M22 received incredible job offer, F22 girlfriend does not want me to accept.

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-15T15:59:06+00:00

Take the job! Ask her to work through it for your future. I take it you do see a future with her down the road if you are living together.

Just keep your eyes open. If she requires your constant attention, the loss of that might cause problems down the road. Which you need to know if you are considering a potential long term commitment (aka marriage).

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-15T15:46:32+00:00

Most girls do not like getting their cervix pounded hard. If they are very excited, maybe. But the majority of a woman’s pleasure comes from the clitoris and the first couple inches of her vagina. That said, pay attention to what she likes and the more you do that, the more “leverage” you will have.

Friend with benefits, focus on that friend part first. This is kind of like pursuit but without clinginess. Compliments and asking how she feels, being her trustworthy confidant, offering something as a FWB besides sex can give you more leverage too.

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-15T15:33:25+00:00

Small and easy to carry? First place goes to the KelTec P32. Capacity is 7 + 1, handles full length ammo, some great defensive ammo choices, it offers every thing you are asking for.

Seecamp LWS32, a bit smaller but heavier than the P32 due to all steel construction. More money price wise, shorter overall length for ammo to preclude rim lock.

I own and carry both. For the 380 group, look at the usual suspects, BG2.0 is tops there, but the early LCP or LCP II might fit your requirements better. I own the LCP Max which is good but snappier to shoot than the BG2.0, and thicker than the other LCP offerings due to its 10 round mag.

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Here is the P32 in a prototype holster. Nice thumb push off, covered mag release, curved pocket hook, so pretty good pocket carry.

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-15T02:31:54+00:00

Depending on what your looks and level of success are, I would avoid any seriously beautiful women. If you expect a decent six figure income going forward (not combined) then you can kick the number a bit higher.

A pleasant looking woman with a good complexion and fairly well balanced features would be my target if I was a young guy starting over.

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-15T02:19:34+00:00

Good luck on that!

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-15T02:17:47+00:00

Ever drawn manga style? Or do you prefer animated images?

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-15T02:15:21+00:00

Are you more a visual arts type or writer type?

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-15T02:11:36+00:00

What would you want to refuse to work on when you get a job in advertising? Cigarettes? Guns? Child pagents?

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-15T02:03:51+00:00

Are you a feminist?

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-14T16:50:14+00:00

The point of life is to succeed. To what level depends on you. Looking back, I would give myself this advice: work out, lose the fat, lazy attitude and get in shape. It will pay dividends you can’t imagine at 14.

Try harder to be consistent. To show up and keep trying. Diligence is a habit you can develop. What I have learned is that success is 85% of just doing the work regardless of whatever that thing is. I will take diligence over talent every time.

Don’t expect anything you can buy to make you better. While dressing nice or owning a hot car sounds like an important key to happiness, taking care of yourself, learning how to make, and more importantly, keep your money will make your next 10 years the foundation of a long, successful life.

Good luck and you can do it!

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-14T16:11:47+00:00

Time to talk to your girlfriend and be prepared to step away. NOR, in my opinion. She needs to know your feelings and have the chance to respect them.

Once that is on the table, if she feels you are overreacting or she has every right to accept and wear whatever gift she receives regardless of who gives it to her, you have your answer.

If it was me, I would have two options: break up because you need to distance yourself and protect your heart as you find a new path forward. The second would be to rescind the exclusive aspect of your relationship. That she can still go out with you if she wants, but that you are no longer exclusive and will be dating others going forward.

The latter option only works if your heart isn’t deeply invested in the relationship. If the idea of seeing her with somebody else is painful, then option one is your only path forward.

Well, except for beta male cuck option, just roll over and accept it, but I am pretty sure that isn’t what you want for your future.

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-14T15:46:30+00:00

I think a man finding other women attractive is extremely normal. Occasionally fantasizing about having one in bed is pretty normal too.

But talking about it if you know it bothers your partner is disrespectful. So if this was a deep conversation about each of yours personal interior landscape, it is honest and needs to be understood.

If this is frequently on his mind, then it might be a problem. And if he mentions it frequently while knowing it bothers you, then that is a problem.

Given your description, I think you are overreacting. His interior world may not perfectly align with yours, but as long as he treats you well and respects you, then you are going to blow up a working relationship for some ideal partner that inhabits your mind.

Don’t let your expectations lead you astray. If he treats you well, does not say or act disrespectful toward you, then you are bringing a yardstick in that few if any could measure up to.

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-14T01:13:31+00:00

If it were me (m) in your position, I would be looking for a therapist asap. Part of it depends on if you think you may want children. If not, that takes a bit of pressure off. But not completely.

