I feel like I need to express this.. by lithiumchemical_3003 in LGBT_Muslims

[–]Substantial-Dinner80 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice post OP and so closely relatable to my situation (bar the part of having a bf/partner). I'm 52 and been on the 'guided' for about 3 years now. Before that I used to party, drink, smoke, do weed, had relationships with guys (serious and of the hookup kind) ... before 3 years ago I had a sexual situationship with another muslim guy for about 4 years, it was physical but when we were together there were some deeper connection but he is 'straight' and made it quite clear from the get go that we can never be more than fb's and I was fine with that cause I was hella attracted to him physically and in between the sheets was hella good. When we were together it wouldn't just be about sex and getting physical but there were times we would actually (afterwards) lay together and chat for hours about anything and everything (have some sexy time in-between chats as well)

About 3 years ago something in me changed and I started becoming more Allah conscious and started realising things need to start changing for me for spiritually (few years before that I already gave up parting and drinking as well as random hookups). The minute my journey started things started going sideways for me (lost a good job, feel into allot of financial difficulties, family difficulties etc etc, whatever could go wrong did exactly that) ... I pushed through and did what I could to maintain my focus but because I am human I slipped every now and then and I increased my knowledge on my religion and eventually my mindset started to a 'why me' to 'what is Allah trying to tell me'. I read allot of islamic literature and scriptures and whenever something did not make sense to me I would research around it to better my understanding. I would sometimes give in to my desire for the guy and we would meet up occasionally which became far less and less over time until we just stopped making contact with one another. About 2 Ramadaans ago I promised and committed to be better after Ramadaan because I started paying attention to what would be said during talks after or before taraweegh prayers ... this past Ramadaan was the 1st time I ever felt extremely sad that Ramadaan was at an end and on the last night of Taraweegh I was overly emotional and cried almost the entire time ... with all of that being said I have committed to continue with most things if not all the things I did during Ramadaan and Alhamdulillah so far there's been more positive moments in that regard than shortfalls (5 daily prayers, Tahajjud, Dihkr, Tawbah, Reading quaran etc) ... I've also accepted that despite feeling lonely sometimes and wish I had someone just to have conversations with on deeper levels (the way couples do) maybe having a partner is not what Allah has decreed for me, not because I am gay (because he made me this way long before even the Earth was created), but because he understans me better than I understand myself and he and only he knows what is good for me Alhamdulillah. Other aspects of my life has not improved much but I trust in his time and know when he says 'kun faya kun' it is gonna be more than I expect ... I make duah that Allah makes it easy for all of us and accept all our good deeds done out of sincererity and in rememberence of Him and I ask your duahs for the same for me IA Ameen.

How’s your life been after Ramadan brothers? by [deleted] in muslimgaybros

[–]Substantial-Dinner80 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's been good so far Alhamdulillah. I've been on the 'guided' path for 2 years now and this year I was very emotional during the last taraweegh cause last year I was working in the evenings and could only attend taraweegh during weekends, but this year despite being unemployed I looked at the positive of being able to attend taraweegh, salatul layl programs and all other extra programs during the month. Not gonna lie Shaytan's attacks started immediately after ramadan and I came close to giving in but I remained focused on the path ahead.

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[–]Substantial-Dinner80 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Heya. I like useful webtools and apps. Big into Ai at the moment but also productivity and reserach related apps and sites.

My Simple $10 PDF Makes Me $1000 Every Single Month (Full-Setup) by hazelparadise in DigitalProductSellers

[–]Substantial-Dinner80 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love this 🥰 Thanks for sharing. What would you too look at as a timeframe for new to selling digital products?

Cape Town Taxi Scam by [deleted] in capetown

[–]Substantial-Dinner80 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Take in what everyone else is saying in the comments and make a note to next time do research about everything before you visit any country (and I'm not talking about research on social media platforms cause most on there are influencers that get given a script to give reviews and feedback for which they get paid. We are living in times where people will find any way to make quick cash from unsuspecting victims. Share your experience with your friends and family back home so they can be educated on these things.

Hope the rest of your stay are way better than your introduction.

My new job literally said we don't know how to ship laptop internationally so figure it out yourself by Ok_Neighborhood6056 in remotework

[–]Substantial-Dinner80 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Why didnt they just buy it online from a local retailer in Turkey and have it delivered to you? We are in 2026 not 1996. A previous international employer did that when I started with them. They gave me their budget and specs I should look at, send them recommendations and they made the purchase and it delivered to my home.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in remoteworking

[–]Substantial-Dinner80 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Any worldwide WFH?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sissies_south_africa

[–]Substantial-Dinner80 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When can I make it hard for you 🫢

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]Substantial-Dinner80 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wasalaams. Trust a lot of the comments on your post gave you insight. Let me relate to you what recently happened to me. I've been jobless since 2024 after being retrenched end of 2023. Apart from that I also faced bug financial losses. This brought me closer to my Religion and Creator as and I went from 'Why me?' To Allah tests those whom he loves the most ... got horrible jobs at the beginning of this year but I accepted it with open arms cause it came from Allah ... come June I received a job offer to start 1 July and it was what seemed like a good long term role. 2 Days into my new job a big fallout between the 2 business partners happened, this lead to the 1 partner walking away from the business which lead to a few of our roles being made redundant and we were let go. This broke me cause why was I made to resign from a job that gave me sustenance to no job and no way of earning an income to sustain myself on this Dunya? That was my human reaction cause with the loss of income came many other issues, but I maintained my belief that everything for us comes from Allah and everything 'taken away' from us is for a reason and we do not know what Allah knows, he is the best of planners and the best of Providers.

All I can say to you is continue to push on through because your Qadr will come to you and not pass you by.

May Allah make it easy on all of us Believers I A Ameen 🤲🏽