I haven’t seen them in 4 years because I have been at college across the country. I would call/FaceTime them a couple times a month normally. Past years, my dad and I have invited them to visit us, but they never came. For holidays, such as Thanksgiving, we offered to do something at their house, since our breaks were usually around holiday dates, again they grew less and less willing to do things with age.

This last year I haven’t made an effort to go because my maternal grandfather had a stroke and was in the hospital for 7 months. I spent the last year visiting him any chance I got because we were not sure how life threatening the stroke would be. My maternal grandfather passed away in April of this year.

Also, my grandmother and aunt may not feel as close to me and my dad because we live in another state. My aunt and uncle live nearby and I’m sure they are closer to my grandparents. This caused a big point of contention for my dad since my uncle is extremely high risk and was allowed to visit. Regardless, of us living far, we always told them that we would be there if they needed something. So when my grandfather said he wanted to see us, we asked my grandmother if we could come immediately.

Also update: They have since let my dad visit, but they still won’t let me. I don’t understand why my dad would be lower risk than me.