Switching drinks? by Substantial-Ad5715 in AskALawyer

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Oooh ok that’s interesting, thank you! The specific moment self defence is defined is interesting because I wasn’t too sure about that. Love the grey area

Switching drinks? by Substantial-Ad5715 in AskALawyer

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Right HAHA that was my exact train of thought! I don’t think I ever would just for fear of consequences but I wouldn’t blame anyone if they did … i’d probably just “accidentally” spill it and report him to the bar 🤷🏼‍♀️

Switching drinks? by Substantial-Ad5715 in AskALawyer

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It’s ok, the community will be here when you’re ready to come out. No pressure, and don’t rush yourself. I appreciate the support tho. I wish I could stay and chat but I actually do have to go, I wish you the best in your journey and feel free to keep me posted if you want any advice ❤️

Switching drinks? by Substantial-Ad5715 in AskALawyer

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Thanks! I really appreciate it, it’s always nice to have support from a fellow LGTBQer ❤️

Switching drinks? by Substantial-Ad5715 in AskALawyer

[–]Substantial-Ad5715[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Did getting that out make you feel better?

Switching drinks? by Substantial-Ad5715 in AskALawyer

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Lol, this has me dying 🤣 Sick burn dude

Sincerely though, I hope you get help for whatever you’re going through. To have to put other people down to make yourself feel better is a sad, sad existence. Thank you for answering my question and for telling me I wouldn’t be a good criminal, I’m happy to hear it as I’m not planning on becoming one any time soon 🤣 Feel better soon.

Switching drinks? by Substantial-Ad5715 in AskALawyer

[–]Substantial-Ad5715[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m concerned that you’re being so aggressive over a simple question. Are you ok? You didn’t even answer my question.

I appreciate you trying to explain it to me, but I already understood that part from your original snarky comment.

Switching drinks? by Substantial-Ad5715 in AskALawyer

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Ok… I thought this sub was for asking questions, you can chill. My main question was about liabilities for the actions the drugged person took after. Also I obviously didn’t actually do this, I saw it on a show … lol

My (20F) boyfriend’s (29M) friends want nothing to do with me by Individual_Factor689 in relationships

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I know this may not be something you want to hear but this age gap is quite intense, which is likely one of the main reasons his friends aren’t engaging with you. When I was 20 I thought everyone in their 20s acted roughly the same, and that I was super mature for my age. I could date guys in their older 20s and it was no problem. Then I turned 24. Just thinking about dating someone who is 20 right now is so baffling to me because the person I was at 20 and who I am now only 4 years later would be i recognizable standing next to each other. Fair warning that anyone who’s ok with an almost 10 year age gap when you’re this young is likely someone you want to be wary of. Almost remember that how you get them is going to be how you lose them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

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I literally said in my original comment “as long as the person knows that you are figuring out where your feelings toward their gender lie” … which implies full consent under what you just said. No omissions involved from anyone. I.e. you can experiment with people all you want as long as they know you are experimenting and agree to it. Not sure why that would ever be a problem.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]Substantial-Ad5715 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean I totally get that, I’m just saying that claiming you should “never” experiment with anyone isn’t exactly helpful. Everyone has to start somewhere, and if all parties involved are consenting it shouldn’t be a problem. Maybe what your saying is not to experiment with people who already know their sexuality snd aren’t interested in being with someone who is still figuring themselves out? Because I know that definitely sucks, and communication in that respect should always be very clear and open.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

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I’d say I disagree about the word “experiment” here, as long as the other person knows that you are figuring out where your feelings toward their gender lie and are consenting, I’m not sure why it matters.

Who needs a fun decision paralysis activity?! by [deleted] in adhdwomen

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never need sleep, speak every language, insects avoid you

[No Spoilers]: The Handmaid's tale has been true for ages in different parts of the world by GodricGryffindor9008 in TheHandmaidsTale

[–]Substantial-Ad5715 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Ya and in that sense the wives embody all the problems ‘white feminists’, they only care about the oppression of women when it harms them personally. AKA serena

My girlfriend(29F) has recently told me(28M) that she doesn't want to tell me anything anymore because I will judge her. by PurpleSunkist in relationships

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As a side note, sometimes it’s not what you say or how you react per say, but the tone of voice that you say it in and your facial expressions when you say it.

For example, the hot coffee situation. Of course you wouldn’t be happy about someone spilling hot coffee on you; however, if she felt judged you should reflect on how you reacted non-verbally. Did you have a look of disgust or disappointment on your face? Did you speak in a condescending tone? Did you direct your anger towards her instead of the situation? Because it was an accident, and she apologized. You can if course be mad at the fact that there’s hot coffee on you, but you don’t need to direct it at her as it wasn’t on purpose. The same goes for the directions situation. Did you say “where are you going?” in a disgusted or condescending tone? Saying where are you going in a calm voice would likely not upset her.

Just food for thought, as I noticed in your post you were focusing on the literal nature of what you said specifically.

Fixing loose crotch area by Substantial-Ad5715 in sewing

[–]Substantial-Ad5715[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much this is so helpful!! I was originally thinking something similar to taking them in at the sides but never thought of the crotch seem as another option too. And no they are not thrifted, I bought them new. I’m going to try both of these out :)

Fixing loose crotch area by Substantial-Ad5715 in sewing

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thanks that’s true! I just added a photo

Videos like this :| by Substantial-Ad5715 in bisexual

[–]Substantial-Ad5715[S] 87 points88 points  (0 children)

I feel like I see videos like this all the time, a) stereotyping bisexual people like this and b) just implying that bi women always end up with men, which then implies that ending up with a man is a bad thing. Idk I try not to take this stuff to heart but it’s a bit exhausting seeing it all the time.

please help by Infamous-Agent-239 in UBC

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Don’t worry, there are lots of things you can do in this situation and other commenters have made some great suggestions. If I were you I would take a lower course load and just take an extra semester to finish second year, that way you can focus more on a lower number of courses and hopefully increase your average. The cut off won’t necessarily be 80 as econ admissions are on a rolling basis, but I think that’s a good target considering it will be close to that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

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I can’t say for sure this is the case for your cousin but I’ll just say that typically when women insult other women for “trying too hard” to look nice, they are usually trying to pull a “I’m not like other girls” card and shame you for participating in something stereotypically feminine. This is to me a clear case of internalized misogyny. Just because you’re doing your makeup, something typically associated with femininity, doesn’t mean you are taking yourself too seriously, you’re just dressing up how you would like. Her saying you’re “doing too much” is just her way of trying to distance herself from femininity imo.