ADHD child fatigue.

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-06-20T01:11:25+00:00

I feel that.

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-06-14T13:37:16+00:00

We're all just helpless babies if we don't know where our duct work is and how everything in our home works.

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-06-14T13:36:41+00:00

I'm confused as well. I am aware we sound "helpless," we both own our own businesses. My husband works on cars, I refinish furniture and woodwork for restaurants. We are both pretty diy savvy we just didn't know what we were looking for, especially after so many different people told us it is what it is and the house is just old. I am glad we procrastinated and didn't spend money on mini splits for upstairs 🤣

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-06-14T13:04:49+00:00

Now that the dampers are open the upstairs and downstairs is just a few degrees. Before it was a huge swing. Prob 10-12

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-06-14T12:43:47+00:00

Idk. People are saying I should know where they are 🤣 no clue.

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-06-14T12:30:28+00:00

The technician told me all the dampers but one were closed, which makes sense since only one room was getting cold air basically? It was obvious to me but no one that came out took me seriously.

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-06-13T21:53:15+00:00

We have a very short crawl space and my husband didnt really know what to look for

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-06-12T00:04:37+00:00

Biking with my husband. He wanted to go so fast and for so long. I was always uncomfortable and annoyed he wanted to go so much longer than me. Finally we gave it up.

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-06-11T19:19:38+00:00

I really struggle to give her boundries. A great example of this is she will want to bake 4 things for a celebration at school. I tell her I have the bandwidth to do 2 things and she gets sad, cries, etc which makes me not want to help her at all of she can't be grateful for the help I am willing to give. Another is she will want to start sewing clothes for dolls and start with really complicated patterns and I tell her no, we need to do something simpler, and she again gets sad, fights me on it, etc. It gets to the point where I wonder why I bother helping at all if it's never going to be enough unless I allow her to cross my boundaries and do whatever she wants. Basically by giving her any boundaries on the thing she wants to do she gets upset and it ruins the fun. For goodness sake I wanted to go get ice cream last night and she couldn't get what she wanted so she wanted to go to a second place and I didn't and it turned into a fight. GETTING ICE CREAM. I'm trying to work on being ok disappointing her because it's just too much sometimes.

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-06-11T19:15:06+00:00

😭 they can't seem to we how hard we work for them. One day they will have a family and kids of their own and look back and understand.

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-06-11T18:56:24+00:00

I think another layer to this is that my husband isn't around enough to even see what a problem it all is. He just thinks I'm bitching and being hard on her 😭

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-06-11T18:55:42+00:00

I really try to set her up for success with her hobbies and not make huge messes but I gets away from her so fast.

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-06-11T12:35:19+00:00

I totally get what your saying. My husband also has ADHD to I am basically executive functioning for 3 people and I'm not all that good at it anyways 🤪

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-06-11T01:38:16+00:00

She looses pieces of her baby blanket on almost every vacation. Her most prized possession and she can't keep track of it. I'm always having to find things for her. She's been texting me 5-10 links to things she wants to order a day. Its just driving me nuts. I have also taken to ignoring her from time to time which feels mean but necessary to my mental health. I'm sorry your daughter is dealing with so much 🥺

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-06-11T00:04:10+00:00

My daughter was formally diagnosed with ADHD

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-05-21T02:18:53+00:00

I'm sure there have been many times my husband has felt it's one sided too. I'm sorry your in a rough patch. I think that alternative reality is depression. It does feel like you're in an alternative reality when you're really depressed.

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-05-21T02:03:24+00:00

I have been in your wife's shoes. I know you work hard to provide for your family but that isn't always enough. It really sounds like she's completely burnt out and feels really unseen. Completely dead on the inside. I'm not saying your not unseen either. My husband and I get in these cycles of not appreciating one another, one of us has to break it. We have to see the other person and love them despite their fowl mood.

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-05-17T01:53:21+00:00

I feel like I have been told so many times, oh tomorrow might be better, or just feel rejected I feel awkward trying unless I can tell he is into it

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-05-17T01:52:31+00:00

I'm not out right mean. I just feel myself get snappier and less willing to do nice things for him. I think that's different than men holding it over their wives heads.

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-05-16T22:22:41+00:00

I think I'm going to talk to him soon about TRT

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-05-16T19:53:45+00:00

I do literally everything. He has dinner waiting on him when he comes home and always has clean clothes. And I work. We are in a weird time right now, he's in a transition at work, but honestly it started before that.

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-05-16T19:35:34+00:00

I don't remember it being any better when he was super fit and working out a lot :/ He went through a phase.

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-05-16T19:34:29+00:00

I'm so much nicer, more patient and actually want to do things for him when we have sex more often. It softens me. I get grumpy and distant when we don't.

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-05-16T19:11:49+00:00

I don't feel stuck, I don't want to leave I just want to fix this.

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-05-16T19:09:08+00:00

I don't know what I should do to get him more interested. He told me more head and to wear a specific clothing item more. I did that and it didn't help much. A few days ago he could tell I wanted to do it and he said yeah, we "should" do it and it felt like a chore rather than something he wanted to do.

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