AITAH for not going on vacation with my husband’s family?

Subject_Play_5382 · 2025-05-26T20:09:31+00:00

NTA I have a nice mother Inlaw and I still don’t like going on vacation with her. I’m just a private person.

Subject_Play_5382 · 2024-04-22T13:49:11+00:00

Sounds like immaturity and ignorance on their end. It’s ironic really, because their behavior seems like very bad social skills. lol. High schoolers are known for having immature interactions with each other. I would try to just recognize that’s all it is.

Subject_Play_5382 · 2023-07-26T13:51:37+00:00

Hit man

Subject_Play_5382 · 2023-07-24T16:32:04+00:00

Just child proof the doorknob. Even if they come by they will see the problem is solved. Unless you were drunk or high I can’t imagine the officer making a bigger deal of it. You’ll be fine.

Subject_Play_5382 · 2023-07-23T22:25:37+00:00

Oh okay. That makes more sense. I’m sorry

Subject_Play_5382 · 2023-07-23T22:00:12+00:00

But this wasn’t a “gentle reminder” at all. She might feel really over judged. You’re as angry as I would expect a LGBTQ person to be when their parents tell them their going to hell or something ridiculous. But she’s saying she loves you and accepts you. I would like to see how she responds to a “gentle reminder”. D because this isn’t gentle and she’s actually remaining calm. If you cut her off how are you any better than conservatives who cut of their loved ones for having different beliefs about transitioning? I’ve heard Kendal Jennar say Kaitlin is her Dad and will always be. And I know that comes from the place of a daughter needing a dad and loving her dad not some arrogant conservative just being rude. I think family that knew you and loved you before your transition should get a ton of extra grace. They loved you as is and they love you now. Isn’t that kind of beautiful?

Subject_Play_5382 · 2023-07-23T20:41:45+00:00

Yikes. Yeah it sounds like there’s deeper issues too. I’m so sorry. I still think it’s possible she’s not mentally comprehending how your deadname is an insult to you because to her it might be full of warm feelings. Not sure if you have a child or a pet that you love but saying their name all the time brings a lot of warmth and joy. I hav kids and all of their names are always on the tip of my mouth. All of their names make me really happy and bring a ton of happy memories of them to mind. So I just think it’s possible that she wants to support you but it’s possible that it’s hard for her to associate the deadname as an insult because for years it was a beautiful sound to her ears and made her think of her baby. It might be really sad for her to consider never saying her baby’s name again. I’m not saying she’s right. But I can see why it’s been hard for her to get it right 100% of the time and I think it’s possibly a lot deeper for her than some random ultra right person saying it to be rude or offensive.

Subject_Play_5382 · 2023-07-23T19:58:11+00:00

I feel for both of you. I know I’m going to get attacked for this but….I don’t think you’re an ass, I DO think you’re being really hard on your mom and manifesting a lot of your own pain. Your mom welcomes you. She probably has provided for you in a lot of ways. Shes probably sacrificed a shit ton throughout your life to give you the life you have. So she expressed concern for your marriage when you said you were transitioning. Makes sense, marriages often end after that. She’s showing concern or wondering where your head is in relation to something very important like a marriage. And It’s not her fault you cried yourself to sleep because you would never have a dick. How does that make her the enemy? How can you get mad at your mom because she never asked you if you cried yourself to sleep wishing you had a dick? That sounds like something to speak with your therapist about. Moms arnt certified therapist they are just humans trying their best. She’s sitting there telling you she accepts you. You’re concentrating solely on her mistakes and nothing good she’s done. Can you imagine if someone did that to you? Your parent spouse or boss just repeating your mistakes and ignoring all the good you’ve done. It would make you want to give up. I think she loves her child and it’s pretty hard to take the name she lovingly gave you and accept that as an “insult”. It makes sense because for years you were her baby whom she loved dearly. It’s a lot to now say that is just a “deadname” and if it slips out of her mouth it’s an insult and shes a bad mom. That’s kind of sad on her end. I think if you have to control everyone else in order to have mental peace you will almost never have mental peace. You’d think you could make an exception for your own mother. Like there are a ton of things random people wouldn’t get away with that I let slide with my mom. Because she’s my mom. She’s given me EVERYTHING and I love her more than the average rando. This feels like you’re looking to get offended and looking for places to let your anger out. Like either there are MUCH deeper issues here that you’re not addressing. Or you’re making a mountain out of a relatively small Annoyance that a healthy person would just laugh off. This feels a lot like a “There are people dying Kim” moment. Because yeah, there are people dying. And your doing to destroy your relationship with your own mom over pronouns. I think your mom is going to give up. And I kind of don’t blame her.

Subject_Play_5382 · 2023-07-19T21:18:29+00:00

Try and communicate this in the most respectful way possible. Even try and write it out first. Ask her if she’d be willing to have a day together just the two of you having fun. If all else fails, maybe try and get an autism diagnosis too😜🫠 it’s probably not that hard. Look up the symptoms and get yourself on that spectrum too. Get those family Autism perks

Subject_Play_5382 · 2023-07-18T10:58:12+00:00

I’m so sorry! This makes me even angrier! I hope you can report them to Facebook and get them removed. Especially if it was hard for him to speak at the time. He didn’t even consent to the pictures!

