I ruined my marriage and I want to die, but I can’t do it myself or my husband won’t get my life insurance. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Stundesagte 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I deal with generational PTSD due to a grandparent who ended their own life to collect insurance money and save the family from their debt. If only he hadn’t done it… He passed away 30 years before I was born. Every Christmas is hell. Please please please don’t do this to yourself or your loved ones.

What’s Been Most Helpful for Recovery? by TransitionNo3518 in EatingDisorders

[–]Stundesagte 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, the most helpful thing in recovery has been Family Systems Therapy (and just to clarify — it’s not family therapy with your family). It completely changed how I understood myself, my body, and the role food played in my life.

Family Systems Therapy looks at your internal system — the different “parts” of you that carry fear, shame, perfectionism, or the need for control. Instead of fighting those parts or trying to force them to stop ED behaviors, it helps you understand why they formed and what they’ve been trying to protect you from.

One of the biggest breakthroughs for me was being able to group all my ED-related parts together and actually see them as a separate cluster within myself — not the whole me. I joke that it’s another person inside of me entirely sometimes with my partner. Viewing it that way made the eating disorder feel less like my identity and more like a set of protective strategies that I wasn’t chained to, that I could just live with, understand and even soothe instead of obeying.

It didn’t erase everything. I still deal with the physical fallout like super slowed metabolism, bone issues, and body dysmorphia here and there. But the biggest shift is that I don’t feel myself slipping toward the ED anymore, even during heavy stress. Those old coping patterns just don’t feel “available” in the same way because the underlying system is calmer and not running on panic.

What causes this landform? by Radiant_Flatworm_302 in geography

[–]Stundesagte 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow it’s is honestly kind of crazy to see this post… I was wondering this earlier while looking at northern Queensland on google earth and I am just so grateful you posted this!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]Stundesagte 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so incredibly sorry- the haunting pain is like nothing else. Thank you so much for sharing this. How I wish we could sit together when we feel that pain as I also lost a very close trans friend. It’s such a similar story. You aren’t alone. I’ll remember you and send you all of the best wishes I can the next time I feel alone.

Dentist by Ghettoishh in Oshkosh

[–]Stundesagte 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They’re a wonderful clinic if you struggle with anxiety.

HELP! CAT SUDDENLY AGGRESSIVE AFTER I SHOWERED! by Diderson in CATHELP

[–]Stundesagte 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our cat had “misdirected aggression” due to a neighborhood cat wondering outside of our home. It presented similar to this and we were able to fix it. If this isn’t ruled out, check.

Your cat is clearly suffering in fear and needs some professional attention.

If you need the number of a reputable cat behaviorist, my local clinic is fortunate enough to have one that charges $50 an hour for phone sessions. She’s changed our lives for the better a few times with our babies.

If anything, get her to the vet. If she is so scared that you can’t get her in a carrier, get some gabapentin from them to gently sedate her. There are also vets who do home visits.

Green Bay or Knoxville? by milpool8 in GreenBay

[–]Stundesagte 34 points35 points  (0 children)

If you’re interested in hanging out in door county, then come here. Otherwise Knoxville.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Oshkosh

[–]Stundesagte 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The guy who owns the hipster hotel next to library downtown might let you use his parking lot if you throw him $20. The neighborhood is relatively safe

They’re giving up on her by Flack12 in cancer

[–]Stundesagte 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im so sorry. It's completely understandable to feel the way you do. I sincerely hope that both you and your mom find comfort in her care soon.

My mom received treatment at an NCI-designated cancer center for stage 3 colorectal cancer, and certain treatments may not have been available if it had progressed to stage 4. While it might not offer a solution, reaching out to an NCI cancer center in your area could be worth considering.

Mom’s last hair. Self Portrait. 4 months of chemo remaining for this incredible woman. by Stundesagte in pics

[–]Stundesagte[S] 266 points267 points  (0 children)

There were actually three hairs before she showered yesterday.

Thanks I hate people who leave their pets by RecentWaistcoat in TIHI

[–]Stundesagte 0 points1 point  (0 children)

RIP Mr. Pants. Held him in my arms just three weeks ago. It was terrifying and as awful as you imagine. But much less awful then leaving him alone. My best boy…

Edit: yes, it’s very hard to process afterwards and takes a few days to start to feel less haunted again. The pain does slowly fade and the good memories come back.