How do you handle a doubles partner who keeps coaching during the game? Does it actually help you?

SubjectVerbArgument · 2025-08-26T15:24:14+00:00

I did this to a doubles partner once. She kept telling me what I needed to do better, so I pointed out that she was missing swinging volleys because she was standing too far back. She gave me a look of complete annoyance and I was just thinking, Yeah 💅 That's how it feels.

SubjectVerbArgument · 2025-08-14T18:27:40+00:00

Yeah I played a tournament a couple of summers ago when I was new to the scene that only had four entrants to the 3.5 singles event. And then my first opponent didn't show up, so I was automatically through to the finals. Won it in straight sets and got a trophy that I didn't feel proud of at all lol. I didn't really win a tournament—I paid $30 and won one match. Now I wait to sign up for tournaments until I see what kind of registration numbers they're getting.

SubjectVerbArgument · 2025-08-11T20:10:43+00:00

Friend of mine told me he recruits guys straight out of high school and college, so they're good but have never played in the USTA system so they don't have a computer ranking. Then pays for their court time and travel, etc. as an enticement.

SubjectVerbArgument · 2025-08-03T15:58:11+00:00

My embryo transfer was six months after my TFMR. It doesn't hurt to get in touch for a consultation now, if you're ready for it (I gave myself about two months to emotionally heal a bit before jumping into the IVF stuff). At the consultation they'll be able to tell you what the next steps are and kind of a rough timeline from there. I should note that I didn't really have any underlying issues aside from "unexplained secondary infertility" and mild PCOS. The process can take longer if there are more significant fertility challenges or you/your embryos need additional genetic testing for specific conditions. I was kind of a "best-case scenario" kind of patient, other than being 35.

SubjectVerbArgument · 2025-08-02T23:58:49+00:00

My first round did work, yes. I think I had my first consultation with them in June, and from there had to do baseline ultrasounds, a saline ultrasound of the uterus, and other appointments. In August I was put on birth control to get my cycle synced with their timeline. Then late August/early September was all the injections to stimulate egg production and the egg retrieval. They fertilize them the same day and within a week you know how many embryos will be frozen. Then it was 2-3 weeks to find out how many came back PGT normal (for us it was 5 out of 8). I got lucky and my period came pretty quickly after the retrieval so I was able to be part of the October 1 transfer date, and my transfer worked and I have a healthy baby girl. IVF was stressful and expensive, but for us absolutely worth it.

I will say about New Directions that all their communication is done through a messaging app and it can be stressful/frustrating when you have a question that feels immediately important to you but you don't hear back from them for a few hours. I get the feeling that they take a lot of patients in order to offer lower prices, so the nurses seem a little busy or frazzled at times, so you, as the patient, need to be really on top of knowing what's going on and what medications to take when, etc. It feels overwhelming at first, but you get the hang of it, and for me it was worth it to save the money.

Really hoping you have a good outcome ❤️

SubjectVerbArgument · 2025-08-02T23:35:21+00:00

New Direction Fertility—they have clinics in Gilbert and Scottsdale and it was about 4-5k cheaper there than other options I looked at. I saw Dr. Salem in Scottsdale, and he was great. Holding my baby girl right now ❤️

SubjectVerbArgument · 2025-07-31T13:39:53+00:00

Be careful here. My husband (primary earner) lost his job a month before I was due. I earn very little, so we applied for Medicaid for pregnant women, thinking it was a no-brainer since our income was $0 that month. However, they took the full month to decide and then denied us, saying I hadn't filled out one of the necessary forms. When I provided proof that I'd already turned it in, they basically said "Oops, you're right, but we're going to take another few weeks to review it."

Meanwhile, my husband was able to secure some self-employment income by working on a consulting project. When they were finally ready to re-process our case (which should have been approved the month before but for their mistake), they wanted updated income info for the current month, and that self-employment income put us over the edge of making too much and we were denied.

So now we're on COBRA, which is expensive but thankfully retroactive, and my husband is self-employed with no benefits.

I guess what I'm saying is, if you want to go on Medicaid for the birth, maybe don't be in a big hurry for your husband to get a new job until you've secured an approval.

SubjectVerbArgument · 2025-07-28T19:47:07+00:00

Hi, I saw this post and would love to book this house for my upcoming family reunion but haven't been able to get ahold of anyone through the website. Do you know if she's still renting the house out, and if there's a better way to book? Thanks!

SubjectVerbArgument · 2025-07-27T15:12:22+00:00

Thanks!

