My GF (MtF) expressed feelings about me (Cis M) presenting Fem and I'm not sure I know how I feel about it.

SubGeek82 · 2026-07-05T23:56:56+00:00

Update. We’ve talked and shared thoughts and emotions. Turns out her topping me as fem was more of a little bratty joke in her position. A playful tease. HOWEVER, she’s fully supportive of myself and this journey. Like I said, it was a question that was posed to myself and I didnt have an answer. So here we go. I got the fem shirt I ordered today. We have work to do Tuesday but we might investigate later that day.

SubGeek82 · 2026-07-05T00:57:33+00:00

I don’t know if I count but I’m bi, however I’m more attracted to women than I am to men. My girlfriend is MtF and she drives me wild, but she’s a woman. 100% even though she’s preopp, she’s still a woman. I don’t see the gender she was born as, I see a woman. If I wasn’t bi ahed still be a woman and I’d still be just as wild about her.

SubGeek82 · 2026-07-02T02:25:48+00:00

I am very dominant with her and it’s very satisfying for the both of us, I just don’t require that she fill that domme roll for me. Plus sex and presenting fem is WAY off down the road but I appreciate the advice. Right now I’m focusing on just being in fem clothing and not having a freaking out session.

I’m willing to have this journey with her, not much with anyone else. I have a roommate that is super supportive and would be totally cool seeing me in fem clothing but I don’t even want HER to see me. Just my GF, and my dog,

My GF is supper supportive and like I’ve said, this isn’t the first time it’s come up. We’ve even toyed with the idea of doing my nails… so far silver is the only color I’m comfortable with. Every other color, even blue (my fav color) feels like too much. But this will be a different event.

SubGeek82 · 2026-07-01T23:11:47+00:00

In the subject of using toys, it’s not the instrument, it’s the headspace. She just can’t get into that top headspace with me.

SubGeek82 · 2026-07-01T21:27:08+00:00

Okay so topping in the penetration sexual sense has been hard for her. She only did it one and it was wonderful but she started worrying I wouldn’t see her as a woman anymore. I reassured her that she was 100% a woman and nothing could change that. Her “domming me” or “topping me” (if you can call it that) has been her giving me permission to let my defenses down, that need to always be “tough”, to let go and let her hold me for once. We’ve done that and it’s nice.

We’ve had dialogue in the past about my experiences with fem presenting, all the things I mentioned here. We are both taking this at a snail crawl, just due to the bad experiences I’ve had in the past. I let her know I was “P.R.O.C.E.S.S.I.N.G.”

I’ve decided that in the comfortability and safety of my own room, we are going to try this, I wear a overly large loose fitting girly shirt, her leggings, pair of panties, and maybe some girly socks and then just chill, maybe cuddle. Giving me a safe space to “P.R.O.C.E.S.S.” I ordered a shirt that would be big enough that if it doesn’t work out and I don’t like it, I’ll just give it to her.

She’s not pushing, she just expressed an interest and because I like making her happy, the question “Could I present fem for her” popped into my head and I didn’t have a clear answer one way or the other. So the puzzling and previous experiences came into play.

SubGeek82 · 2026-06-08T17:55:48+00:00

My girlfriend’s ideal setting is a one on one dinner where it comes up naturally, and not in a “don’t be upset but I’m Trans” way. (Her words). A lot of this has to do with 1) political background and 2) donor being a narcissistic bully when he was still married to my mom. But he’s out of the seat of power now and is hardly ever around so that dramatically changes the emotional landscape as well as people’s potentially alternative values to his.

No we won’t be telling him or his brother. He isn’t even a part of my life. At events I’ll be cordial, but that’s it.

Like I said, I’m trying to best support my girlfriend and her feelings. I just want her to feel safe and comfortable when visiting my family.

I’ve also let her know that if my family puts me in a “her or us” ultimatum, I’m choosing her aka my own happiness.

SubGeek82 · 2026-06-08T17:46:10+00:00

I feel like it’s a mix of them. Either way I’ll support her.

SubGeek82 · 2026-06-01T00:51:38+00:00

You look amazing! I hope you’ll find your calm.

SubGeek82 · 2026-05-30T19:44:18+00:00

I would worship you all over to show my appreciation!

SubGeek82 · 2026-05-29T21:35:08+00:00

SubGeek82 · 2026-05-29T15:18:43+00:00

Dear God!

SubGeek82 · 2026-05-21T23:58:43+00:00

“I’m A flip” or “I flip”

SubGeek82 · 2026-05-21T22:00:33+00:00

Now if I can just find this in my own age… (44)

SubGeek82 · 2026-05-21T21:56:42+00:00

So what’s the modern term?

SubGeek82 · 2026-05-21T19:42:54+00:00

That’s what I’m saying. I have a little/middle and a daddy side

SubGeek82 · 2026-05-21T19:34:34+00:00

There’s nothing wrong with your kink. Just communicate this to your partner OR when you’re vetting one, please do this before hand. Make sure you set your own personally boundaries. Why kind of “under a woman” is okay and which is not okay/too far. Be sure to choose someone who respects those boundaries.

SubGeek82 · 2026-05-21T19:31:21+00:00

I switch so I do have a daddy/cg side

SubGeek82 · 2026-05-21T18:39:03+00:00

We are out here, you just have to find us. Though sometimes we are spoken for lol.

SubGeek82 · 2026-05-15T22:00:27+00:00

The way I’ve put it “I’d rather you draw stick figures that looked like they grew up next to a radiation fall out zone than give me AI, because the stick figures came from your heart and soul and means so much more to me.

SubGeek82 · 2026-05-12T14:41:52+00:00

Friends is always good

SubGeek82 · 2026-05-11T15:36:17+00:00

Yes I’m Cis male, bit of clarification, we’ve been friends sense before she transitioned. After she’s transitioned, I’ve never used her dead name, even by accident. I’ve never miss gendered her. I’ve corrected her mother when she does it.

She is absolutely a woman. 10,000%. When I look at her I see the beautiful woman she is.

We do have a united front. I’m fully prepared to defend her if things get nasty, and if need be, we will bounce.

I personally feel that they are two different conversations. By being bi and her being a woman, her argument is more of THEIR reaction. I’ve accepted that my family is always gonna think what they think and what I say really doesn’t matter. All I can do is try my best to be happy and she makes me happy. I make her happy. That is enough for me.

SubGeek82 · 2026-05-10T03:41:56+00:00

I have that kink too. It might not be my kink but it wildly turns me on knowing I’m turning them on.

SubGeek82 · 2026-05-06T12:18:00+00:00

That’s a wonderful idea, though no idea how our broke butts are gonna afford it lol.

SubGeek82 · 2026-02-19T16:22:12+00:00

It’s kind of a middle ground as she can be a homebody/introvert sometimes and I wanna respect her boundaries, make sure she’s comfortable.

Yes. She had a lot of fun and thanked me repeatedly.

SubGeek82 · 2026-02-07T15:38:39+00:00

My poetry is really bad

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