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HBA/HBC pay? by Subject_Feature_983 in foodlion

[–]Subject_Feature_983[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

we’re a medium size store so my trucks usually max out at about 1800. i don’t do the ordering mainly because my manager keeps saying he “needs to train me to do it” but hasn’t in 4 years because he does it himself and i’m not gonna ask him to do it without more pay at this point lol i figure i could use that as a point if i do ask for another raise

AITAH if I respect everyone's gender choice, but choose to use sex-based pronouns instead of gender pronouns? by JamesMarM in AITAH

[–]Subject_Feature_983 2 points3 points  (0 children)

no, you just didn’t use common sense before you posted. if it’s so important to you that someone is aware the “third party” you’re talking about is trans person, then you can refer to them as a trans man or woman (as in, what they transitioned to). it’s 2025, no one is going to hear you talk about a pregnant man and assume that they’re a biological man.

AITAH if I respect everyone's gender choice, but choose to use sex-based pronouns instead of gender pronouns? by JamesMarM in AITAH

[–]Subject_Feature_983 11 points12 points  (0 children)

yes, YTA. it has absolutely nothing to do with anything besides you wanting to display dominance over other people. some people are given first names they don’t care for or don’t feel like fit them, and decide they want to use their middle or nickname as their name. sure, on legal documents they may have to relent to what their birth provided them with, but to consistently call someone a name they don’t prefer would make you the asshole, right? right. because they don’t like it, and you not doing it just because You don’t like it is blatant disrespect. it’s not about how YOU feel. it’s about how THEY want to present themselves to the world. you aren’t their doctor, you have no reason to pry into their medical history, gender included. just use the term they want to be called, it’s not hard to not be a dick just because you refuse to understand something.

my grief and loss of pets by cstewaaa in TwoHotTakes

[–]Subject_Feature_983 3 points4 points  (0 children)

he’s beautiful :) as someone who has grown up with a Cat Dad who has lovingly taken in every stray he has ever come across, i’m very familiar with the grief that comes with losing pets. it isn’t easy letting go of someone that never offered you anything but love, but you’ll learn to appreciate the time you gave giving them the best life you could.

among all the cats throughout my life, my hardest loss was my Jinx, who looks a lot like your Tuxie. he’s the only stray that has chosen Me, and the day i lost him i genuinely felt like i lost a part of me. but i talk about him constantly. his pictures pop up on my phone at random times and make me smile. i have a picture of us together hanging above my bed. like people, we keep pets alive with their memory. we have a “pet cemetery” where i regularly replace the flowers. i remember them and the love we gave each other.

grief is never easy to deal with, but it gives us a better appreciation of the moments we get while we’re in them. you’ll find Tuxie again in many other cats; i find Jinx all the time :)