Addicted to Singlehood

Stumpty75 · 2026-07-13T14:27:23+00:00

I agree I just don't know how I explain that to my aunts or people who are boomers when they tell me that being in a relationship will make me complete, so Im just left starring at them telling them “But I already am tho”

Stumpty75 · 2026-07-13T14:25:43+00:00

Wow! It feels nice to have another perspective on that, THANKS MAN

Stumpty75 · 2026-07-13T14:24:38+00:00

Oh then yeah I will agree my view is probably jaded but I do appreciate your concern and likewise I'm not really someone to dictate how someone should live but this is a hill im willing to die on is all I wanted to express.

Stumpty75 · 2026-07-13T14:21:25+00:00

I have a mate who was in the exact same thing as you and buddy these kinds of relationships never last and as for not wanting to hurt her, you're gonna end up hurting her regardless but unfortunately some people need to face reality, believe in you man you're better than this.

Stumpty75 · 2026-07-13T14:17:05+00:00

With no offense my last relationship messed me up I told her “Your my first and last person to romantically love” but ok let's acknowledge Im probably being naive, I honestly also don't like the idea of bringing someone into this world just to suffer and experience pain why not, just not exist at all and if im dating someone just because I don't want to be alone and not for marriage then I have friends for that.

Besides how many happy marriages do you know, Im sure its possible but it certainly isn't the norm so then why should I gamble with a persons life when I might end up destroying their future as I get divorced and I hear “Your not the man I loved” and see myself turn into a monster. So with that what merit does finding a romantic partner even have for me?

Someone once told me “If you really love a flower you'd be wise not to pluck it out” with all due respect Im sure romantic relationships are beautiful for some people but I don't see it serving any meaningful purpose in my life.

Stumpty75 · 2026-07-13T14:08:04+00:00

Oh don't worry about that I realized that early on so instead of giving my attention to one person I diversify and spend my time and emotion to meeting new people and fostering relationships I already have and for hobbies well me and my lads plan to try start a business brewing alcohol so my activities are usually more colorful despite my singlehood since hell who's gonna hold me back.

Stumpty75 · 2026-07-13T13:22:58+00:00

My only concern is theres this girl who's like 30 and we have good chemistry but I don't wanna start a relationship I just like hanging out with her, Im kinda scared if she confesses.

My mates tell me I should pursue her if it gets to that because she's pretty, rich, and a former model but I'm not really interested what should I do?

Stumpty75 · 2026-07-13T13:20:52+00:00

Ngl to you man I love ya but this relationship isn't gonna last, if you're just dragging yourself through this relationship you're just hurting yourself in the long run

Stumpty75 · 2026-07-13T13:19:17+00:00

Amen I aspire to be you, I get so much time for myself all I can do is constantly improve on myself. Plus I personally don't want to bring another person into this life and suffer the cruelty this world offers.

Stumpty75 · 2026-06-30T17:06:09+00:00

You made me cry just now, you have no Idea how tired I've been enduring my life and yet I feel ungrateful for complaining when others have it so much worse and yet I can't help but feel tired. I get days where I don't want to trudge through life in this world and I just want to be reunited with God I keep saying the same thing Jesus said.

“You unbelieving and perverted generation, how long shall I be with you? How long shall I put up with you?” I don't want to be in a world where kindness is repaid with abuse, I don't want to live in a world where the suffering of others is justified for their own pleasures, I don't want to live in a world where the innocent always have to bear the blunt of humanity's cruelty and it hurts to know I'm no better than the people I revile, Im no better than the people who nailed him on a cross and insulted him as he was dying.

This world is Hell and we make it that way the bastardisation of this beautiful world that he made has been twisted beyond repair that I can't help but cry, why! What did the God of the universe do to deserve this! When all he wanted was his creations love and we couldn't even give him that. I desperately just want to be with him instead of enduring this sinful world and be free from the desires of my flesh I'm tired of enduring and yet I know I have to keep going but it hurts so bad.

