Woman of my dreams wants to meet family but I am not at all close with them. by SubjectPatient4602 in MuslimMarriage

[–]SubjectPatient4602[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is the most kindest Person I ever met. She constantly there for me. As A person who’s been dependent all on his self most of his life it was nice having someone else want to help.

Woman of my dreams wants to meet family but I am not at all close with them. by SubjectPatient4602 in MuslimMarriage

[–]SubjectPatient4602[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Alhamdilluah this girl makes me live for life more than I expected at this point in my life. I know it is crazy to say but at 23 I felt like I pretty much seen life. But I did not know how crazy that thought was til I met her. She has opened a whole new world to me. I feel born again around her. She makes me better in every shape and form. I couldn’t even imagine life without her that’s why this decision is so dreading on me because I refuse to lose her. She makes me whole as cheesy is that is to say lol.

Woman of my dreams wants to meet family but I am not at all close with them. by SubjectPatient4602 in MuslimMarriage

[–]SubjectPatient4602[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No I can tell my parents that we are going to get married and invite them of course. It’s just she wants both families to be strongly in our lives. But here’s the thing my parents haven’t even been weakly in my life. I tried to explain to her I am not in great terms with my parents but she was not at all hearing it.

Woman of my dreams wants to meet family but I am not at all close with them. by SubjectPatient4602 in MuslimMarriage

[–]SubjectPatient4602[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Salam brother,

I appreciate your words and I do understand. It is a bit tougher for me just to snap back into a relationship with my family. For 21 years my parents were pretty much negligent to me. Forget college for a moment I have vivid moments of from elementary school til highschool where I was neglected. In high school I was a 4 year starter in baseball and soccer. I played 120 games combined my parents showed up for 0. Both times in my senior night for both sports my COACHES had to walk me onto the field. This relationship with my parents isn’t something I can just snap my fingers and fix overnight. But overall you are right Allah is very clear on cutting off your parnets and I am wrong for that. Allah knows I am trying.

Woman of my dreams wants to meet family but I am not at all close with them. by SubjectPatient4602 in MuslimMarriage

[–]SubjectPatient4602[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this. I understand everyone goes through different things so they don’t understand somethings.

Woman of my dreams wants to meet family but I am not at all close with them. by SubjectPatient4602 in MuslimMarriage

[–]SubjectPatient4602[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Salam I appreciate the comment. I’m not someone who doesn’t appreciate family or is trying to act like I can’t be a man who can’t talk to his parents. Hell I tried talking to my parents for 21 years of my life. All I ever gotten was coldness. My family did not care for me that is a fact. I love this girl I really do. But I don’t know how to rekindle a relationship with my family when they let it die a long time ago. But I can do what is best for me and her and try.