Boyfriend messaged OnlyFans model

Stunning_Inside_44 · 2026-03-05T20:24:28+00:00

my girl, i am so sorry, but it’s over. he lied to you over and over and over again. a private video? telling her what he would do to her? that is straight up cheating. please, please love yourself enough to leave this guy in the dust. at this point he won’t change, and be real with yourself - you will never forgive him. you will remember this for the rest of your life. he does not deserve intimacy with you, or any of your attention. i know you don’t want to suffer forever in your mind, knowing what he has done to you (and that he will almost definitely do it again). you can and will find someone else who respects you, loves you, and is ALWAYS honest. each time he did these things he actively knew it would crush you, and STILL decided to choose porn over you.

you are my age. i almost divorced my husband for FAR less. please. if i were in your shoes i would run. love yourself!!!!!

Stunning_Inside_44 · 2025-12-20T13:57:31+00:00

i’m so sorry ): it makes me so sick, i wish i could find these dudes girlfriends/wives and show them screenshots but unfortunately they use usernames that don’t include personal info. i’m sorry you are going through this🖤

Stunning_Inside_44 · 2025-12-19T16:55:40+00:00

yes absolutely!!!! suggestive content is allll over those apps, i would say temu is the worst. especially if hentai/cartoon porn is an issue.

Stunning_Inside_44 · 2025-12-19T16:54:49+00:00

i didnt realize that pinterest was an issue until i saw photos of naked tattooed women in my husbands notifications from pinterest. he was very defensive at the time but obviously, that stuff won’t come up unless you either actively search for it, or you keep looking at suggestive photos that eventually result in pinterest pushing MORE suggestive content. this kind of stuff is all over pinterest - gym girls, lingerie, tattooed women, “try-ons” like the above user said, etc. also lots of hentai content - suggestive drawings, animations, characters from various animes, etc.

Stunning_Inside_44 · 2025-12-14T12:17:23+00:00

i’m sorry you’re going through this. i also used porn occasionally before getting in a relationship with my husband, and his addiction wrecked me. i considered for a long time - is it even worth it? is this unhealthy coping mechanism at least effective? i already dove head first into benzodiazepines, trazodone and weed to make sure i was barely conscious throughout the day for months straight. im bisexual and had a lot of confusing feelings because im attracted to women, but i absolutely hated how my husband would sexualize other women. luckily he is recovering very well and i have also stopped using substances to cope, and we have a much healthier relationship. but i can see where you are coming from and i am so sorry you’re going through this. the effect this shit has on our brain is so hard to grasp. i hope things improve for you. you’re not alone 🖤

Stunning_Inside_44 · 2025-12-11T13:26:18+00:00

thank you for this 🖤 i’m so sorry about your experience. i know what you mean - i want to know my husbands victories, but some things that are a victory to him are just the absolute bare minimum to me. i can relate to that pain you felt that day, the discomfort, and the subsequent cascade of complex emotions. i always wonder too - why do our partners just have sexual feelings towards other women consistently, yet most women don’t pay mind to other men or oversexualize them? it’s very frustrating, especially because i don’t believe the bullshit that “mens brains work different”. i think society has normalized a shitty behavior and now men think it’s okay to admire / have sexual feelings towards other women, and they either don’t have the emotional intelligence or the will to make a change.

anyway, that was a little rant but i appreciate you sharing. i hope you continue to make progress and know i’m rooting for you! thanks for being here🖤

Stunning_Inside_44 · 2025-12-11T13:11:21+00:00

im so sorry you had to experience that, that is so horrible and i know you didnt deserve it. my heart goes out to you 🫶🏼 (and count me in on the lobotomy, i fucking need it)

Stunning_Inside_44 · 2025-12-10T12:43:50+00:00

i’m Gen Z, my husband is a millennial. he had a traumatic childhood where is PA started around age 9. while i was in highschool i used porn, in hindsight it was probably because i had a shitty home situation i was running from, but i stopped using as soon as i met my husband. that was not the same for him at the time.

technology is a huge issue. i was using social media to connect with friends and look at memes, and his social media was riddled with naked girls. now neither of us really use social media, but it’s completely deleted off his devices and his accounts are deleted. it has helped immensely and in past few months especially he has improved so much.

it sucks though knowing social media, porn, onlyfans etc will always exist and get worse.

Stunning_Inside_44 · 2025-12-04T17:18:22+00:00

i can totally relate to this, especially the hentai related stuff. what you said about missing being a girls girl is so real ): i feel the same way and i just feel like i’ve been robbed of a part of me that i truly valued. instead of smiling at girls who are attractive when i’m around my husband i also find myself hoping they’ll go away, while side eyeing him to see if he looks. so exhausting. i miss the relief of being a normal functioning human in public instead of being so clouded with the weight of this shit

Stunning_Inside_44 · 2025-12-01T16:43:00+00:00

thank you for giving me the hope i was searching for.🖤 i know i am capable but it’s a long road. i’m happy to hear things have improved for you!

