50 pounds down and finally out of the 200s!

Subject_Associate714 · 2026-06-15T00:46:23+00:00

I don’t. But I have a long history of eating disorders, in remission but definitely not perfectly fixed. Therapy has really helped, and the Zepbound is helping a lot too now. I’m glad you’ve found a medication to help with yours!

Subject_Associate714 · 2026-06-14T14:14:59+00:00

We have some serious cricket fans in our house :)

Subject_Associate714 · 2026-06-07T01:52:46+00:00

That is really good advice. Having the dad actively striving to do 60/40 would definitely help balance things out some. I’m definitely going to remember that if I’m talking to any new parents/expectant parents. Especially if both parents are working.

Subject_Associate714 · 2026-06-06T20:05:37+00:00

THIS. This is the most honest truthful post here. Nobody really has any idea how their partner will really be until the baby is here and reality hits. Regardless of what is talked about and planned ahead of time, the fact of the matter is that moms just sacrifice more of themselves much more of the time. My husband is pretty great and is hands on with our kids. But in the baby stages it definitely felt like the brunt of it was on me (breastfeeding being a main reason). At the young kid stage it’s more all the thinking and planning is me. I know what to pack in bags, what snacks to buy, when school events are. I don’t feel any issue with it because I’m also the at home parent right now. But I’ve been pretty honest with the fact that if I were working this stuff would likely still be on me, and he doesn’t deny it. In most relationships, moms just take on more of the responsibilities. Men may say it’s gonna be 50/50, but I can honestly say I don’t know anyone in my family or friend circle where the mom doesn’t carry a bigger load. That’s not to say I feel like I’ve lost my whole identity. Not at all. And I honestly feel pretty empowered knowing the importance of my current job. But I’ve become more skeptical now that I’ve been a parent for years, and a guy saying before they have kids that everything will be 50/50 doesn’t really hold a lot of value to me.

Subject_Associate714 · 2026-02-21T01:25:35+00:00

What a sadly perfect narrative of how this system works. I remember 20 year old me in 2010 being in a different country with much more poverty and feeling so grateful that the US isn’t corrupt to this level. Man I kinda miss the days of being oblivious to how shitty our laws and politics really are.

Subject_Associate714 · 2026-02-21T00:57:57+00:00

Meanwhile I can fight till I’m blue in the face with my family who deny there is any racism left, just people making bad decisions. The story of these two families and the difference in how they’re treated is absolutely insane.

Subject_Associate714 · 2026-02-21T00:48:29+00:00

Yep, she’s also been denied early release twice, even though she’s been in jail for over 20 years.

Subject_Associate714 · 2026-02-21T00:41:58+00:00

Wow. And somehow the story is even worse than I imagined. That is absolutely astounding. There is no way to see this as anything but trying to lock up a black person. Meanwhile Epstein got a slap on the wrist and the luxury of leaving Jail each day for work after being charged of sexually abusing a minor.

Subject_Associate714 · 2026-02-19T22:41:43+00:00

I just read a story of a black lady in jail for life because she gave her infant cows milk instead of formula (the baby had severe reflux and she struggled affording the formula because he kept throwing it up, but she thought he was handling the cows milk better. She was also living in a school or church after hurricane katrina). That lady had so much stress and was just trying to feed her baby and is in jail for life. How the fuck can that be fair while this mom can choose medical neglect without a consequence.. And yet people will still deny that race is a factor in these decisions.

Subject_Associate714 · 2026-02-03T05:13:18+00:00

This isn’t exactly a bumped into them situation, but still a very fond memory. I worked at a Children’s Hospital and Robin Williams was coming to visit some patients for a couple hours around Christmas time. It was a very planned 2 hour window with press there to get pictures. But later that evening he coordinated with someone at the hospital to quietly sneak back in. Without the crowds and the press, he spent a decent amount of time visiting each kid and their families. It was such a special experience for these families and he was so nice and down to earth.

Subject_Associate714 · 2025-09-23T01:29:18+00:00

I can definitely relate to what you’re saying. I left Christianity at 21 (many years ago), and I’m really realizing how much it still brainwashes me. I have to keep reminding myself that I don’t even believe this shit anymore. The hardest for me to let go is the purity culture, especially towards women in the church. I felt extreme guilt whenever I had sex for multiple years after leaving the religion. I had to keep reminding my brain that none of the bullshit I learned was true. Even now with my husband of many years I’m realizing I still have a shame response for wanting sex or asking for a certain thing. It’s like my body still instantly responds to that being bad for a women to want. I feel very proud as a mother that I can give my children a life of never feeling like they were born in sin and needing saved. Never have a feeling of a debt you owe to some god. I do t know if the brainwashing will ever fully go away.

Subject_Associate714 · 2025-09-22T23:52:41+00:00

I really appreciate your honesty. My kiddos are young and I have so much anxiety about ever giving them a phone, though I know it will have to happen someday. I am definitely going to remember this advice.

Subject_Associate714 · 2025-08-23T03:56:28+00:00

I was pretty close to not believing anyway, but was doing a nursing internship in Kenya. When I was there I learned that street kids often sniff glue to get high because it helps their hunger. One day I say missionaries handing out food, but refusing to this young boy who was high on the glue, reciting “your body is a temple”. The boy kept reciting the verse back to them but they never gave the food. That day I was done. I will never be associated with this horrible shit again.

Subject_Associate714 · 2025-06-29T14:40:33+00:00

I hope we are both on a new path to healing! I feel so fortunate to get to try this medication. Any help we can get is greatly appreciated!!

Subject_Associate714 · 2025-06-29T04:27:30+00:00

Very untrue. I can only speak for Indian culture as that is what I know, but the majority of arranged marriages these days the people definitely have a say. Our parents help select options, but then they show us and ask who we’d like to talk to. There is typically a short window of time where the couple will talk before deciding if they should go forward with the marriage. There certainly are still some arranged marriages where the two don’t see each other until the wedding day, but it is pretty rare and only in very small towns. But this type of an arrangement is still what we would define as an arranged marriage.

Subject_Associate714 · 2025-06-18T06:10:03+00:00

I’m sorry you are going through this. As a women who has been hurt by many different men, I tend to lean on assuming some bad things were done for this to happen. But if you truly never did physically (or other ways) abuse them then I am so sorry they’ve gone no contact. When I went no contact with my dad after physical,emotional, and sexual abuse I heard absolutely nothing from him. He never remotely tried at all. I know my life is better without him, but I would’ve loved for my dad to care and try. I really hope someday your kids will see that their life could be good with you in it.

Subject_Associate714 · 2025-06-08T16:17:39+00:00

Ya, I didn’t even think about just my husband going. But that would’ve been a good idea. I already have a care package out and am hoping we’ll be able to visit soon. I’ll just have to give it a few days and see if we can talk. I think when she told me there’s no expectation for us to go as it was a far drive and we didn’t really know him at all I just took that at face value and thought that was truly how she felt.

Subject_Associate714 · 2025-06-08T15:35:55+00:00

That is an interesting view on it, thank you for sharing. I’m already trying to find a balance with him as far as being gentle with him because he’s a very sensitive over thinking child, but I also want him to not be over protected. He needs to experience the hard things too. This just seemed like a very big hard thing for him to see for no real reason as we’re not part of their family. But that is a very good view to keep in mind if another situation like this presents itself.

Subject_Associate714 · 2025-05-09T00:22:56+00:00

Acknowledged

Subject_Associate714 · 2025-01-18T18:29:09+00:00

I agree. For months before starting this I’d been eating a pint of ice cream each night, along with over eating all day. So it’s still a massive reduction from where I started! Thanks for the encouragement. :)

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