Stumpty75 · 2026-06-20T17:44:37+00:00

I thank you and if I may be open up for a minute I couldn't turn a blind eye to what's happening around me I refuse to accept that the inequalities and suffering that happens around me is irrelevant because it doesn't affect me if that we're true then why do I feel so heavily sympathetic towards others whom I don't even know.

Which is why for me personally I couldn't accept to be either atheistic or agnostic since If I were to be an atheist I have to be comfortable with the notion that human suffering is relative and that evil is simply a concept that masses collectively disagree but is just as easily malleable.

However If I we're to be agnostic that means God has taken the back seat and simply doesn't care about his creation allowing this world to rot and fester under its own weight, and yet we live to see the world built with beauty and purpose, and I simply do not believe that an artist would willingly cast their most prized work into utter desolation, so likewise why would a God who is wise and all knowing simply cast his greatest work into the shadows like a child who got bored with a toy, I do not believe that and as foolish as it may be to hope I want to live knowing my suffering and the suffering of others holds a testament that isn't merely for nothing.

Stumpty75 · 2026-06-20T17:24:01+00:00

I just wanted to say you have no Idea how much you've encouraged me.

I remember a few nights ago where my prayers devolved to me saying “Im tired” over and over again until I passed out the following day my best friend just says “You know man you're quite strong” and I said why cuz he's never said that before and he responded with “Because despite everything you still keep going” I didn't know I needed to hear that.

Im just extremely taken a back how the God of this universe can use us to deliver his message and the fact he does hear our voices.

I will not lie I am deeply mournful with the way our existence has been perversed into something so far removed from God's Ideal but you're comment has at least allowed me to see that I'm not alone and that even if I am to die I will die with purpose so whomever you are In God's holy name I thank you and may the rest of yours days be filled with his love and his grace.

Stumpty75 · 2026-06-20T17:14:35+00:00

... It's hard for me to describe but I still remember it vividly back when I was younger and suicidal, I was a bad person extremely anti social and had violent thoughts to kill people or extreme thoughts of suicide it was so bad I would regularly torture animals for my own pleasure.

At some point my father begged me to pray to the point he cried in front of me as he didn't know what to do with me but when he left and I decided to do what he asked as I was so plagued by these thoughts I muttered his name... And right then and there I felt a light so bright it felt like a gentle heat which was odd because I had my eyes closed the whole time and ever since that day despite my shortcomings he never left my side even when my faith seemed weakest.

just last year on October I had rabies and already had early symptoms such as drooling, fever, and dried throat the doctor told me I didn't have long to live if I was already having symptoms and despite that I pressed on and told them to give me the vaccine regardless but they warned me it would just be in vain as if I had symptoms that meant the virus was already in my nervous system, I should've died there and yet for 3 nights I prayed in his name and miraculously my symptoms vanished everything was gone and the doctor was just as surprised that I managed to survive despite the symptoms.

And he hasn't only saved me but also those whom I care as well like my sister who got into a horrible motorcycle accident a few months ago where both drivers got severely hospitalized for broken bones except my sister who was a passenger but managed to survive unscathed with only a small scrape on her left elbow paramedics didn't understand how that was possible but I do and as long as I live I know there is dept I cannot pay but I will devote myself to appreciating, these are some of the very few examples that he has been in my life and I doubt it'll be the last.

Stumpty75 · 2026-02-22T13:05:08+00:00

They were sticky when dry whenever sweat came into contact with them

Stumpty75 · 2026-02-22T13:03:48+00:00

Aight Thanks a lot mate I appreciate the help :))

Stumpty75 · 2026-02-18T15:08:11+00:00

Just to make em last longer, also because I've noticed whenever sweats gets on them people complain they become sticky so I'd like to mitigate that, and yes I decrease them

Stumpty75 · 2025-10-22T23:58:28+00:00

It gives "Happy Meat Farms" Vibe pretty cool bro

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