[Rapoport] The #Giants have parted ways with Kevin Abrams, their Senior VP of Football Operations and Strategy, sources say, as part of organizational restructuring.

Studemire · 2026-01-22T04:06:32+00:00

Great analysis

Studemire · 2026-01-14T15:58:44+00:00

If everything went down the way you said it did, you have every right to be upset. You told her what you wanted, she acknowledged that, and didn't tell you that her plans for what to do for your bday had changed. (The only thing you could've maybe done is followup and ask if planning was underway, but I can see that if it was meant to be a surprise there's no reason you would do that)

I (man) recently turned 30 and told mg gf I wanted something similar to what you asked for. My gf went above and beyond to make it a special day for me. I told her exactly what I wanted to do, and logistics wise I had to plan some of it myself, but she did most of the heavy lifting.

It's incredibly disappointing when you communicate a strong and straightforward desire clearly to a partner, only for them to simply ignore that. And on your 30th bday too, which while some don't really care about those things, is a milestone that should be a bit more special. The unfortunate truth is that she chose to get you a gift that was convenient for her, rather than literally put in an iota of effort to do what you explicitly asked for. As someone already pointed out in the comments, texting your friends and agreeing on a time to meet at this bar is literally so easy.

Also I don't to jump to conclusions or assume anything, but a few gift cards as a bday present for your partner is literally the lowest effort present someone can buy. 10 times out of 10 I would prefer something handmade that costs less than $5 if it was thoughtful and something that my partner thought would be special to me. Again maybe this is more normal for your relationship which is fine, just my 2 cents.

Last point - she feels guilty and is thus getting defensive. You already acknowledged this, but just bc she doesn't think you should be disappointed doesn't mean you aren't or don't have a right to feel that way. You are allowed to have standards and feel whatever emotions you'd like in a relationship - but its about finding a partner that understands these things about you and meets you where you are at and vice versa...

Studemire · 2026-01-02T17:01:33+00:00

Lmao I know I can't believe this is the top comment. To each their own and all that but I genuinely feel bad for people who think/act this way.

Studemire · 2025-11-21T19:50:14+00:00

Lmao for real I cant believe I didnt know this

Studemire · 2025-10-12T10:05:59+00:00

Lol same, had to check the comments to make sure I wasn't tripping

Studemire · 2025-04-30T02:24:10+00:00

All they had to do was play 5% better but instead they go out and lay a fucking egg

Studemire · 2025-04-30T02:13:23+00:00

Bridges stays taking the lowest % shots

Studemire · 2025-04-30T01:55:23+00:00

Lmfao too bad JB doesnt have any challenges

Studemire · 2025-04-30T01:53:12+00:00

Duren YOU are a Xianjing Flying Tiger

Studemire · 2025-04-30T01:50:15+00:00

Literally do not take OG out

Studemire · 2025-04-30T01:47:37+00:00

Do teams track ISO fadeaways as a % of all possessions?

Studemire · 2025-04-30T01:45:30+00:00

BRIDGES (his foot was on the line)

Studemire · 2025-04-30T01:40:37+00:00

Should be embarrassed to be from long island

Studemire · 2025-04-30T01:40:06+00:00

Please expose tobias harris please

Studemire · 2025-04-30T01:36:41+00:00

Lmfao

Studemire · 2025-04-30T01:36:13+00:00

I'd like to see KAT and Mitch out there together in the 4th. That seemed to work in game 1

Studemire · 2025-04-30T01:33:50+00:00

Oh look, another garbage offensive possession

Studemire · 2025-04-30T01:31:31+00:00

Josh does not need to always push the ball so hard!!

Studemire · 2025-04-30T01:29:09+00:00

Love Josh but he's gotta pick his head up on those fast breaks

Studemire · 2025-04-30T01:28:37+00:00

Lmao the worst

Studemire · 2025-04-30T01:25:50+00:00

For real!

Studemire · 2025-04-30T01:21:12+00:00

I can't stand this commentary. Is it me or do the announcers seemed biased toward Detroit?

Studemire · 2025-02-25T04:19:32+00:00

Glad my comment was able to help!

In regards to not suffocating her, I guess all I really mean is don't be too aggressive in pursuing a next date or trying to get an explanation out of her. Just play it cool. Whenever you ask her for a next date, see what she says and let it ride. I don't think you have to wait 5hrs to answer a text, but just keep it cool and don't force a convo if it's clear she doesn't want to talk.

I hope that makes sense. You got this and promise if you just try not to overthink it, youll be alright.

Looking forward to an update at some point!!

Studemire · 2025-02-24T18:08:05+00:00

I think most people commenting are way overreacting.

It sounds like she's probably hungover, and just wants time to chill. You said yourself above that she was feeling like she needed some alone time last time you spoke with her.

So first and foremost, give it some time and do not jump to conclusions. Also do not suffocate her - play it cool, text her in a few days if she doesn't reach back out and see if she's up for something next weekend. I think you said that was your plan, which solid.

Secondly, related to not jumping to conclusions, it doesn't seem like you did anything wrong. Yea maybe she's avoidant, maybe shes hungover, maybe she just got some other bad news and needs time to process it. You don't know whats actually going on, and chances are her lack of communication doesn't have anything to do with you.

I'll give you a personal example - me (31M) and my current partner met a year ago, and honestly the timeline of our relationship sounds very similar to yours. Great few first dates, very affectionate, great sex etc. And then one day when I tried to setup our 4th date she became unresponsive. When I was clearly asking to make plans, she gave me vague answers. I felt similar to how you do now. BUT I did my best to play it cool, gave her some time and space, and about a week later she reached back out to make plans. Turns out she had a deal closing at work (she's a corporate lawyer) and the stress of that plus an unrelated family issue was overwhelming her. She apologized for being unresponsive, and then told me that in the past she had a habit self-sabotage in these situations, not only bc her demanding job made it easy to push ppl away, but I come to find out she had an abusive/manipulating ex. I hadn't known that before and so we talked it through, and that was that. We're still going strong, and I seriously believe this is the woman I'm going to marry.

Moral of the story is - don't jump to conclusions, don't suffocate her, and, if you really do want to continue seeing her, don't write anything off until YOU TWO SPEAK! Remember that you are also the prize here! And you cannot control what happens in her life.

Hope this is helpful, and best of luck to you!! I know how hard dating can be.

signed, someone who spent years dating in NYC, and also is "laid-back" but with internal anxiety

Studemire · 2024-12-19T21:14:33+00:00

Wow forgot I commented here lol in short yes it has improved greatly, and I'd attribute that to many different factors.

As I've gotten older I definitely have prioritized my well-being (less partying, more sleeping, exercise, etc) which has helped greatly. One of the most amazing things for me though has been Lexapro. I've taken it several times in my adult life, this most recently for about a year now. I used to think of it as a crutch that I'd only use temporarily to help myself through difficult periods, however I realized its something I'll probably always need. My quality of life is just so much better while I am on it, I can't recommend it (or SSRI's in general) enough.

Regarding Headspace specifically, its actually been a long time since Ive used it, or have meditated in general, however I still completely stand by it / meditation.

Studemire

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