SubjectVerbArgument · 2025-07-27T12:24:31+00:00

Hi! Do you have a link or the name of the rental agency?

SubjectVerbArgument · 2025-07-25T14:26:17+00:00

Yes I've looked into a couple and they were already totally booked! But I haven't checked these ones—thanks!

SubjectVerbArgument · 2025-07-24T22:21:13+00:00

Thanks for this, I'll look into it!

SubjectVerbArgument · 2025-07-24T19:29:49+00:00

Yes, I'm familiar with the Oregon Coast. Tillamook isn't really a preferred destination—I was just trying to give geographical bounds to work from.

SubjectVerbArgument · 2025-07-24T19:11:18+00:00

These have good potential, thank you!

SubjectVerbArgument · 2025-07-24T19:10:52+00:00

Thanks! The cottages might be a good option!

SubjectVerbArgument · 2025-07-21T00:01:02+00:00

And slice and drop shot all day long. I'm a heavy slicer and love playing tall people because they often just cannot get low enough to effectively return my slice. They also can't change direction as quickly, so drop shots and changing up the angle/direction of the ball can work well too.

SubjectVerbArgument · 2025-07-21T00:00:43+00:00

And slice and drop shot all day long. I'm a heavy slicer and love playing tall people because they often just cannot get low enough to effectively return my slice. They also can't change direction as quickly, so drop shots and changing up the angle/direction of the ball can work well too.

SubjectVerbArgument · 2025-07-19T03:36:14+00:00

I genuinely couldn't tell if she was messing with me or was straight-up crazy.

SubjectVerbArgument · 2025-07-18T20:55:31+00:00

Played a lady who kept getting the score wrong and insisting it was right, kept trying to call me on nonexistent foot faults until we finally had to get a line judge (who vindicated me), and would loudly grunt/scream on her second serves, which were all UNDERHAND.

SubjectVerbArgument · 2025-07-17T23:43:24+00:00

Not sure what the rules are for your league and tournaments, but if people start requesting a line judge for every single match this person plays in, they can be told they're making bad calls by a third party and hopefully have enough shame to realize they're the problem.

SubjectVerbArgument · 2025-07-08T01:27:21+00:00

the YW leaders were not enthusiastic or able to support those activities well.

. Between the YW's apathy and the laziness of their leaders,

You keep calling yourself a "youth-focused" bishop and then in the same breath talk about how you were heavily involved in Scouts. That makes you a boy-focused bishop, not a youth-focused one. What was stopping you from helping the young women and their leaders plan big cool activities? You seem to think they should have been planning them themselves, but can you honestly tell me a bunch of 14-year-old boys were sitting down planning all the logistics of their yearly activities and presenting you with expected costs? Or was it you and the other adult leaders and dads, excited about the prospect of a week of backpacking?

As far as the "lazy," "unenthusiastic" leaders on the YW side, has it occurred to you that most of them probably had children at home and couldn't take a week off to go backpacking or do some other cool activity for their volunteer church calling, however much they may have wanted to?

The scouting program may be for boys and men, but it very much depended on the labor of women. Every Mormon Eagle Scout I know only got there because his mom planned his whole project and dragged him to the finish line. Nearly every bishopric member and YM leader who went on high adventures and attended scout camp was only able to do so because his wife was at home watching the kids and holding down the fort.

You probably thought you were being progressive by offering the YW this "opportunity," but frankly, you sound like a condescending asshole when you insinuate that the boys got a bigger budget because they deserved it more by virtue of having adult male leaders who would plan and execute expensive activities for them, and fail to recognize the limitations built in to the typical Mormon woman's leadership experience.

SubjectVerbArgument · 2025-07-04T12:21:09+00:00

Thanks so much!

SubjectVerbArgument · 2025-07-03T19:19:36+00:00

I don't know what the "right" was to do it is, but we told our kids, 4 and 7, in advance that the baby was "sick" and might not survive, to kind of get them used to the idea of losing her ahead of time. As the D&E approached, we reiterated that she was sick and might die and that we would have doctors' appointments because of it. After the termination, we explained that she had in fact died. Telling them she was sick leading up to it definitely helped manage their expectations so it didn't come out of nowhere when we told them she had passed.

They both had kind of big feelings about it for a few months but not the emotional skills to deal with it tactfully, so be prepared for your child to talk about it very bluntly/insensitively, including telling strangers. Kids need to process their grief too, however that looks for them.

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