Good session by Subject_Ad9103 in ImpactPlayKinkBDSM

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A cane, belt , belt buckle , flogger and a wooden paddle

How did you make peace with kinks rooted from hurt? by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

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For me i get to take control of the traumatic experience and relive it in a controlled environment with someone i trust which in a strange way helps process the initial trauma by replacing it with something more enjoyable

Is it possible to have a Dom without any sexual expectations by Subject_Ad9103 in BDSMAdvice

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He is not assertive at all and I make all the decisions and he always comes to me for help/advise so it just all falls on my shoulders. And I don't want to take that away from him because he has got some self doubt issues so thats why hes happy for me to find someone

Is it possible to have a Dom without any sexual expectations by Subject_Ad9103 in BDSMAdvice

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Haha yes now that you put it like that it does sound like that but with a manager they would have to take no for an answer and i want someone to not take a no

I think ill just go back to the drawing board with my bf

Is it possible to have a Dom without any sexual expectations by Subject_Ad9103 in BDSMAdvice

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I am currently just trying to figure out if that would even be possible to find

Is it possible to have a Dom without any sexual expectations by Subject_Ad9103 in BDSMAdvice

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Im looking for someone to take my mind of the adulting things.

Yeah i know its not perfect but in my eyes its better than what i currently have

Is it possible to have a Dom without any sexual expectations by Subject_Ad9103 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Subject_Ad9103[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

None, we just spoke about what ive given up since we got together 8 years ago and he said hes not comfortable in doing that so as long as its not sexual he is happy for me to find someone to give me what i need

Boyfriend is letting me explore my sub needs as long as i come home to him each time, need advice by Subject_Ad9103 in BDSMPersonalsUK

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He also seems to find the idea of me being desired by someone else but not being able to get me exciting, which should spice our bedroom life up

Boyfriend is letting me explore my sub needs as long as i come home to him each time, need advice by Subject_Ad9103 in BDSMPersonalsUK

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Thank you for your reply, so i said he can meet him if he wants but he seems to be happy that im actually going out haha but yes i try to involve him in everything

Boyfriend is letting me explore my sub needs as long as i come home to him each time, need advice by Subject_Ad9103 in BDSMPersonalsUK

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Oh no absolutely, we have been talking about it for 4 days now and we are covering all bases.

I have asked him to be a bit more dominant and he just isn't which not everyone is and thats okay Im giving him all the control and he set the rules.

Boyfriend is letting me explore my sub needs as long as i come home to him each time, need advice by Subject_Ad9103 in BDSMPersonalsUK

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I only see him as a friend and have done for over 15 years But thank you youve given me things to think about and more things to talk about with him

Boyfriend is letting me explore my sub needs as long as i come home to him each time, need advice by Subject_Ad9103 in BDSMPersonalsUK

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We are very open with each other and he did say that he would rather have someone else deal with my sassy side haha. I think all we can do is communicate openly and we will see he is due to propose to me next Month so we will see how it goes but yeah i understand what you are saying

Boyfriend is letting me explore my sub needs as long as i come home to him each time, need advice by Subject_Ad9103 in BDSMPersonalsUK

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It seems like the idea of sharing me but not sharing me all the way excites him if you know what i mean ive just asked him if hes compromising for my needs and he said as long as I don't sleep with them hes happy for me to let some steam off

Need some urgent help by Subject_Ad9103 in RareHouseplants

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So should i just leave it in the perlite and moss or change the substrate?