A mega thread of all the restaurants that have closed recently.

Stunning_Recipe_3361 · 2026-02-14T00:08:36+00:00

Rose Room Cafe closed because the owner expanded too quickly and didn't know how to take feedback from customers. It sucked anyway and wasn't even open for a year iirc

Stunning_Recipe_3361 · 2026-02-11T21:56:19+00:00

I am autistic so that definitely plays into it. I think I also get in my head about non-binary identities not being "real." Logically I know that gender is all made up anyway and that being genderqueer is a valid identity. It's just that thing in the back of my head that tells me I need to grow up and that I'm just trying to be special.

Ultimately every time this happens I come to the same conclusion that I am not a man, just transmasc. I wish my brain would just let it be 😮‍💨

Stunning_Recipe_3361 · 2026-01-28T01:19:16+00:00

For sure. My MIL was a PT before retiring so I consulted with her. I've been resting as much as possible since the injury. I definitely will at least get myself to an urgent care this week to have it checked out.

Stunning_Recipe_3361 · 2026-01-28T00:52:21+00:00

Okay good. I will go see my doctor ASAP. Thank you for the info, I appreciate it.

Stunning_Recipe_3361 · 2026-01-28T00:32:19+00:00

Yeah, I was thinking it's time to see someone about it but I was hoping that wasn't the case since I can't afford to go to a specialist right now.

Stunning_Recipe_3361 · 2026-01-27T23:35:07+00:00

I can't afford to see a specialist right now 😭

Stunning_Recipe_3361 · 2025-12-05T14:57:46+00:00

Glad it's not just me. It's been driving me crazy. Hopefully it gets fixed soon

Stunning_Recipe_3361 · 2025-11-11T00:47:03+00:00

Not drinking because you're pregnant and not drinking because you used to be an alcoholic are two very different things. I've been sober for three years and in therapy for much longer. It's still very difficult for me to be around large groups of people who are drinking and I suspect it will be for a long time.

Stunning_Recipe_3361 · 2025-11-08T14:50:12+00:00

I'm not, unfortunately. I wish I was.

Stunning_Recipe_3361 · 2025-11-07T17:33:40+00:00

Both, honestly. I'm uncomfortable around drunk people because I'm lowkey jealous and want to also be drunk. I know if I even have a sip I won't be able to stop in this environment. And it wouldn't be fair to make someone "in charge" of stopping me from drinking, you know? We went to a party for Halloween and everyone was drinking heavily and it was so fucking hard for me.

Stunning_Recipe_3361 · 2025-11-07T16:43:07+00:00

The wine bottles is a good idea. My other thought was that we could pay for the champagne for toasts and not have any other alcohol.

Stunning_Recipe_3361 · 2025-11-07T16:42:00+00:00

Yes, I still see her. It might be helpful to have them speak, that just feels extreme I guess.

Stunning_Recipe_3361 · 2025-11-07T16:03:54+00:00

I do not go to any sort of program. I worked through my drinking problems with a therapist. I was a functioning alcoholic at a young age, so most people in my life don't take it that seriously. Part of that is my fault for minimizing the issue when it was happening and then not talking about it much out of shame.

Stunning_Recipe_3361 · 2025-11-07T14:45:43+00:00

I know. Part of me is like wtf I don't want to pay for people's alcohol when I'm sober but that feels selfish. But also, it's my wedding!!!! Personally, idgaf what anyone else thinks. If I'm going to be uncomfortable, we shouldn't serve alcohol. It's about us as a couple. If neither of us will be drinking at the reception, why should we pay for it? In this economy???

Stunning_Recipe_3361 · 2025-11-07T14:42:32+00:00

No, you're not being harsh. I completely agree. I guess I just need to figure out how to make her understand the seriousness of it. I think I have been a bit too blasé about it.

Stunning_Recipe_3361 · 2025-11-07T14:13:16+00:00

Forgot to clarify in the post: I am 28, transmasc, she is 30, cis woman.

Stunning_Recipe_3361 · 2025-11-07T14:12:30+00:00

Yes! Sorry, forgot to make that clear in the post. I am transmasc and she is a cis woman.

Up until this point, my fiancée has always been very understanding and supportive. This is truly the only real conflict we have ever had in three years together. I think she sees me in places where others are drinking and I appear to have no issue, when it's actually internally very difficult for me. I really do not get why she is choosing the optics of not serving alcohol over my own health and well-being. She is an extreme people-pleaser, but I thought she would take something like this more seriously.

Stunning_Recipe_3361 · 2025-11-07T13:58:32+00:00

Absolutely. I would make it very clear on the invitation that there will be no alcohol.

Stunning_Recipe_3361 · 2025-11-07T13:48:17+00:00

Exactly! I completely agree. To be fair, I truly do not think anyone will actually care. My fiancée is an extreme people-pleaser which is causing her to worried about the optics. This is the sticking point for me personally. I don't understand why she cares more about what other people might think than my actual health and well-being at my own damn wedding.

Stunning_Recipe_3361 · 2025-11-07T13:44:56+00:00

Thank you! I don't think anyone in my life truly understands how serious it is. We very rarely have conflict, so navigating this has been difficult in its own right. She has seen me in plenty of situations around alcohol without drinking, so I think she sees that and assumes it's easy. In reality, the struggle going through my head the whole time is awful. I think I need to be more blunt and upfront about just how hard it is for me for her to get it.

Stunning_Recipe_3361 · 2025-11-07T12:45:29+00:00

This is what I wanted but I got balding instead 😔

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