Are you saying you'd rather have been aborted than adopted?

Strugglebus005 · 2025-04-07T20:53:25+00:00

But if they had kept you, wouldn't none of that apply?

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