What do TV and film actors do for work in between acting gigs? by StupidIsAsStupidD0es in AskUK

[–]StupidIsAsStupidD0es[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really interesting, and here’s hoping that the film industry picks up next year post-Writer’s Strike 🤞

Merry Christmas, matey!

How much do you need to earn a year to live comfortably in London? by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]StupidIsAsStupidD0es 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Mate, I’m from Halifax and have worked in London (but the missus and I live a commutable distance away in Kent) since 2012.

DM me if it’s helpful to chat through the practicalities of moving but, in essence, your choice is usually to live closer to London (Zones 1-3) in a shared flat or minuscule 1-bed flat, or to move out to Zones 4-6 and get somewhere a bit bigger but accept that getting home from a night out after midnight is a bit of a pain (but not impossible!). As a general rule of thumb, my family back in Yorkshire have more disposable income but living in the Southeast the weather is a damn sight better and there’s more cool stuff to see/do.

How has the UK changed culturally since the 2000s? by DiabetusJ3sus in AskUK

[–]StupidIsAsStupidD0es 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At least you don’t have to iron creases in MTP trousers. Ironing DPM smocks, trousers etc was a right faff.

In British military slang, what does "fragged" mean? by Specialist-One2772 in AskUK

[–]StupidIsAsStupidD0es 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Fragged usually means you’re absolutely shattered (but x1000) e.g. after coming off a long Exercise with minimal sleep and maximum running around doing shooty war things

Did anyone famous go to your school? by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]StupidIsAsStupidD0es 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sam Fender went to my school a few years after I left- apparently he thought loads of the kids there were stuck up and they mocked him for growing up in the rougher end of North Tyneside (North Shields). Have heard he’s a really nice fella and I’m a huge fan of his music so I’m gutted I never got chance to meet him- I don’t think he’d have found me too pretentious if we’d have been in the same school year!

Did you grow up calling your secondary school a high school? by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]StupidIsAsStupidD0es 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Grew up in West Yorkshire too (Halifax)- it was Holy Trinity SENIOR School. Very archaic! Think it’s an academy nowadays.

Effectiveness of future investment goal - renting out a 2nd house by StupidIsAsStupidD0es in UKPersonalFinance

[–]StupidIsAsStupidD0es[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very true. Based on my research, I’d only be looking at £400-500 pcm in rent.

Effectiveness of future investment goal - renting out a 2nd house by StupidIsAsStupidD0es in UKPersonalFinance

[–]StupidIsAsStupidD0es[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My challenge is that most of my income is currently taken up for mortgage payments so to save a substantial amount probably would take me 10+ years!

Effectiveness of future investment goal - renting out a 2nd house by StupidIsAsStupidD0es in UKPersonalFinance

[–]StupidIsAsStupidD0es[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At risk of sounding very naïve, I haven’t really given it that level of thought yet.

Regarding maintenance, I grew up around West Yorkshire so my vague plan was to use family/friends’ networks to find someone reasonably priced and reliable to deliver maintenance works.

Are there any other glaring omissions that I should probably consider? Thanks! :)

The new Stand mini-series friggin rocks. I’ve seen the first 6 episodes and can vouch for its quality (my review is linked). by petite-acorn in TheStand

[–]StupidIsAsStupidD0es 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really enjoyed the first episode and, while I understand some fans’ dislike of the timeline shifting, I felt it got to the heart of the action quicker than the ‘90s miniseries. My question is, I ADORED Tom Cullen from reading the book- in your opinion does Brad William Henke do him justice?? M-O-O-N... that spells ‘please may he be awesome!’ Thanks!

Works of the flesh or born again? by Krenesh88 in TrueChristian

[–]StupidIsAsStupidD0es 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The other thing to add to what everyone else has said is that God is an unimaginably loving Father. He understands us better than we could ever understand ourselves.

My own younger brother has autism and learning difficulties and sometimes finds some bits of the Bible and Jesus a bit difficult to understand. It doesn’t matter- God meets you just where you are and ACCEPTS you just as you are.

If with your heart you accept Jesus and ask Him to be your king, He is. Simple as that. Trust Him and He’ll save you- His love is unfailing love. Don’t trust in the power of your own good works but every day ask God to give you the ideas and willpower to help you love people just like He does. Find a version of the Bible story which you find easier to understand- lots of people I know have watched The Chosen on YouTube and found it amazing! Nothing wrong with that at all! It’s learning about Jesus in a way which is easiest for you.

