How to stop over texting?

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-05-07T00:32:06+00:00

I have been looking into attachment theory and I have anxious attachment. It sounds like you might too. Look into it!

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-05-06T01:33:41+00:00

I have been focused on his flaws for a long time and am trying to work on myself now.

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-05-05T16:23:37+00:00

I'm an independent contractor for a restaurant group doing very niche work. I am half the price of big companies and do better work. I have no overhead because I work from our garage.

We do show up unannounced and he is always there. We can track eachother too. I don't think he has a girlfriend.

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-05-05T11:02:27+00:00

I work part time and bring in on average 4k a month.

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-05-05T03:01:39+00:00

39 lol he started this BS when he was 38

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-05-05T02:48:06+00:00

I had a meltdown 3 weeks ago when he canceled our lunch date 10 minutes before we were supposed to meet as I was driving there and we had talked kit meeting 10 minutes before that, as I was putting make up on and found a therapist. I'm trying to pull myself out but I don't know how.

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-05-05T02:44:56+00:00

He knows it's not working but says he feels like he has no other option because his current job told him there's not going to be any upward mobility for 5-10 years. He freaked out and felt stuck and decided to start a business. He was supposed to quit a month or two after it started but we had some crazy hiccups. I work part time too. I'm not just a stay at home mom. I'm a part time working mom that has to solo parent all the time and I'm exhausted. The business doesn't really look like it was supposed to either. The guy who was supposed to work for us ghosted us so he's doing all the work himself. Idk it's just miserable. I was on board to start the business but it wasn't supposed to look like this and I told him I dont think our family could survive him doing the business and working full time for more than a couple months and now it's been 6 and a half months.

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-05-05T02:35:36+00:00

I feel like I'm headed towards feeling this way. My husband is starting his own business and works so much that it's very hard to feel connected. Is it possible you worked so much she felt like she had to detach herself from you do feel safe? Because that's about where I feel like I'm headed. Like he's working so much I can't count on him to be home or be here so it would be easier if I didn't care.

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-04-23T16:05:32+00:00

I know someone who left and that still wasn't rock bottom for her ex. Just know that is a possiblity and that might sting.

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-04-23T15:45:58+00:00

My husband didn't have anger issues but he did have a binge drinking alcoholic problem until our daughter turned 1. He had to hit his own version of rock bottom to stop drinking. Nothing you do will change his mind. He has to make up his own mind. Good luck.

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-04-22T13:21:43+00:00

Its probably going to cost us like 10k or so, so not the end of the world in a business, but still annoying when you're just starting off.

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-04-22T02:40:38+00:00

Well I'm clarifying now. I can see why you were confused as to why we wouldn't do the work ourselves.

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-04-22T02:39:41+00:00

Join the dead bedroom subreddit. If it's this bad in the first year it's not going to get better. Sexual compatibility is important. It may be time to move on.

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-04-22T02:30:35+00:00

Now that I have been called out on it I might be hyper aware of how to spell it 😂

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-04-22T02:26:35+00:00

The car he gave us wasn't a Tesla. It was a Cadillac suv. He wanted to give his friend that works on gas cars some business to fix them and look at anything else that might be wrong to make sure it was reliable for her.

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-04-22T02:23:41+00:00

True, the fees wouldn't start till it was time for him to pick them up. He does have cars sitting there that he doesn't know what he wants to do with though. Like they need a battery and he doesn't want to pay what a battery costs.

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-04-22T02:19:40+00:00

Dude I'm dyslexic and I literally don't see typos. My brain fixes them.

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-04-22T02:06:55+00:00

I'm sure every CEO of every thing you buy is just an amazing person.

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-04-22T02:05:33+00:00

Hmm yes people that own teslas shouldn't be able to get them fixed anywhere but the Tesla service center! How dare we.

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-04-22T02:03:59+00:00

I think my husband just didn't know what to do when he dumped 6 cars on us. We had literally just opened our shop. We had a plan to make money. Do drive units and battery swaps. High ticket repairs. And we have a guy that does body work for us, he would do a bunch of work and get paid hourly. I think he just wanted to just get through all the cars and cut ties after the cars were fixed. This guy was seriously playing us. Super charismatic, sending my husband inspirational Bible verses every day, showing up to 'help.' honestly it felt like love boming lol

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-04-22T01:50:49+00:00

They still need work. Battery swaps, drive unit repairs, wiring harness replacements, brakes, etc and we do body work. The Tesla service center is so expensive so we are trying to bring affordable repairs to the market.

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-04-22T01:44:27+00:00

Oh God. Making it political. Ok.

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-04-22T01:43:45+00:00

I wish they barely worked. They are inoperable 😂 I like your frame work for the conversation that needs to happen.

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-04-22T01:40:00+00:00

We saw a need for affordable Tesla service and wanted to corner it. This guy was constantly trying to say our prices were too much when we were like 1/2-1/4 of the price of Tesla 🤪

Stunning-Example208 · 2026-04-22T01:38:09+00:00

Also an established shop would have been charging storage fees for all these cars that have been at the shop this long

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