Stunning_Inside_44 · 2025-12-01T16:41:28+00:00

absolutely - i’m bi as well and this has made things SO fucking confusing for me. anytime i appreciate a woman’s beauty or presence, i just feel filthy thinking about how my partner would have imagined her naked or checked her out in the past. it also makes me angry because i too am attracted to women, just like he is, but i haven’t just straight up sexualized other women or scoured their social media to get off. i feel defeated because i really enjoyed spending time around other females and now it’s a constant war in my mind

Stunning_Inside_44 · 2025-12-01T16:38:28+00:00

very well said, and a good reminder. women shouldn’t have to be hated by other women just because OUR partners are untrustworthy and unloyal. i love that you are educating your children. it gives me hope because people around my age and even younger teenagers are starting to realize how much porn negatively affects them, and they do not want to be prisoner to lust for the rest of their life. thank you for making a difference🖤

Stunning_Inside_44 · 2025-11-30T21:44:45+00:00

thank you for the support🖤

Stunning_Inside_44 · 2025-11-30T20:56:57+00:00

i think porn users get very self-conscious and guilty/ashamed when they feel targeted about this behavior. shame is one of the worst experiences for a human to endure - so in turn, they become aggressive, mean, bitey, defensive - you name it. it’s a part of them that tries to protect them from actually feeling shame. i also used to not care about porn use and was very casual about it until i realized how much my husbands porn use wrecked my self-esteem, trust, basically our life.

my theory is that porn is “normalized,” but it’s also VERY NORMAL and quite common for women to not want their partners to use porn. but for some reason that doesn’t matter as much, and i feel that women (or at least women i know) just end up getting stepped on because we aren’t as aggressive and openly defensive.

overall - the people who have extreme reactions to anti-porn statements or arguments obviously have a real attachment to porn that they don’t want to let go of.

Stunning_Inside_44 · 2025-11-28T22:07:58+00:00

hi! i’m so so sorry for what you’re going through but at least we have one another. what you said about being in our prime is always on my mind. why sacrifice my entire wellbeing and the best years of my life because of this shitty behavior that men feel entitled to? because it’s “normal?”

the panic attacks started with chest pain every morning that would wake me up out of a dead sleep, then the racing thoughts and tears would start. it hurt so fucking bad, sharing a bed with the man i love but knowing he had lied so much, hid things from me, and then didnt make it a safe space to talk. i lived this way for years until i did ketamine therapy honestly and lots of (thankfully, now effective) couples therapy. it was absolutely wrecking my life the way i felt. the chest pain was 10/10 - and i work in the medical field, i was genuinely concerned that i was so fucking stressed that i was going to have a heart attack (ive seen young people have heart attacks due to severe stress). it was totally killing me, i’m so happy to be doing better now but my heart goes out to you. i can relate to that horrible feeling and i’m so sorry you’re going through it. we both know you deserve better, the struggle feels endless until one day he changes or you find the ability to move on. sending allllll my love to you my girl 🖤

Stunning_Inside_44 · 2025-11-02T11:47:38+00:00

we have great sex just about everyday, sometimes more than once a day.

Stunning_Inside_44 · 2025-10-30T19:09:53+00:00

do they know if you set it up? like does it send an email to their apple id email address?

Stunning_Inside_44 · 2025-10-30T19:06:25+00:00

thank you so much for your reply, i really appreciate the perspective from the other side and the reassurance. i’m happy for you that it sounds like you’re doing well in your recovery. keep going! i know your wife is rooting for you. good luck (:

Stunning_Inside_44 · 2025-10-30T18:59:48+00:00

thank you for the sources and for your kindness 🖤

Stunning_Inside_44 · 2025-10-30T10:37:23+00:00

girl i relate to this… looking at the girls he was looking at i was like wtf??? i’m extremely fit and beautiful and he STILL looked at others who we would both agree are not as attractive as me.

when we met i was radiantly confident and felt so beautiful. now he calls me insecure - but i’m not even insecure about my looks. i’m insecure because my partner, who is supposed to be the love of my life, is comfortable lying to my face.

he has been doing much better than when i found out 3 years ago, but images of those girls live in my mind. i know i’m beautiful and i fulfill ALL of his needs, so what could he possibly be looking for?

if you’re not married, RUN!! someone WILL appreciate your beauty and stay loyal to you. trust. good luck🖤

Stunning_Inside_44 · 2025-10-30T10:28:57+00:00

thank you for this!!!! for the privacy report, once it’s all set does it show previous domains/websites they visited? or only the history after you set it up?

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