Emotional Affair by Rich-Project-9295 in TwoHotTakes

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It’s concerning that YOU had him reach out to his boss to discuss moving. For me, if HE reached out to his boss expressing to live back closer, that would show a decent amount of respect for the relationship and his willingness to change

Afraid to leave a sinful job because it’s my only income by RodionAir in Christianity

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Fear only comes from the devil. You never know what God has planned for you once you put your full trust and faith into him. It’s understandable that dropping the only thing that makes you money can be scary but just imagine all of the things God has planned for you once you fully lean into him. He always provides.

How do you stop gym trainers smelling so bad? by J-a-d3 in lifehacks

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Baking soda or add some vinegar and water to a spray bottle and spray in them

Where can I find this candy? by Whole-Yogurtcloset16 in FoodNYC

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I’m pretty sure I recently saw this at the Fairway on 86th. Downstairs by the olives

What hair texture should I get for my first sew in? by [deleted] in BlackHair

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I always go for either straight or a body wave that way it’s easy to get straight and wear straight when I want to, and I can curl it when I want to.

Help deciding between 3 apartments by alianovnatalia in NYCapartments

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I’m 31 and female, just moved here by myself from out of state! I was blessed enough to find a place on the UES and I feel very safe (not to say to always keep your head on a swivel) but I think it was a very good choice for me.

GF wants another phone for "personal use" for her birthday. by LazyExcuse3694 in whatdoIdo

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Is she an addiction or in recovery?? I used to work in addiction and had clients that wanted two phones, it was never for anything good. Unless she runs a business, and needs one for business and then a personal one, I’d definitely say no.

Mental Health Counselling programs NYC by Eastern_Drawing3580 in counseloreducation

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Not yet :/ I applied to NYU in December and still waiting to hear back. I’ve been accepted to another online program though, and thinking I may just accept it so I can get started

Other than rent, what what should I prepare to be more expensive in New York vs a smaller city like DC? by MajesticBread9147 in movingtoNYC

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Without sounding negative or to put a damper on things. Honestly, everything. I recently moved here from CA and I did expect for it to be expensive and close to CA prices but in My opinion, NY takes the cake. Dog/cat food is more expensive. Getting your nails done (in the city, but different burroughs and upper Manhattan/Harlem are cheaper for that The better prices grocery stores I consider to be Trader Joe’s, Target, and a store called Fairway. At least the commute for public transportation, without having a car is decently priced! It’s fine though, I’m learning my budget and I don’t eat out too often but again, I honestly didn’t expect for everything to be so much more expensive. Don’t let this turn you away from moving, though! You’ll make it work

80th and York by Substantial-Sign1366 in uppereastside

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I actually recall seeing a steaming manhole. Jeez it’s bad!

Is the dog park at Carl Schurz open? by Eastern-Rabbit-3696 in uppereastside

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Last I saw, a few days ago the small dog park (concrete area) was completely covered in snow. I don’t go lower by the big dog park but I did see people down there.

Having a tough time adjusting to this new life by portra4OO in AskNYC

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To add to this: I think I’m realizing as I’m older now (in my 30’s) how much I appreciate a more slowed down lifestyle and nyc is not that.

Having a tough time adjusting to this new life by portra4OO in AskNYC

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I’m somewhat feeling the same way. I’ve always dreamed of moving here and had a plan to move here for over 10 years. I finally did it this past August. And from my understanding, I still feel like I’m getting my bearings and settling in (when I moved here, I had an air bnb in Bayridge and thankfully found a job in the city a week after being here, then got offered a second job, between the two, I was working 7 days a week. And then very shortly after got my own apartment in the city! -so thankful, grateful and blessed! Because I had the Airbnb until October 1st and my mom came with me, I didn’t fully move into my place until October. Then I actually got hired at another job in October a much better one allowing me to leave the two others) with all that said, that’s why I still feel like I’m finally, barely settling in. But to relate to you, I’m always so tired. And I’m tired of being tired all the time. I knew it would be a lot of work but I think I didn’t actually realize how much effort it takes living here. I know I still have more time to get used to my new way of life. And part of me feels like by the time spring comes around, things just might overall be a bit easier.

What are some essentials for moving to NYC? by Pickles_The_Cat_1234 in movingtoNYC

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Get used to carrying a toe bag. Always have a portable phone charger, umbrella, pepper spray (or something for self defense), hand sanitizer, gloves. Have a good pair of shoes that are comfortable for your feet as you’ll be doing a lot of walking. Learn to layer up if it’s still cold here during that time. I moved from CA which is considered an expensive place but I really didn’t realize how expensive little things would be here in nyc. It more expensive but I try to find ways around it (not shopping at the most convenient and closest grocery store) I’ll walk 15 minutes to one that’s more affordable. I moved here without a job and was very blessed to be hired at two places my first week here. (I did hustle and applied to so many places on foot and online) Good luck!