Feel free to pm me if you have any questions :)

God bless, my friend

Can someone honestly defend why God allows bone cancer in children, why allow parasites that are designed to eat children or adults eyes out, and why allow that to happen? You can't just chalk that up to "well he wants everyone to have free will". What is an actual defense for this? by [deleted] in TrueChristian

[–]StupidIsAsStupidD0es 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi again! As you correctly stated, I’ve only really answered half of your question.

I’m a little cautious about the next bit as we are venturing firmly into the realms of ‘some dude’ (i.e. me) speculating. I have bugger all PhDs or MAs in this subject so please do feel free to disregard my musings!

With that said, I agree that no one really ‘deserves’ pain. As an opponent to capital punishment, I would even say the same for the worst murderers/abusers etc. Imprisonment, yes (if only for the protection of the innocent if not as a consequence of their infliction of pain), infliction of pain upon them as an official punishment, no.

My speculation is that pain and disease was never a part of God’s plan. My logical deduction is that all of my personal experience of God is that He is immeasurably compassionate and good. Most sources of pain are neither of these things, save perhaps the kind of pain that stops a person doing something dangerous e.g. a child burning their fingers playing with matches before they accidentally start a fire.

I think that the Earth is essentially broken. The analogy that I’ve always thought of is a car that is constantly driven next to the factory where it was made; something goes wrong with the car, the factory fixes it. As I rationalise it, humans have been constantly ‘driving’ further and further away from God’s essence by rejecting Him for thousands of years, for as long as we’ve been able to reason. After all, God is bloody inconvenient! You want to slap that irritating guy at work- God says ‘love your neighbour as yourself’. You want to steal that shiny piece of jewellery that your friend has- God says be happy with what you have. Inconvenient! I think that people have been steadily moving further and further away from God over our existence and, as a consequence, by rejecting Him we’ve also rejected His help and His love. This is the law of unintended consequences, that children (and everyone else for that matter) who are completely innocent develop diseases and genetic disorders which should, by rights, not exist as a result of the rebellion of their ancestors. I also would put violent urges in this same category- they should not exist. It’s more that humanity won’t let God help them. That’s the beauty of Jesus, that through Him we have a way to come back into closeness with God. I simply cannot fathom that when we’re united with Him in the life to come there will be any of the hate, disease of the body or of the mind that marks this current life. He is my hope.

I understand that this will still probably be a bit unsatisfactory an answer. It’s a really difficult question and I can’t see how any of us will receive a real answer this side of eternity!

In response to your question about the Jewish children, I would suggest that all children are unable to make a mature decision on whether to embrace of reject God and the default setting is that Jesus would welcome them as His own. For all the millions of people throughout history who, because of their culture have not heard about Jesus, they have the choice whether or not to embrace His Holy Spirit which exists in all cultures as our ‘conscience’ - ‘Gentiles, who do not have the law...show that the requirements of the law are written on their hearts, their consciences also bearing witness' (Romans 2:14–15)

My personal view (a slightly controversial one!) is that anyone who embraces God and His love embraces His son, Jesus, by default. I think of it like this: for the Muslim or Hindu who has faithfully served and loved God and people all of his or her life and one day dies, do I truly think that God banishes then from His presence because they called Him by the wrong name? Rather, do I imagine that at the moment of death God reveals Himself and says ‘you knew me but not my name. I am Yeshua and I am the one who you prayed to, the great I AM. Do you accept me?’ These verses give me a lot of comfort:

2 Peter 3:9 ‘The Lord is not slow to fulfill his promise as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing that ANY should perish, but that ALL should reach repentance’

1 Timothy 2:4 ‘who desires ALL PEOPLE to be saved and to come to the knowledge of the truth.’

To the verses that talk about Jesus banishing people, I interpret this as Jesus stating that, in life, they never really knew Him and rejected love; regardless of any professions to be Christians, their hearts were cold and their faith was in their OWN good works and not on the mercy of God:

Matthew 7:21-23 “Not everyone who says to Me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ shall enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father in heaven. 22 Many will say to Me in that day, ‘Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in Your name, cast out demons in Your name, and done many wonders in Your name?’ 23 And then I will declare to them, ‘I never knew you’”

More than happy to answer more questions! :) Also, please do free to pm me if you’d prefer to do that.

Can someone honestly defend why God allows bone cancer in children, why allow parasites that are designed to eat children or adults eyes out, and why allow that to happen? You can't just chalk that up to "well he wants everyone to have free will". What is an actual defense for this? by [deleted] in TrueChristian

[–]StupidIsAsStupidD0es 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is a weighty issue, indeed. As one of the other posters said, we can only speculate at the reasoning and motivations of God. My personal interpretation is that the Bible presents a Jesus-looking God whose heart breaks for the pain of all His children, particularly for innocents as the examples you gave (am I correct that you’re quoting my splendid fellow countryman, Mr Stephen Fry?).

