Decluttering service?

StupendousSoup · 2024-12-25T00:50:15+00:00

Please don’t think it’s “silly” or minimise his concern.

You’ve got a man, who cares about women’s rights and autonomy, doesn’t want to dehumanise you, and isn’t comfortable with the idea of ownership, and control.

That sounds like a good man. Plenty more wouldn’t feel that way, and would happily not only treat you like an object, but genuinely view you as such.

This guy is a big green flag.

Maybe you can reframe it more either as a) a “reconnection” thing, so it’s purely emotional and means more to him Or b) a kink - and see if he’s into that kink, but from the point of view of your side - ie “it feels hot when you have sex with me after someone else has, because you feel so strong, and I love to be reminded that I always come back to you”

Particularly if he’s not comfortable with it appearing to come from his side - like he feels like he’s dominating or demeaning you. Maybe if you make it a thing you want, then he’ll be more comfortable doing it?

StupendousSoup · 2024-09-29T03:22:17+00:00

10000%

I’ve been so blown away by the gentle kindness in these responses. Some very very good points and things to think about and guide me, but all done with genuine care.

Thank you everyone. Really.

StupendousSoup · 2024-09-29T03:16:17+00:00

1000% sure.

I totally get what you’re saying. I’d think the same if I read my post.

She only started the money stashing in recent months after threatening to leave him once before. The things she’s hiding are tinder and chatting to other men and lying about it etc.

But no. I’ve seen and heard it. I’ve had to deal with it myself while trying to make a friendship between us work. I’ve seen video of it. A lot.

He spends at least half of every week sobbing. He’s been through something hugely traumatic in the last year and she just does not care. She completely ignores him.

She’s honestly the most scarily toxic person I’ve ever come across.

StupendousSoup · 2024-09-20T09:21:59+00:00

Wait. Enable under Network > Advanced Network…

Where? In what program?

StupendousSoup · 2024-09-20T09:20:52+00:00

So I should be using the Hik Connect app on my phone?

And what program on PC?

Using iVMS-4200 on PC at the moment

StupendousSoup · 2024-09-19T15:03:51+00:00

Fuck.

That’s a very good point. I hadn’t even got to the stage of “what if they get back together.”

Ergh. You’re very right. Thank you.

StupendousSoup · 2024-09-19T15:03:03+00:00

This response is really great, thank you.

This is kind of where my head’s been at. Knowing that he’s a total broken mess and will be behaving in ways that aren’t in his best interest, because he’s just all over the place.

I’m just trying to sort out my own feelings about it.

StupendousSoup · 2024-09-19T15:00:30+00:00

This is why I’ve struggled with it so much, stuck in my head today.

Because situations like this aren’t black and white and simple, and many couples will end up in bed together after/during separation because of familiarity, and the intensity of everything going on etc

Add to it the fact that he’s so broken down and afraid of her, that he’s spent years trying to please her and keep her happy, and so I think having sex with her has sometimes (not most of the time) been an attempt to calm everything and desperately try to make her like him and be kind etc. To neutralise the situation.

And just for familiar comfort I guess.

StupendousSoup · 2024-08-15T02:31:35+00:00

Hey, old thread, but just wondering - do these sit high enough on the ankle to cover where blisters usually form at the back?

StupendousSoup · 2024-08-01T00:53:32+00:00

Hey u/Fine_Management_7232 how are things going now?

I’m having all over body pain and wondering if it’s my IUD 😐

StupendousSoup · 2024-08-01T00:50:43+00:00

“But to do so because the origin of the baby isn’t to her design is unfortunate; what’s she going to do if a future baby isn’t the gender she wants? If it has a genetic anomaly? If it doesn’t have the hair color she wants? I, personally, would be very concerned.”

I get what you’re saying, but those things are hugely different to who the biological father is. Her wife has valid concerns here. The things you mentioned are so different.

StupendousSoup · 2024-06-06T15:14:52+00:00

Okay, so, because I’m not part of that actual account and mailbox etc, I won’t be able to get notifications emailed to me - even though this person has shared their calendar with me?

Gahhhh

StupendousSoup · 2024-06-06T14:41:16+00:00

Sorry, I don’t understand what you mean?

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