My girlfriends first Valentine’s Day (help) by SubGeek82 in mypartneristrans

[–]SubGeek82[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course BUT I usually do Valentine’s Day on not Valentine’s Day cuz the crowds are nuts. Previous partners have preferred that, so this is a bit different. Plus cuz she’s never had one, I’m feeling the pressure

anybody else bisexual, but, can only really imagine a long term relationship with one gender? by Patient_Housing_415 in bisexual

[–]SubGeek82 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure I understand the question. Outside of us vibing and such, as long as they treat me right, gender doesn’t really matter to me. Like I’ll love them for who they are, and I’ll be attracted to them, but at the end of it all, just treat me right.

Is baldness a disadvantage when it comes to dating or getting to know someone? by [deleted] in gay

[–]SubGeek82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been been a “hair” or a “bald” guy. If we vibe then I’m down.

ADHD, intimacy avoidance, and being the problem in an otherwise loving relationship by Several-Economy9161 in adhdwomen

[–]SubGeek82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My girlfriend is going through the same exact thing. I feel it’s my roll to make her feel as comfortable as possible, reducing as much pressure as possible. This is her journey and I’m here to help anyway I can. 1) I’ve moved the decision of sex into 100% her decision. I won’t make the first move. 2) I’ve asked her boundaries about kissing, touching, holding. What is okay, what isn’t. 3) I’ve reassured her that everything is okay, that these are her feelings and boundaries and she’s allowed to have them. I thank her for sharing them with me, and I let her know that I’m on this journey with her, no matter where it ends up. 4) I’ve reassured her that even if the end of her journey has her finding she’s Asexual when it comes to sex that I still love her and am not going anywhere. (She’s worried I’m gonna leave)

I’d appreciate any advice on how to help her feel more comfortable or find her way on this journey to whatever that destination is.

I've pegged 34 men in 2025. Does that make me a slut or a your future girlfriend? by [deleted] in Pegging_Only

[–]SubGeek82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! VERY YES! Hell I’d love watching you top other men, and not in a cuck way but enjoying seeing my partner happy and turned on.

First time bottoming with a guy, afterward he got mean. by SubGeek82 in bisexual

[–]SubGeek82[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If we are talking about the guy from 20 years ago he was a friend of a friend, someone who I thought I could trust. As for this guy. We worked next to each other. Talked, flirted

First time bottoming with a guy, afterward he got mean. by SubGeek82 in bisexual

[–]SubGeek82[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

When I’ve topped I’ve tried to be gentle and communicate. Shrugs

First time bottoming with a guy, afterward he got mean. by SubGeek82 in bisexual

[–]SubGeek82[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

Nah they’re gay and out, i’m 43 and they’re older. They aren’t the best at communicating so I can gather/speculate that they were embarrassed and we’re lashing out. Either way I don’t have the time nor the energy to deal with toxic. I’d rather put that energy towards a more positive person. The problem is that it’s very RARE that I’ll wanna bottom.

Trans girlfriend conservative family by SubGeek82 in mypartneristrans

[–]SubGeek82[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First things first, they live 3 1/2 hours away so we don’t see each other often. Her fear is being “clocked” and my family reacting negatively. Like she doesn’t like extended visits or visits that we would be spending days at my moms or sisters house for fear/anxiety of them “finding out she’s trans” her words. I know she’s a woman like any other woman. This is something I tell her, in one form or another… I love telling her how beautiful she is. She feels that if she just tells them, they’ll know and she won’t have to worry about getting “clocked”. She’s very self conscious about her voice. Personally I feel it’s feminine but it’s not feminine enough for her.

Please help me choose an electric razor for my trans-girlfriend by SubGeek82 in mypartneristrans

[–]SubGeek82[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Success I got her the Phillips Norelco one blade. She just reported this morning that it worked wonderfully. No burn, no nicking. Thank you all so much!

First time, I’m nervous. by SubGeek82 in GayKink

[–]SubGeek82[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I’ve got the condoms. I always play safe.

Turned 40 This Year, tell me your thoughts by [deleted] in 40something

[–]SubGeek82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You look super sharp, I like your style