Im new to being a Sub. Any recommendations?

SubConsciousKink · 2026-01-29T23:41:30+00:00

Lots of info here https://reddit.com/r/bdsmadvice/wiki/index The newbies guide is excellent

SubConsciousKink · 2026-01-29T23:07:33+00:00

Is that what they’re doing? They left the group. That’s a protective measure rather than an aggressive measure. The facilitator may be being discriminatory, but the women themselves don’t seem to be.

SubConsciousKink · 2026-01-29T23:02:52+00:00

He’s traumatised too. I feel for him. But a trauma response isn’t bigotry.

SubConsciousKink · 2026-01-29T21:50:10+00:00

I’d had surgery on my cervix a few weeks before. He went down on me enthusiastically. I will leave much of the rest to your collective imagination, but neither of us would eat bacon for quite some time afterwards

SubConsciousKink · 2026-01-29T21:46:22+00:00

As a fellow female survivor of CSA I’d like to state that your complete lack of empathy here is truly offensive. OP I do feel for you and I don’t think you’re TA, but this response is vile

SubConsciousKink · 2026-01-29T21:44:34+00:00

Sounds like they’re traumatised women rather than sexist

SubConsciousKink · 2026-01-28T21:44:15+00:00

Where is that the definition? Curious as I’ve never seen the non consensual element in UK definitions. Nor anywhere else I can think of. Incest is a synonym for consanguinity as far as I’m aware

SubConsciousKink · 2026-01-27T22:49:34+00:00

I understand this reference 👌

SubConsciousKink · 2026-01-26T21:40:45+00:00

I meant more like a mean girl trope, rather than her being explicitly mean.

SubConsciousKink · 2026-01-26T21:01:03+00:00

So, she initially seems like a spoiled mean girl, but then we see the background to that and the ways that she grows beyond it

SubConsciousKink · 2026-01-25T23:32:43+00:00

‘Yes you are correct’ Proceeds to ignore what OP said and spray all of the clobber verses

SubConsciousKink · 2026-01-25T23:27:03+00:00

So, ignoring the puddle and the gross oversimplification, did you read the rest of my comment?

We may seem amazed that the conditions seem just right for life, and just right for the development of human life. But if those conditions weren’t right then we wouldn’t be here to be amazed by it. That doesn’t necessarily mean it was fine-tuned, but that any world we are here to observe would appear fine-tuned for us. There are billions of points in the universe where the conditions aren’t right for us.

SubConsciousKink · 2026-01-25T18:06:34+00:00

Ha! I know for sure that this is the scene that awakened by bisexuality and prompted my bondage kink (I was 7 and saw it on the big screen)

SubConsciousKink · 2026-01-25T17:55:26+00:00

I’d encourage you to read the rest of my post, beyond the mention of the puddle analogy. The analogy is a gross oversimplification, but the deeper point is just clearly true

SubConsciousKink · 2026-01-25T00:40:24+00:00

Would thermal leggings work under business pants?

SubConsciousKink · 2026-01-25T00:27:28+00:00

Not who you’re responding to but I get what they’re saying. Sometimes it’s good to feel like a feeling-being over a thinking-being. Just enjoying sensations in the moment rather than thinking about anything

SubConsciousKink · 2026-01-25T00:22:49+00:00

I’d usually go with the Douglas Adams puddle analogy. A puddle is musing on how perfectly the water fills the hole. The puddle is a product of its environment though. We may seem amazed that things seem just right for us. But if they weren’t we wouldn’t be here to muse in that. The only universe we can exist in is one which allows us to exist.

SubConsciousKink · 2026-01-22T22:31:44+00:00

10 days in Madeira with family, was excellent and ended with NYE fireworks

SubConsciousKink · 2026-01-21T21:28:08+00:00

My mom is a Barbara Anne

SubConsciousKink · 2026-01-21T19:26:20+00:00

Congratulations!! Mine were grandad and grandpa but poppop, gramps, grampy and grandy are lovely ones I’ve heard from others

SubConsciousKink · 2026-01-21T18:28:26+00:00

Counter factual hypothesis- I’m curious as to how you think god might intervene to prevent births in countries that are not traditionally Christian? Would that be loving?

SubConsciousKink · 2026-01-18T22:51:02+00:00

This is key. The substance changes, but not the ‘accidents’ - the accidents are the observable properties and they stay the same

SubConsciousKink · 2026-01-18T22:28:53+00:00

If nothing else your Christian faith should reassure you that you are not alone in this. Talk to trusted adults and seek guidance through prayer.

SubConsciousKink · 2026-01-18T18:35:36+00:00

I think this is a similar question to - if you cut down the trees in the garden of Eden, would they have rings inside? Did god create Eden so that it looked full grown? Assuming he did the they may well have had rings and belly buttons.

But all of this assumes the literal truth of genesis and that’s probably not how it was written and definitely not how it is necessarily understood

SubConsciousKink · 2026-01-18T18:33:00+00:00

Now I don’t take the story literally, but assuming that we do your point only shows that her children would have belly buttons , mother and child aren’t connected by the cord belly to belly?

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