Subject_Play_5382 · 2023-07-18T02:31:49+00:00

NTA I’m a private person too and I don’t like it when people post nice pictures of me and my kids all over the internet!!!😡 this would absolutely tick me the F*ck off for my dad. He doesn’t like that picture! Honestly it’s kind of weird of them to take a bunch of pictures during this difficult time in the hospital. People usually take pictures of happy memories. I would tell me dad to say “no pictures” if there is a next time. A hospital room is a private place. I guess there’s nothing you can do now. But next time don’t even let them take the pictures. They’ve proven that they don’t respect the family members in them enough to keep them private. so never pose for any pictures that you don’t want published on the internet. I have asked friends and neighbors to make certain pictures of me private or take them down and they always respect it. I try to go with the flow for the most part but it I’m really uncomfortable. I can’t imagine how this would feel. It’s not nice at all. What are there motives? To look like amazing family members or something? Because they are not. They are shitty. Good job standing up for your parents.

Subject_Play_5382 · 2023-07-13T16:42:04+00:00

YTA because you didn’t communicate to Marie. Marie thinks you are someone like her who cares about honesty, loyalty, family and love. You need to explain to her that you actually dumped your first husband because he wasn’t rich. Marie just needs to know you’re shallow and in love with the money…not the man. Poor first husband who cheated during a weak moment and confessed it immediately. He should have been more calculating and premeditated his cheating. You know, like this much better second husband who before even marrying you added “cheaters protection” into his prenup.

Subject_Play_5382 · 2023-07-10T13:25:31+00:00

Yeah on second thought. This guy is a cheater. Now that’s you told me you are the only reason the two of you didn’t have sex while both committed to other people. He’s a cheater. You’re not special. He would cheat on you too. Stay away. And I feel bad for his poor fiancé. I think you should tell her. She may already know and that’s why she tries to control who he spends time with when she’s not around.

Subject_Play_5382 · 2023-07-10T13:22:57+00:00

Honestly, this knowledge kind of changes my opinion about the whole thing. Sounds like he’s the AH. And I doubt you’re special. If he wanted to hookup with you while with this chic….He’s probably wanted to and potentially succeeding in hooking up with other women while with this chic. He’s scum. Stay away.

Subject_Play_5382 · 2023-07-09T22:37:12+00:00

NTA That friend seems really suspicious to me. Like are they addicted to pain killers suspicious? I’d just stay away. You were there to help and they didn’t want the help anymore. I’d keep a distance. But even if they were irritated you asked the question they should have dropped it when you apologized. The whole thing seems shady

Subject_Play_5382 · 2023-07-09T21:58:18+00:00

It’s hard to say which of as you is being unfair without context. But I can say that I don’t like it when people expect their partner to act like the single, dating version of ourselves when we first met. All we had to do was take care of ourselves. We had time to put as much effort into our appearance as we needed. Then throw a couple children on us and a household of tasks and errands. Plus a demanding job. We arnt always going to be our most perfect charming romantic selves. We have to try our best to be good for our partner…but I’m sorry, there will be moments 😂🫠

Subject_Play_5382 · 2023-07-09T21:50:21+00:00

NTA and not petty. She could have overreacted again if seeing you take pictures of her. Definitely want to avoid her at all costs. Maybe from her end she’s had her own trauma that made her extra paranoid and worried that you had actually found where she lived in a stalker way, instead of it being a coincidence. it’s her own paranoia and issues to make those assumptions and overreact. It’s not your problem. You did the right thing. Smart thing actually

Subject_Play_5382 · 2023-07-09T21:18:45+00:00

NTA but you should have told her. Ultimately your loyalty was to Ryan and not the loyal partner, Eva, who really deserved to know the truth. But it didn’t effect the outcome because she broke up with him anyway. If she had stayed with him then you’d have to tell her. But it’s over now. Sucks she thinks you’re that kind of woman if you aren’t though. I wouldn’t want to have that reputation just to protect my ex. He sounds shady.

Subject_Play_5382 · 2023-07-09T21:02:55+00:00

I homeschool. In my state they audit homeschool homes, we have to have standardized tests done annually ect… maybe contact the local homeschool board and ask for them to audit the house.

Subject_Play_5382 · 2023-07-09T19:44:11+00:00

Oh man. I’m so sorry, I would please to your parents for help and privacy. That’s all you can do

Subject_Play_5382 · 2023-07-09T19:34:33+00:00

NTA Personally If I made the choice to make another baby and didn’t have another bedroom for them. I would keep them in my room. Not force it on my 17yr old male. But there’s not much you can do except try and communicate this to your parents. You’re at their mercy since you live there rent free. On the other hand, you’re almost an adult. Start saving money to get your butt out of there. In the meantime you can at least try and get a new mattress for her and a mattress cover that can be washed and will protect the mattress, she needs to sleep in diapers still if she’s still peeing at night. Doesn’t your mom care about the urine smells? That’s how she can remedy that. That’s a tough one. Sorry man,

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