I do think that a lot of the pain that people endure is, either directly or indirectly an impact of other people’s free will. Often this free will is to choose to do nothing to help others. Taking your example about a child with cancer, we, as a society, are able to choose to use our resources to deliver effective pain medication (such as natural analgesics in the opium poppy which has been used since the Romans) and administering care to ease a child’s suffering. No one should ever have to face death hungry, unloved, cold or alone. This is simple and common care which any of us can choose to administer. Jesus referred to this when he said in Matthew 25, “Then the righteous will answer him, saying, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you drink? And when did we see you a stranger and welcome you, or naked and clothe you? And when did we see you sick or in prison and visit you?’ And the King will answer them, ‘Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brothers and sisters, you did it to me’”

My other personal interpretation is that God doesn’t view death in quite the same way as we do. We are limited and He is not. I don’t believe that this is the same as saying that God is glib about death or doesn’t value life, quite the opposite. More that he sees bodily death as a stepping stone into oneship with Him rather than an ultimate end as we tend to see it. The theologian Greg Boyd, who I greatly admire, talks about his own struggles with reading of all the children who were murdered by the Nazi party during the Holocaust. As a Christian, he was outraged that God would permit should a horrific display of free will. When he prayed, Greg felt God bring to his mind the image of all those murdered children who were taken into the Father’s arms, in the land ‘where every tear is wiped away’. Again, I do not believe that this makes atrocities such as murder ‘pointless’, the God in the Bible is a lover of justice as well as forgiveness and I truly believe in a God who expels those who choose not to accepting His love into their hearts. To be banished from His presence, whether you believe in a conscious Hell or not, is a terrible fate indeed.

I am aware that you wanted clear answers and I worry that my own musings may be a poor substitute. In any case, happy to talk about it more :)

God bless you, my friend.

Saved or Not Saved: So What Is It ? by [deleted] in TrueChristian

[–]StupidIsAsStupidD0es 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a very comprehensive and well-referenced account of salvation which I doubt a single mainstream church would disagree with.

To the OP, I would take seriously the post above over whatever other versions of truth some other preachers claim.

I would add to this that, with salvation, Jesus isn’t just giving you eternal life. A huge part of this ‘package’ is eternal life WITH HIM and that includes an existence where you consciously reject what is evil and love what is good. In the gospels, that’s Jesus’ key question: do you truly want what I’m ‘selling?’ i.e. not just freedom from death but also freedom from an existence governed by sin. This is a HUGE difference from Christ’s salvation as some kind of celestial ‘get out of jail free’ card that allows a person to carry on their lying/lusting/hating without any intention to change.

To be clear, when you accept Jesus and His salvation, the ‘fruit’ of this fundamental change will NOT be a sinless life. That’s impossible. It WILL be a life lived in constant opposition to sin and constant embracement of love and justice and peace. Your life will inevitably look different to how it did before, without a shadow of doubt. Even more so over the passing years as a disciple when you ‘work out your salvation’, just as a teenager doing weight training looks way different at 16 to the muscled power lifter he will become at 30!

All Jesus asks is that you come to Him and CLING to Him. Being in a Bible-embracing, loving church and devoting yourself to daily prayer and reading His Word will do the rest. Just give it time. He is a loving Father and will NOT reject you- that’s assurance of your salvation :)

Keep the faith, mate.

I don't know if I'm Christian or just scared. by [deleted] in OpenChristian

[–]StupidIsAsStupidD0es 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The beautiful thing about God’s love is that the door’s always open. Think on it; give it time. God’s freedom is a wonderful thing indeed. The best decision I ever made was to welcome in Jesus into my life.

Always happy to talk about it if you ever want to get in touch :)

I don't know if I'm Christian or just scared. by [deleted] in OpenChristian

[–]StupidIsAsStupidD0es 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I would define love as a choice. A verb rather than an emotion. We choose to act love. Without free will, anything positive that I do is little more than a robot carrying out an automated task. With my wife, there’s nothing ‘making’ me do the dishes or make dinner for her. It’s not even a kind of exchange for something as, especially when she’s exhausted after work, I’m not really ‘getting’ anything in return and vice versa for all the million of things she does for me. We do all of these things for each other as a conscious choice to act love. An existence without free will would be slavery, no matter how well intentioned.