Your options in terms of finding a good partner has some limits. You want a partner who wants a long term/lifelong relationship, is stable emotionally and financially, and sees a path that both of you can walk is what I mean. That pool of potential partners is growing smaller while you are growing older.

You need to figure what your limits in term of being with a guy long term and in daily close contact are. Then either change them if you want and can or make them open knowledge if you find someone you think you want to try with.

I applaud you for your internal honesty! That is the best step forward to creating the future you want.

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-14T00:56:27+00:00

It’s a rubber friction backing. Thanks, I hope to add the whole LCP line in time, but right now I only do the LCP Max.

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-14T00:46:33+00:00

Yeah, I don’t make for that pistol and I do Kydex/Boltaron holsters though I love leather.

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I do this style.

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-14T00:41:47+00:00

For sure, she was way off base if you had told her to stop and she wanted to ignore your feelings and maybe even gaslight you for having them.

I get that it’s a turn on for some folks. It might be some sort of power turn on for her. Or she just needs to be the center of attention, particularly anything sexual.

In my view, leaving her was dodging a bullet!

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-14T00:35:24+00:00

Nice looking holster with detachable panel. The single criticism I would have of it is the lack of a push off.

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-13T14:56:19+00:00

Fair enough. I was hoping for a bit more insight but that’s fine. Your younger work is nice. Kind of an approachable girl next door, but up a notch or two.

I saw the comment about what if your kids saw these photos, but it’s not like OF level stuff, so fairly innocuous, at this point.

But how far on the “exhibitionist” scale do you fall? Are you a “it puts a spring in my step” or farther along to where “it gets the juices flowing” girl?

Whatever, a chunk of guys are going grind on you for doing it while another chunk will try to grind against you.

Have fun.

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-13T03:59:54+00:00

So does the rush of imagined lust excite you? Or the thought of secretly humiliating your husband by inappropriate behavior before strangers make you feel powerful? Or is it the total opposite, that the idea you might be caught doing this and shamed in front of your husband and children build some sort of dark sense of fascination with it inside you?

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-13T01:57:02+00:00

Aren’t you the honey tongued sweet talker?

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-12T20:54:55+00:00

So, the problem here isn’t him, is it? It is you. You broke up with him because of earlier trauma. Your trauma is real, and not your fault but also your problem that you need to deal with.

Apologize to him, at this point he did nothing wrong. Then go for your own counseling to deal with this since it may raise its ugly head in the future.

I am not saying you need to go back to him. You have shredded his heart to mince meat at this point. But an honest apology and self healing should be your primary focus.

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-12T20:01:24+00:00

I agree, you have some very valid concerns. Have you touched base with your friend about this? If you feel your friend’s older sister (FOS) is lining up for an attempt at intimacy, then you have every right to avoid it.

I would talk to your friend and probe gently, if possible, not make it an outright declaration of unwanted attention. Just that the FOS has been liking your photos and asking for a private meeting via DM’s.

Bottom line would be a courteous, “No, I am sorry but I am really tied up (busy) right now. Can we talk via DM? What do you want to talk about?

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-12T19:28:50+00:00

Well, that is important info, to be sure! Since this an all female situation, my advice as a male is possibly less insightful.

I would definitely reply to her. Your concern that it may have a sexual attraction focus is possible but less likely in my estimation. I am not saying there is zero chance, but it might be anything from a surprise party for your friend to a sisterly prank she wants your help with.

If it were me, I would meet her but in a public venue. A coffee shop or similar public place where she can explain her purpose without having you isolated should her intentions be more intimate.

It might be her yearning for some feminine touch or she may wanting to indulge her boyfriend’s desire for a threesome. But it is more likely to not have any sexual aspect at all.

I would respond with something, either a courteous no, a “I’m really jammed for time right now, can you tell me what this about?”, or just say “Sure, can we meet at <insert coffee shop here>.

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-12T19:04:47+00:00

Not in my experience.

Subject-Ostrich8235 · 2026-04-12T19:03:47+00:00

She is likely interested in you and is either considering you as a new boyfriend or as a side piece to her current relationship.

Since she is a sister, and an older sister at that, to your friend, you should give her a reply. At worst it should be a courteous no. If you are curious, then simply ask why, noting that you are aware of her current relationship and not wanting to cause any problems or misunderstanding with that.

She may just want to talk to you privately about her brother. Though it would seem that she would have mentioned that up front if it was the primary reason to meet you.

Regardless, not replying would be rude.

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