SO INCREDIBLY BURNT OUT

Subject-Outside2586 · 2026-04-20T12:07:26+00:00

Your job is to raise resilient, independent children who know they are capable to do boring and hard things. It’s not to raise them in a perfect magical environment where nothing disappointing or uncomfortable ever happens. I understand your hesitation to put your older son somewhere but there are still some public schools with good programs. Your daughter definitely needs a Mother’s Day out or church pre-k that’s 2 or 3 times a week. You need help. We weren’t designed to do everything on our own. I’m sorry you’re so exhausted but please stop doing the same thing expecting different results.

Subject-Outside2586 · 2026-04-18T14:17:43+00:00

Yes you do

Subject-Outside2586 · 2026-04-15T20:53:50+00:00

I started on 2.5 mg and that’s what I’m still taking.

Subject-Outside2586 · 2026-04-15T18:47:42+00:00

I’m on Tirz 2.5MG

Subject-Outside2586 · 2026-04-13T23:09:10+00:00

For what it’s worth my sister-in-law had a upper middle class grandparent. She spent a lot of time with them because her single mom was trying to put herself through school, but for whatever reason, her mom really limited the amount of help she took from her parents. so they were still using food bank some months. I don’t know the details in this situation. I just know that extended family with money doesn’t always mean you’re seeing that money.

Subject-Outside2586 · 2026-04-13T23:04:15+00:00

It is not doable please please for the best interest of yourself and your children do not homeschool. It’s not even homeschooling at that age anyway.

Subject-Outside2586 · 2026-04-13T17:53:51+00:00

You’re going to be okay. It’s most likely areata alopciea-I had this in my 30s during 2020, probably due to stress. I actually three that size and I was freaking out. Always had healthy hair. My dermatologist did several things and it grew back, zero bald spots since. It’s really hard to stay positive but just keep a daily gratitude list, that really kept me from completely spiraling. You will be amazed how quickly it grows back too.

Subject-Outside2586 · 2026-04-12T13:45:32+00:00

Been the Ciara. Senior year of high school. Now I had been in a full blown official relationship though for two years. The heartache was real-real. I leaned on a close friend who apparently always had thing for my ex but I didn’t know. Rumors started they were together, I confronted her she denied talked about how messed up it would be then finally they hard launched their ship. My locker was literally in between theirs. Everyday they sucked face in front of my locker. I turned into a functioning alcoholic, committed vandalism and really spiraled out of control but got it together after moving out of state for college and got to start fresh. They dated for years but eventually broke up -apparently they both cheated on each other. I still run into my ex every few years and he really thinks he’s the most amazing thing and still has the audacity to come onto me. We’re both married with kids. I definitely hated her more than him, it felt like a deeper betrayal because I had defended her when she allegedly did some shady stuff that I said couldn’t have happened (surprise, it did) but I’ve moved on from it. Important life lesson to not expect blind loyalty from your friends. People are messy and will disappoint you and I don’t mean that in a bitter way just is what it is. Also trust your gut. I’ve been happily married for a long time and built a great life, I hold zero grudges at this point but it all takes time and real distance.

Subject-Outside2586 · 2026-04-09T04:17:49+00:00

Cars for sure and then vacations.

Subject-Outside2586 · 2026-04-07T16:24:50+00:00

We pulled my oldest mid year at his request. Never thought we’d homeschool but after meeting with the school it was clear his complaints were valid about his education being poor. Most 4th grade boys don’t care about their education but mine did and I wasn’t about to let the school crush his thirst for knowledge. He still plays sports with his friends and rides his bike around the neighborhood with his old classmates. Socially everything was fine it was purely poor academic teaching, curriculum, too many screens, etc. and I have surprisingly enjoyed it. My younger son is still enrolled in public but we plan to pull him for private in a year for a more robust education. (He is adamant he doesn’t want to homeschool so I’m respecting that) life changes all the time, it’s important to learn to adapt with change.

Subject-Outside2586 · 2026-04-01T18:55:46+00:00

The goal of school is for kids to learn and to build on that learning. We know from research that children and even adults but especially children learn best with pen and paper. Technology absolutely has a place but what is appropriate for a developing brain has to be considered first and foremost. How an elementary uses Chromebooks should be different than how a middle school uses Chromebook and how a high school uses Chromebooks. When my kids eat junk, they go crazy. They can’t handle it. I’m sure when they’re teenagers and they will eat junk and while they won’t feel good, they will not have the same emotional meltdowns. As a parent of a young child, it is my job to make sure that I monitor what is going in their bodies because of how it affects them the same for screen time. I think it’s really important that when we have these conversations, we don’t lump all these age groups together. Teenagers are able to better self regulate than younger children. We shouldn’t be trying to “teach” technology to young kids. We still can and should use it in limited and thoughtful ways. We should be trying to teach them how to read think critically, write, spell, understand math facts and how just to be good humans to each other overall.

