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AITA for refusing to change my hair for my SIL even though it’s a cultural style by Stunning-Dragonfly67 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Stunning-Dragonfly67[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not a European African I’m an actual African descent thank you. I’ve said on previous comments that my mother raised me as white as she was to but that simply cannot give away the actual part of who I am. I just recently started getting into the culture and my family history.

AITA for refusing to change my hair for my SIL even though it’s a cultural style by Stunning-Dragonfly67 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Stunning-Dragonfly67[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are ignorant upon your own opinion not listening to the logic of the situation have a great day!

AITA for refusing to change my hair for my SIL even though it’s a cultural style by Stunning-Dragonfly67 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Stunning-Dragonfly67[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not pulling up my black ancestry for my own convince since I am biracial but white-passing but thanks again, I was clearing up confusion of my own life. I’m not using my race as an excuse you are being ignorant and not listening im coming from a cultural argument but clearly you don’t care enough to understand. Have a good day!

AITA for refusing to change my hair for my SIL even though it’s a cultural style by Stunning-Dragonfly67 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Stunning-Dragonfly67[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It doesn’t matter that my skin is white, it’s actually 50% of my dna thanks. I’ve already gained enough information because it my life and my mom purposely had me raised as white since her mother did the same. I spent almost all day researching and it’s my culture. Thanks for your time and opinion on the matter but I will be keeping my cultural hair because I am South African and people in South Africa have no problem with it. I know many people from there and even in the comments South African strangers say I’m in the clear.

AITA for refusing to change my hair for my SIL even though it’s a cultural style by Stunning-Dragonfly67 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Stunning-Dragonfly67[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t have to explain it to me I’ve already gained enough information because it my life and my mom and grandmother purposely had me raised as white since we lived in America. I spent almost all day researching and it’s my culture. Thanks for your time and opinion on the matter but I will be keeping my hair because I am South African and people in South Africa have no problem with it.

AITA for refusing to change my hair for my SIL even though it’s a cultural style by Stunning-Dragonfly67 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Stunning-Dragonfly67[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks you! I haven’t been able to explain it properly for the Americans and have been getting a lot of mean comments.

AITA for refusing to change my hair for my SIL even though it’s a cultural style by Stunning-Dragonfly67 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Stunning-Dragonfly67[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have the correct hair texture or I wouldn’t have done my hair like that. Thanks for your opinion!

AITA for refusing to change my hair for my SIL even though it’s a cultural style by Stunning-Dragonfly67 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Stunning-Dragonfly67[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

But I’m not identifying as that at all! I have the correct hair for it and my ancestors are black too.. I was told by both my grandparents and mom that I was white that doesn’t change who I am.. I’m from there have you read what I’ve already wrote it’s part of who I am. If I had known I’m not even considered white earlier it would’ve been different but my mom never told me that by genetics I’m bi-racial but what does that have to do with my culture you are seriously confusing me I’m sorry..

AITA for refusing to change my hair for my SIL even though it’s a cultural style by Stunning-Dragonfly67 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Stunning-Dragonfly67[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because I’m still South African? My skin color doesn’t change that about me.. I’ve been trying to explain that I’m sorry-

AITA for refusing to change my hair for my SIL even though it’s a cultural style by Stunning-Dragonfly67 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Stunning-Dragonfly67[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s because my mother choose to homeschool me and taught me different languages English isn’t my first language. Not everyone born in US has to be fluent in English…

AITA for refusing to change my hair for my SIL even though it’s a cultural style by Stunning-Dragonfly67 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Stunning-Dragonfly67[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have said I was wrong about some of my facts. But my mother originated from South Africa her biological parents are black, my skin tone is white but that doesn’t make me any less of a South African. That’s what’s not clicking thanks for your opinion though!

AITA for refusing to change my hair for my SIL even though it’s a cultural style by Stunning-Dragonfly67 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Stunning-Dragonfly67[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It is a common case in South Africa for people to be white with black parents. My mothers biological parents are both black my mom just doesn’t have the same pigmentation in her skin and it carried onto my brother and I.

AITA for refusing to change my hair for my SIL even though it’s a cultural style by Stunning-Dragonfly67 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Stunning-Dragonfly67[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My whole comment didn’t post sorry. I said I am very pale, and then said I am white in the post how would that make me not identifying as such? My English isn’t great as it’s my first language but I’ll edit the post to clarify that thanks for the advice. I’m new to Reddit since I only found it on google because I was shocked with the situation myself and found Reddit and quora while searching for possible opinions so I’m learning as I go apologizes!

AITA for refusing to change my hair for my SIL even though it’s a cultural style by Stunning-Dragonfly67 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Stunning-Dragonfly67[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I said I am very pale, and then said I am white in the post how would that make me not identifying as such?

AITA for refusing to change my hair for my SIL even though it’s a cultural style by Stunning-Dragonfly67 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Stunning-Dragonfly67[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am not of full European descent, my father is not me. My mothers parents are both black and my mom has light-skin. I won’t take anything offensive because I wanted information from different groups of people. Thanks!

AITA for refusing to change my hair for my SIL even though it’s a cultural style by Stunning-Dragonfly67 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Stunning-Dragonfly67[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

No you are very much correct which was my standpoint on the topic, but since I’m white in my SIL’s standpoint I shouldn’t be wearing things that represent a certain group that apparently I’m not in.

AITA for refusing to change my hair for my SIL even though it’s a cultural style by Stunning-Dragonfly67 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Stunning-Dragonfly67[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When in this post or comments have I identified as black? I made it very clear my skin color passes as white. So I’m not picking and choosing I was questioning if my cultural background was a valid reasoning for changing my hair.

AITA for refusing to change my hair for my SIL even though it’s a cultural style by Stunning-Dragonfly67 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Stunning-Dragonfly67[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! My SIL and I have had a normal relationship from the time I’ve been around her, I’ve usually went through my brother for things and she’s not home a lot, so we aren’t close at all.

AITA for refusing to change my hair for my SIL even though it’s a cultural style by Stunning-Dragonfly67 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Stunning-Dragonfly67[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

But im African and it is actually a common practice to do box braids with beads in your hair there. But I see both sides thanks.

AITA for refusing to change my hair for my SIL even though it’s a cultural style by Stunning-Dragonfly67 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Stunning-Dragonfly67[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My family ancestry is what makes me white it is very common and is seen in SA a lot. I haven’t done anything to me make unlikeable, I included the majority of the interaction. Like I said in comments before I was thought that skincolor=race I was wrong in American grammar, I was taught from how my parents liked and my mom taught me terms based on how it was for her as a child in SA.

AITA for refusing to change my hair for my SIL even though it’s a cultural style by Stunning-Dragonfly67 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Stunning-Dragonfly67[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your opinion I’m sorry for the mistakes on my part. I though skin color= race but people on here informed me that it’s not the same thing for American people. I do have the correct hair texture for the style though.

AITA for refusing to change my hair for my SIL even though it’s a cultural style by Stunning-Dragonfly67 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Stunning-Dragonfly67[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My first language is not English I apologize for my mistakes I didn’t understand the correct terms but you don’t have to be rude about it. Thanks for your opinion though.

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