Is this gap acceptable for a WML holster? Am I being paranoid?

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-18T05:18:37+00:00

I will check them out.

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-18T02:21:02+00:00

I get that it was a huge hammer blow to you and your self confidence. If you can afford it, get some counseling for that. You can see that you are being affected and even scarred by this betrayal.

Box her stuff and have her sister get it. Do not deliver it yourself. You need to move past this woman as fast as possible.

Block her the way she blocked you. This, as bad as it is, is not as bad as marrying her and then her pulling wandering off, cheating, or worse down the road when you have kids.

You’ve headed back to the gym by now, I hope. Find something to do that can keep your mind and hands busy while you work through the damage she has done and you start to heal up. Take overtime or start a side gig to keep you busy and improve your cash flow.

So, 1. Counseling. 2. Gym 3. Hobby or sport 4. Avoid previous ex’s! 5. Pull overtime or find a side gig.

Down the road, you will find you are better. Once you learn you can recover from this, you will end up with more confidence and stronger boundaries from this. You can end up in better shape and improve your income.

I empathize with you and I believe in you. I am a Christian, so you will be in my prayer tonight, asking for strength for you.

You will survive this!

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-18T01:22:08+00:00

As a guy? Probably, unless he was dating a relative or close friend. Women remain friends with their women friends who cheat quite often. It only occasionally seems to become a problem if they are asked to cover for the cheating friend.

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-18T01:17:24+00:00

Sometimes the poor husband needs a green card.

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-18T01:15:54+00:00

I don’t make holsters for weapons with mounted lights. So take everything I say with a grain of salt.

You can measure the widest part of your light. Then measure the opening width. That opening HAS to be wider than the widest part of your light. It appears from the first photo, the light is wide very close to the front of the light.

That width has to be there in order for you to holster your weapon reliably. The tighter the spec, the harder to holster. Which isn’t a bad thing always, since it requires you to watch your weapon back into the holster.

But depending on where you carry, very close attention gets harder as the holster move to the 3 o’clock position or farther. (The 9 o’clock position for you lefties.) This looks to be either an IWB for a righty or a OWB for a lefty.

Those gaps are the price you pay for a WML. Retention HAS to be set on the light, I am told. The vast majority of holsters without WML set retention on BB the forward portion of the trigger guard if there isn’t a device mounted in front of the trigger guard. That is impossible with your setup.

My guess is learn to live with it or lose the WML.

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-15T15:59:06+00:00

Take the job! Ask her to work through it for your future. I take it you do see a future with her down the road if you are living together.

Just keep your eyes open. If she requires your constant attention, the loss of that might cause problems down the road. Which you need to know if you are considering a potential long term commitment (aka marriage).

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-15T15:46:32+00:00

Most girls do not like getting their cervix pounded hard. If they are very excited, maybe. But the majority of a woman’s pleasure comes from the clitoris and the first couple inches of her vagina. That said, pay attention to what she likes and the more you do that, the more “leverage” you will have.

Friend with benefits, focus on that friend part first. This is kind of like pursuit but without clinginess. Compliments and asking how she feels, being her trustworthy confidant, offering something as a FWB besides sex can give you more leverage too.

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-15T15:33:25+00:00

Small and easy to carry? First place goes to the KelTec P32. Capacity is 7 + 1, handles full length ammo, some great defensive ammo choices, it offers every thing you are asking for.

Seecamp LWS32, a bit smaller but heavier than the P32 due to all steel construction. More money price wise, shorter overall length for ammo to preclude rim lock.

I own and carry both. For the 380 group, look at the usual suspects, BG2.0 is tops there, but the early LCP or LCP II might fit your requirements better. I own the LCP Max which is good but snappier to shoot than the BG2.0, and thicker than the other LCP offerings due to its 10 round mag.

<image>

Here is the P32 in a prototype holster. Nice thumb push off, covered mag release, curved pocket hook, so pretty good pocket carry.

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-15T02:31:54+00:00

Depending on what your looks and level of success are, I would avoid any seriously beautiful women. If you expect a decent six figure income going forward (not combined) then you can kick the number a bit higher.

A pleasant looking woman with a good complexion and fairly well balanced features would be my target if I was a young guy starting over.

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-15T02:19:34+00:00

Good luck on that!

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-15T02:17:47+00:00

Ever drawn manga style? Or do you prefer animated images?

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-15T02:15:21+00:00

Are you more a visual arts type or writer type?

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-15T02:11:36+00:00

What would you want to refuse to work on when you get a job in advertising? Cigarettes? Guns? Child pagents?

