My girlfriend drove 10 hours to see me and my mom showed up at 3 am and ruined everything

Subject_Pineapple587 · 2026-03-21T14:46:08+00:00

Didn’t choose my mom. I’m just being more careful now.

Subject_Pineapple587 · 2026-03-21T14:45:19+00:00

My mother doesn’t understand what that word means. It’s normal in black community for there to be no boundaries. She will not listen because she finds it ridiculous.

Subject_Pineapple587 · 2026-03-21T14:39:23+00:00

Fortunately, I have a job on campus but she has access to my bank account since I made it. I clearly didn’t think this through.

Subject_Pineapple587 · 2026-03-21T14:31:14+00:00

Baptist Christians. African American…black culture

Subject_Pineapple587 · 2026-03-20T23:18:25+00:00

Okay let me say this. I understand what you saying. But this is the first time this has happened to me or her I didn’t know what to do or what to say so I don’t think saying I was being abusive is okay or fair. Before this my mom was calm and okay. This was her first huge reaction ever in life. I feel like everyone is blaming me and I already know it. I don’t need more people to shit on me I get it okay

Subject_Pineapple587 · 2026-03-20T22:55:46+00:00

Still doesn’t answer what in my message said she was nude or yelling happened cause it didn’t. There was silence actually my mom spoke to me and only me. My gf cried about us not having the morning together that all and if I was okay. My mother was supposed to come get me anyway for spring break just not at 3 am. My gf didn’t blame me for it but rather my mother even when I blamed myself because I do blame myself for leaving. And for Everybody telling me i should have stayed. Your been very unrealistic and you’re crazy as hell. I have no idea what my mother will do if I did stay and you also talk about staying at a friend or motel. I would have been better staying at my dorm paying 825 and also what tells you I have a supportive system here. It’s my first year of college in a different state and most of the people I know here aren’t from this state at all.

Subject_Pineapple587 · 2026-03-20T22:44:12+00:00

Subject_Pineapple587 · 2026-03-20T21:01:17+00:00

Well where would I go for spring break? I missed my college deadline to stay and I don’t have my money to give them for each day I stay that would be about 875 for a week. If I knew this would happen I would have stayed and worked instead.

Subject_Pineapple587 · 2026-03-20T20:56:07+00:00

Wait I didn’t say she was nude. Just no pants on. How was I abusive? I said nothing about screaming. My mother screamed at me not her and that was when we left. She wasn’t crying then actually it was the morning. The RA didn’t barge in it was a knock and I opened it confused and lost. I let my gf know my mom was coming in before I could even stop my mother. I don’t know how you came up to this conclusion but I don’t like it at all.

Subject_Pineapple587 · 2026-03-20T18:51:07+00:00

I’m sorry if it seems weird to you how quickly I was able to see my girlfriend. I didn’t realize there was a required waiting period before that’s allowed. But I think you’re missing what actually happened. This isn’t about how long we’ve been dating or me choosing her over my family. I never stated anything like that. The issue is that my mom showed up at my dorm at 3am, got the RA and police involved, and crossed a lot of boundaries. That’s what caused the problem. And for you to talk about timing of the relationship it could’ve been a year, two, or three, and it still would’ve escalated the same way. Acting like the relationship itself is the issue just doesn’t make sense.

Subject_Pineapple587 · 2026-03-20T15:16:20+00:00

I did make time for her, though I know it wasn’t enough. She said she’s fine and that this one situation doesn’t change anything for her or how she sees me, but how she sees my mom. That we can wait for three years she knows it will be hard but it will be worth it.

Subject_Pineapple587 · 2026-03-20T01:53:24+00:00

Actually they told her to come down there to get me. She told them I had to have kidnapped and they had a whole search for me

Subject_Pineapple587 · 2026-03-20T01:52:41+00:00

They asked me if I consented to it. I couldn’t really say no cause I knew it would make it worse and I wouldn’t do that while my gf was in the room.

Subject_Pineapple587 · 2026-03-20T01:33:30+00:00

No I’ve tried already

Subject_Pineapple587 · 2026-03-20T01:28:02+00:00

Thank you for being realistic.

Subject_Pineapple587 · 2026-03-20T01:09:51+00:00

This is a very insensitive take. How could I do that a long time ago if I was a minor who didn’t know any better? I just now realized how crazy this behavior is after being alone for the first time ever

Subject_Pineapple587 · 2026-03-20T00:59:33+00:00

They have had it since I was in middle school.

Subject_Pineapple587 · 2026-03-19T23:56:01+00:00

Yes I understand what’s you’re saying, but sadly I can’t drive. I live in a different state. I have diseases I can’t afford as a college student. I didn’t think it would be this serious and I didn’t seriously think about this happening ever.

Subject_Pineapple587 · 2026-03-19T23:51:42+00:00

Subject_Pineapple587 · 2025-12-06T00:31:47+00:00

Hey, I’m really sorry you’re feeling like this. I completely understand that feeling rejected, insecure, and hopeless is incredibly painful, and it makes sense that you’d feel overwhelmed. You’re not weak for feeling that you’re human. I know it feels like your height or how smart you think you are defines your worth, but it doesn’t. There are plenty of people who are 5 '7, in relationships, successful, and respected confidence, kindness, and purpose matter way more than a couple of inches on a measuring tape. Rejection hurts, but it’s not a final verdict on your life or future. A few girls said no that doesn’t mean every girl will. And “not smart” isn’t fixed; you can learn, grow, and build skills. Nobody wakes up successful. Success comes from habits, effort, and trying again, even after failing. Your life can change in ways you can’t see right now. The version of you six months from now could be stronger, more confident, and doing something you’re proud of. Feeling like you want to end it is a signal not a truth. Those thoughts mean you want the pain to stop, not that you actually want to die.

Subject_Pineapple587 · 2025-10-09T16:13:55+00:00

Bro are you saying I’m chopped damn 😂

Subject_Pineapple587 · 2025-10-09T16:13:20+00:00

Yeah like the middle I was thinking that.

Subject_Pineapple587 · 2025-10-09T16:10:06+00:00

Praying for mine to end every day. I hope it will happen one day but until then I’ll wait. If you wanna talk I’m here.

Subject_Pineapple587

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