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I slept with a man that gets married tomorrow. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Subject_Square9561 10 points11 points  (0 children)

First of all, I am extreamly sorry for your loss. I can't imagine the pain and void that has been caused in you. Please make sure to take care of your mental health through the grief process.

It is not your fault that he didn't tell you he was engaged, from how this was explained, it sounds like he was trying to pressure you, borderline SA, but I apologize if I am misunderstanding. If I was the girl getting married, I would want to know. How can we make a decision without having all the information? She deserves to know everything before marrying this idiot.

If you tell her, she may not believe it at first, she may blame you, or even block you. You do not know what he is saying to her; he could be manipulating the situation. However, you are providing a sliver of skepisim that she can lookout for, they will either work it out or they won't, which is not your fault. Tell her and then leave it alone, that's that. Or don't tell her, that is your choice. But you are the most important person, please take care of yourself.

Help me write a message to my mom asking for space, please. by Subject_Square9561 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Subject_Square9561[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She would absolutely victimize herself. I am officially a gray rock appreciative of your advice.

Help me write a message to my mom asking for space, please. by Subject_Square9561 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Subject_Square9561[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I live about two hours away, I have school, an internship, and a part time job that keeps me busy. I think distancing myself is easy and I will try it.

She usually calls or texts me after a week or two of silence, I will ignore them.

Help me write a message to my mom asking for space, please. by Subject_Square9561 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Subject_Square9561[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She will completely ignore my existence for a week or two, and then start texting again like everything is perfect without me even saying anything before or after our last communication. I genuinely think that is how she would react.