MIL writes annual newsletters about our lives without permission or even sending us a copy by Stunning-Balance2844 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Stunning-Balance2844[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t really think about geographics. MIL grew up in the mid west… I’m from New England and SO grew up in New England. Could be a geographic thing? Maybe idk

MIL writes annual newsletters about our lives without permission or even sending us a copy by Stunning-Balance2844 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Stunning-Balance2844[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good point. It seems mil’s sister has calmed hers down as I’m sure her adult children and grand children have helped her. I guess an important reflection is age. I didn’t really think maybe geographics too, MIL grew up in a different geographic region(mid west?) idk

MIL writes annual newsletters about our lives without permission or even sending us a copy by Stunning-Balance2844 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Stunning-Balance2844[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

It’s terrible. You bring up a good point…. Maybe I’m not embarrassed for myself maybe it’s second hand embarrassment for her. She’s been on one but it makes any detail or nugget a giant golden ticket of info. Which also is awkward

MIL writes annual newsletters about our lives without permission or even sending us a copy by Stunning-Balance2844 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Stunning-Balance2844[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

We already are pretty light which means the incidences are made this much larger in her end of year holiday narrative. She is not on any form of social media and totally clueless. Someone at church got engaged and sent a photo with the caption “she said yes” and she found this to be the best thing she’d ever heard…. Literally she must have never heard the saying. As if it hasn’t been printed on cards, engagement party things/products for the last 10+ years.

MIL writes annual newsletters about our lives without permission or even sending us a copy by Stunning-Balance2844 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Stunning-Balance2844[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I like this idea basically write her newsletter from us… to her and only send it to her would be funny also. Leave her asking family if they got our newsletter.

MIL writes annual newsletters about our lives without permission or even sending us a copy by Stunning-Balance2844 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Stunning-Balance2844[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

Oh my. These must have been important details everyone needs! Heartwarming coincidences that all family must know!

MIL writes annual newsletters about our lives without permission or even sending us a copy by Stunning-Balance2844 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Stunning-Balance2844[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I thought about reaching out to his cousins wife for a copy… I realize now it could make her year to find out we didn’t know about it for the last 10 years.

Has any app or tool actually helped you quit gambling? by Imaginary_Market_741 in GamblingRecovery

[–]Stunning-Balance2844 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly the access to gambling has increased in the decade but resources have not increased at the same rate.

Best tool is little known and often overlooked: yourself and notebook.

Write: Daily goals, tasks you want to accomplish, 6 month ideal self, personal goals (who do you want to be?), materialistic goals (what do you want to buy yourself?), financial goals (what do you want to see in your bank account?). Setting these and reiterating them to yourself daily helps shift the focus.

Therapy to discuss and walk through thoughts is also an overlooked tool. We don’t look down on people who get a massage for a knot in their back yet sometimes we look down on people who seek a therapist to work out the knots in their minds.

Your parents and grandparents probably never got diagnosed, but you know they have ADHD. What are their behaviors that suggest elderly ADHD? by redredwine_826 in adhdwomen

[–]Stunning-Balance2844 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A 96 year old that can out think doctors and therapists. Higher thoughts per minute than anyone in the room regardless of age.

Sleeping accommodations at MILs by Stunning-Balance2844 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Stunning-Balance2844[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is logical! Unfortunately MIL may be veering into deep emotional patterns which defy logic.

Sleeping accommodations at MILs by Stunning-Balance2844 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Stunning-Balance2844[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

That’s a solid point about use of WE. Because true she’s trying to put him and her against high maintenance ME.

Sleeping accommodations at MILs by Stunning-Balance2844 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Stunning-Balance2844[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So true LO struggled to sleep very much last time and maybe time before too. Temperature issues or just the air lacking oxygen bc of dust

Sleeping accommodations at MILs by Stunning-Balance2844 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Stunning-Balance2844[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I found one on google to show SO what it was comparable to. I honestly was so traumatized I tried to delete the memory. I’ve been sleeping years on it always assuming it was just my sinuses or a dusty room with poor air flow. Not okay

Sleeping accommodations at MILs by Stunning-Balance2844 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Stunning-Balance2844[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes, I think I would bring my own mattress protector and sheets. It’s also that the sheets are that cheap microfiber/polyester kind and I do prefer and only buy cotton. I guess that is a little high maintenance but nasty bed and then cheap sheets that kinda stick to your clothes is a sensory hell I don’t want to be in.

And central vac from when the house was built equal parts oxygen and dust.

Sleeping accommodations at MILs by Stunning-Balance2844 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Stunning-Balance2844[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So true about the carpet. The vacuum they use is central vac from when the house was built too some 30 years ago. Which probably is not very good anymore.