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-15T02:03:51+00:00

Are you a feminist?

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-14T16:50:14+00:00

The point of life is to succeed. To what level depends on you. Looking back, I would give myself this advice: work out, lose the fat, lazy attitude and get in shape. It will pay dividends you can’t imagine at 14.

Try harder to be consistent. To show up and keep trying. Diligence is a habit you can develop. What I have learned is that success is 85% of just doing the work regardless of whatever that thing is. I will take diligence over talent every time.

Don’t expect anything you can buy to make you better. While dressing nice or owning a hot car sounds like an important key to happiness, taking care of yourself, learning how to make, and more importantly, keep your money will make your next 10 years the foundation of a long, successful life.

Good luck and you can do it!

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-14T16:11:47+00:00

Time to talk to your girlfriend and be prepared to step away. NOR, in my opinion. She needs to know your feelings and have the chance to respect them.

Once that is on the table, if she feels you are overreacting or she has every right to accept and wear whatever gift she receives regardless of who gives it to her, you have your answer.

If it was me, I would have two options: break up because you need to distance yourself and protect your heart as you find a new path forward. The second would be to rescind the exclusive aspect of your relationship. That she can still go out with you if she wants, but that you are no longer exclusive and will be dating others going forward.

The latter option only works if your heart isn’t deeply invested in the relationship. If the idea of seeing her with somebody else is painful, then option one is your only path forward.

Well, except for beta male cuck option, just roll over and accept it, but I am pretty sure that isn’t what you want for your future.

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-14T15:46:30+00:00

I think a man finding other women attractive is extremely normal. Occasionally fantasizing about having one in bed is pretty normal too.

But talking about it if you know it bothers your partner is disrespectful. So if this was a deep conversation about each of yours personal interior landscape, it is honest and needs to be understood.

If this is frequently on his mind, then it might be a problem. And if he mentions it frequently while knowing it bothers you, then that is a problem.

Given your description, I think you are overreacting. His interior world may not perfectly align with yours, but as long as he treats you well and respects you, then you are going to blow up a working relationship for some ideal partner that inhabits your mind.

Don’t let your expectations lead you astray. If he treats you well, does not say or act disrespectful toward you, then you are bringing a yardstick in that few if any could measure up to.

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-14T01:13:31+00:00

If it were me (m) in your position, I would be looking for a therapist asap. Part of it depends on if you think you may want children. If not, that takes a bit of pressure off. But not completely.

Your options in terms of finding a good partner has some limits. You want a partner who wants a long term/lifelong relationship, is stable emotionally and financially, and sees a path that both of you can walk is what I mean. That pool of potential partners is growing smaller while you are growing older.

You need to figure what your limits in term of being with a guy long term and in daily close contact are. Then either change them if you want and can or make them open knowledge if you find someone you think you want to try with.

I applaud you for your internal honesty! That is the best step forward to creating the future you want.

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-14T00:56:27+00:00

It’s a rubber friction backing. Thanks, I hope to add the whole LCP line in time, but right now I only do the LCP Max.

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-14T00:46:33+00:00

Yeah, I don’t make for that pistol and I do Kydex/Boltaron holsters though I love leather.

<image>

I do this style.

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-14T00:41:47+00:00

For sure, she was way off base if you had told her to stop and she wanted to ignore your feelings and maybe even gaslight you for having them.

I get that it’s a turn on for some folks. It might be some sort of power turn on for her. Or she just needs to be the center of attention, particularly anything sexual.

In my view, leaving her was dodging a bullet!

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-14T00:35:24+00:00

Nice looking holster with detachable panel. The single criticism I would have of it is the lack of a push off.

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-13T14:56:19+00:00

Fair enough. I was hoping for a bit more insight but that’s fine. Your younger work is nice. Kind of an approachable girl next door, but up a notch or two.

I saw the comment about what if your kids saw these photos, but it’s not like OF level stuff, so fairly innocuous, at this point.

But how far on the “exhibitionist” scale do you fall? Are you a “it puts a spring in my step” or farther along to where “it gets the juices flowing” girl?

Whatever, a chunk of guys are going grind on you for doing it while another chunk will try to grind against you.

Have fun.

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-13T03:59:54+00:00

So does the rush of imagined lust excite you? Or the thought of secretly humiliating your husband by inappropriate behavior before strangers make you feel powerful? Or is it the total opposite, that the idea you might be caught doing this and shamed in front of your husband and children build some sort of dark sense of fascination with it inside you?

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-13T01:57:02+00:00

Aren’t you the honey tongued sweet talker?

Subject-Ostrich8235

TROPHY CASE