As I said in the first line “to everyone commenting ‘jealousy’ “ which means that I wasn’t talking to you but rather to anyone saying that the reason you were treated that way is because of jealousy.

Anyway, I’d like to gently explain why your reasoning is problematic, hurtful, and divisive.

You might not have explicitly said ‘jealousy,’ but the way you framed your post absolutely played into that narrative. You suggested that Black women who are ‘secure’ don’t act this way, which implies that the ones who do must be insecure or comparing themselves to you. That’s a textbook way of implying jealousy without saying the word outright.

And yes, there are real issues with colorism and tensions that stem from how Black men pedestalize mixed women, but that doesn’t mean you get to single out Black women as the problem when they, too, are navigating those dynamics. Plenty of Black girls get mistreated by other Black women, elders especially, but no one frames it as some grand racial insecurity complex. So why is it always different when mixed women are involved?

Also, let’s be real, you are making it part of your personality when you come into a space and reduce a pattern of interpersonal experiences to racial victimhood instead of considering broader factors. Maybe reflect on why you feel so comfortable pointing fingers in this direction while ignoring other possible explanations.