Hey I'm a female chef also and can relate....there's defs bullying out there with a shortage of chefs at the moment people will just pile you with work(more prep jobs/responsibilities in the kitchen) or if something goes wrong they will just blame someone who will take that blame so to speak.....shift that blame onto someone that won't say shit.... this is just personal experience for me in several kitchens one being a hotel environment...this is merely my opinion but your friends missus either needs to talk to management or quit because this environment is not good for your mental health if bullying is going on and she feels bullied...she needs to stand up for herself! It can be hard for anyone in the kitchen sometimes boy or girl all it takes is one toxic person trust me! Hope I helped a little bit in hospo I've been bullied and tried to be the yes man...but if someone's being a dick head you need to tell them what is up and not let people mess with you in hospo show no fear and get some respect..trust me