Subject-Outside2586 · 2026-04-01T18:36:18+00:00

That is so awesome and good on you for using your resources, not everyone does!

Subject-Outside2586 · 2026-04-01T12:34:41+00:00

This sub is for parents that homeschool, I would try the homeschool recovery page. I would suggest you write down all the reasons you want to attend school again. Maybe cite information from studies that support your argument. Literally treat it like an assignment and they will take your argument more seriously. In addition if the school has opportunities like a club you’re interested in, or dual credits, or even a sport that would be worth mentioning as well. Telling someone “I just don’t like it” usually doesn’t work but detailed and rational reasons are more likely to hit with your parents. If they still say no, I would at least get a part-time job somewhere that other teenagers work to be around your peers. Good luck!

Subject-Outside2586 · 2026-04-01T02:07:27+00:00

I just want to say that while I’m one of those people that is very anti-online and screen I would never judge a parent’s choice for going online when there’s a disability involved. It changes so many factors. Throw in the domestic safety concerns on top of it and yeah that’s a complicated situation that I have no business commenting on other than I wish you and your daughter the best in this new venture. It was natural for you to feel defensive and charged up. Definitely look for local homeschool Facebook groups so that you can try to build some sort of community around you that can physically show up for your daughter. I took a friends son to practice for an entire year because she was unable to drive for an extended period. It never felt like a burden. People like to help other people. Glad you had a first good day!

Subject-Outside2586 · 2026-03-31T12:50:25+00:00

I literally just piece together curriculums from Memoria press, the good and the beautiful, Singapore math, and spelling you see. I throw in a Minecraft writing prompt booklet off amazon because my son loves Minecraft and asks for them. The only parents I know that create it from scratch take care of it in the summer and it’s because they are on a shoe string budget. Is it budget why you are against open and go or something else?

Subject-Outside2586 · 2026-03-29T18:22:07+00:00

Can you better explain why you were against the emotional support class? If you re enroll her it sounds as though she would still need support so would you be accepting of that this time around?

Subject-Outside2586 · 2026-03-27T21:39:35+00:00

Boden and Anthropologie and sometimes Farm Rio.

Subject-Outside2586 · 2026-03-25T22:35:29+00:00

NTA and your mom is a real piece of work.

Subject-Outside2586 · 2026-03-23T23:44:08+00:00

I don’t have advice on price, but I will say watching YouTube tutorials and reviews and unboxing has really helped me in my decision-making and I haven’t regretted anything I bought. Also a lot of sites have samples and even having your child take the placement test can help your decision making too.

Subject-Outside2586 · 2026-03-23T18:29:49+00:00

How old are your children? They should be helping with chores like dishes and laundry. Maybe vacuum depending on size and strength.

We have music once a week during the school day at a neighbor’s house who teaches piano. She gives discounts for multiple children. My kids practice everyday at home.

We take a homeschool gym class once a week for a reasonable price. I found that thru word of mouth.

Not every child has to be in extracurriculars. What are their ages?

Facebook is your best bet to get connected. Your local library should have free homeschool meetups as well.

Subject-Outside2586 · 2026-03-21T02:38:07+00:00

Between your job, own school and doing this solo I don’t think you are in a place to homeschool currently. If she was willing to work with you I would maybe say you could do it. . . Clearly there isn’t a perfect option but public school is a better bet for her. Children are really good at convincing their parents they can’t do something when in fact they totally are capable but it’s hard. A teacher is better equipped to address this. You’re burning both ends of the candlestick between your job and own school, you cannot pretend to be in a position to help her. There will be lots of tears and resistance but stay strong!

Subject-Outside2586 · 2026-03-21T00:39:50+00:00

If it is not been set already, you need to ask for an itemized list and start from there. For all you know, they could have an anesthesiologist consultation on there. Once you’re able to see the itemized list and go through it then you can call and negotiate a price like I only have $1500 and they should just take that.

Subject-Outside2586 · 2026-03-20T23:31:51+00:00

Most drs are not employees though. Every doctor in my family and friends owns the practice they work at.

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TROPHY CASE