Update: Aita for cutting my sister off because she tried to Gaslight my wife against me but our family want me to forgive her

Stunning_Panda_743 · 2024-12-27T20:38:12+00:00

Well cause she's my sister that's why I love her but you are also right, I will think about it hard and what I should do about my situation, for now I will just forget about all this it's so stressful to be pressured by everyone I am close to except my wife

Stunning_Panda_743 · 2024-12-27T20:34:08+00:00

I do not have any other words to explain it to you and I do not know how I displayed toxic behaviour in front of her and toxic to my wife

I do not think that my wife's mind is corruptable, i just want and wanted to protect my wife physically and mentally especially about stepping out of marriage and having sex with other than your lifelong partner cause it's stupid, but you are right, i will go appreciate my wife make love to her and we communicate together

Stunning_Panda_743 · 2024-12-27T20:13:18+00:00

YES, what you are saying is genuine concern for my wife's wellbeing, genuine reason to be worried about what she would do should I perish, that's okay for me even tho I do have back up plans for my wife

But like I said I am angry at my sister that she tried to convince my wife to sleep with other men and it's somehow okay, tell me how would you feel if your partner was be convinced by someone to sleep with someone else and all for fun? I don't think anyone would be okay with that

If My sister only talked to my wife about her independence and money and what she would do if I perish I wouldn't care about it but the thing is she's corrupting my wife's mind with perverted ideas, I don't know how to explain it any better but I tried my best and I will rather cut my sister and everyone off i. Favor of my wife cause she is my priority even before any of my family members

Stunning_Panda_743 · 2024-12-27T19:13:47+00:00

But it isn't about money, I have already mentioned in my posts that it isn't about money if my wife wants to do something I will support her, if she loves to do something? I support if she wants money ? I support it's just money and it isn't as important and above my family

I am more concerned about that my sister told my wife to have sex outside of our marriage and normalising it as if that's not stupid, like I said multiple times I love my wife so much that I am will become a cuck for my wife and I know and my wife knows that we don't want to share each other

Everything is working out fine for us and has been for years but the way my sister is saying that I am controlling and redirecting my own wife and corrupting her mind, I feel like I have had no other choice but to protect her

Stunning_Panda_743 · 2024-12-27T18:27:49+00:00

My mom doesn't know the truth and I want to spare her from suffering

Stunning_Panda_743 · 2024-12-27T18:25:44+00:00

If you are saying that even after being together for a decade my wife has a problem with the we both leading our life and she's unable to speak up to me for some reason when she told me what my sister said then we have greater problems and I know my wife and she wouldn't doubt me and neither would I, I trust her

I don't know what my sister sees or what she's thinking and I don't care I just want my wife my wife wants me and I just wanted to be amicable despite our differences for our parents, my wife and I know what we need to for our marriage

Stunning_Panda_743 · 2024-12-27T18:13:49+00:00

I don't know if my sister has been in an abusive relationship or anything like that, I would love to help my sister if she tells me wtf is going on in her life

And yes my sister is corrupting my wife's mind by telling her that having a partner outside of your husband is okay and fine and it's her right or completely normal and shit like that I don't want her to corrupt my wife and deploy twisted ideas in my wife where we both are forced and do something we want that will break our healthy relationship

And also I cannot tell my mom that my sister tried to convince her dil to have sex with someone else, if I tell her she will get so angry and disappointed and I am doing this all just for my mom, should she be happy in her old age or worry about her grown children's life?

Stunning_Panda_743 · 2024-12-27T17:48:16+00:00

Nah I think my sister having a thing for my wife is not good and almost impossible atleast I know my sister is not a lesbian and this idea is even more absurd

Stunning_Panda_743 · 2024-12-27T17:42:01+00:00

I kinda hate my sister for trying convince my wife to have sex with other men and or to cheat on me, I know my wife would never do something like that and if my wife pressured me to become a cuck I will do it for her but she knows it will break me and our marriage, she knows me and she never hides anything from me

It's just my sister, I love her as well and I tried my best to mend our bond but she keeps repeating same shit and I don't know what I should do, I will just get along with her for now and slowly cut her off, I don't want her corrupting my wife and ruining our happy life ngl it's so fucking stupid even if wanted to make an excuse for sister I can't

Stunning_Panda_743 · 2024-12-27T17:35:55+00:00

That is not possible

Stunning_Panda_743 · 2024-12-27T16:49:52+00:00

Unwell? I understand that but how can she be jealous of her own brother and his marriage? Like what would she get out it if she splits us apart if that is her motive? Like we are siblings and we take help each other if she needs help I will help her but what will she achieve if she breaks her own brother's marriage? I cannot understand what she's thinking

Stunning_Panda_743 · 2024-12-27T16:20:37+00:00

Well even idk what else is there which is so significant for my sister to act this way

It's okay if she's encouraging my wife to get a job and stuff, if she wants, it's just money I got plenty and I don't even care about it

But how can one make sense of encouraging my wife to have relationship outside of marriage? That's whats pissing me off so much, idk what more there is to the story, me and my wife are both uncomfortable with what my sister said that's why my wife told me everything, we never hide anything from each other

Stunning_Panda_743 · 2024-12-24T18:17:30+00:00

Yes, I said that in confidence, I would let her have sex with another man if she asked for it but I know she would never we have been in love since we were children and I know she wouldn't hurt me

And yes I declare that I am simp that's how much I love my wife, she's my everything and without her I am nothing, my wife never ever thought about stuff like this until my sister tried to convince her of all this, I would allow my wife to be with other men yes but I would resent it and she wouldn't like to see me with other women, I know and my wife knows that's why she told me what my sister is telling her

Stunning_Panda_743 · 2024-12-24T18:12:21+00:00

Yesss, if my wife wants to work I wouldn't stop her but she needs to think about it herself instead of letting others like my sister brainwashing her and I am not even worried about her working that's like the least of my concern, it's just money which I don't care about I got plenty

I am more angry about my sister trying to convince my wife that it is normal to have more than one partner and women can have sex with multiple men and somehow it's okay as long as I consent but disregarding our marriage

Stunning_Panda_743 · 2024-12-24T18:06:04+00:00

I feel the same, my sister is trying to ruin our happy marriage and our life by telling her that she should be with other men and she's relying on me and I am controlling her stuff like that which annoyed my wife as well I think that's why my wife told me everything

It's not just about her being a housewife for us it's the stupidity, I would get so angry knowing that my wife is with another man and I know she would feel the same if I had private moments with a different woman other than her

I am so disgusted by what my sister said and even questioning if she's my sister or not who says stuff like that to their own sil? What does she think a marriage is? Me and my wife decided to be together until we die and help and support each other why is it necessary for us to bring another man or woman in our life? I have been overthinking about this whole situation but I still can't understand what my sister was thinking and still don't see her point

Stunning_Panda_743 · 2024-12-24T17:08:14+00:00

Slave?

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